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My Toddler Stopped Sleeping Through The Night

I'm going to need a glass of vino after this week!
I don’t know what is going on with my kid these days.
(I think that is something most toddler momma’s have said before, right?)
He has been a champion sleeper from almost Day 1. We decided that it was best for our family if he slept in his own crib the moment we came home from the hospital, so he has never known anything different. He began sleeping through the night by six weeks old (don’t hate me!) and we have had blissful REM cycles as a family since. We have a great bedtime routine of bathtime, jammies, a story or two, then prayers before my husband and I both tuck him in with a kiss. It’s a very sweet family time but lately, my toddler has been screwing it up.
The sleep screw-up started at Christmas when he was awake a little longer than usual. My kid is a stickler for his schedule and we threw him off completely with candlelight services and late family dinners. After three days of WILD! PARTY! SANTA! TODDLER! FUN! he started hollering the moment we shut his nursery door for the night. Not the upset or sad or terrified cry, but rather the angry rants of a two-year-old pissed that the fun was over. Mostly, we opened the door to double-check he was safe and ignored the behavior. A few times, I had to go in with my momma voice and tell him to get back in bed, where I re-tucked the blankets around him.
Then he started waking up in the middle of the night. At first, we thought it was a fluke. Now we have a rather “organic” wake-up call at 2am. We wait a minute to see if it’s just the still-asleep-bad-dream cry, but then I go in. A hug, make sure he’s okay, tuck him back in. Rub his chest for a few minutes, sing a lullaby. This used to be the “magic potion” for getting him back to dreamland but these days, he just stares back with wide eyes. So then we are up for several hours in the wee morning.
It is not that I’m complaining about having time with my kiddo – in fact, those tiny hours are very sweet with rocking & hugs. But we (my husband, myself, and the toddler) are tired and the adults have jobs to perform during the daylight. And honestly, if I wanted to be up rocking at 2am, I would have another infant. Sleeping through the night and having an excuse to eat Goldfish is a perk of parenting a toddler and my kid is messing up the status quo.
P.S. I ordered him the turtle thing that shoots off constellations as something to keep his room bright and give him something to do should he wake up at 2am.
P.P.S. Anyone else have a toddler go on sleep strike? What did you do about it?
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Rici commented on Jan 11 12 at 1:36 pmOh mercy, been there done that! After 3 months of it we are finally back to almost normal. We eventually had to let her cry it out and usually after about 15 minutes of that T would go back to sleep. And now, we haven’t had a 12 or 1 or 2 wake up call in a few weeks. Wait, except for the ones coming from her 2 1/2 mth old sister…haha!
jess liv commented on Jan 11 12 at 1:40 pmmaybe he’s just prepping you for when you guys decide to add a baby into the mix … you go, harry, being super considerate like that.
& this might be super obvious/something you’ve already tried, but is his bed comfy enough?
hopefully he’ll start sleeping through the night again soon — i know i can’t function without sleep & i don’t even have a toddler to chase around.
becca @ just one more trip commented on Jan 11 12 at 1:50 pmwe went through this with our two year old just a few months ago (he’s a may baby if that helps). it lasted about three weeks. he’d get out of bed right when we tucked him in – multiple times. i read somewhere to try taking away his favorite stuffed animal as a consequence; if they stay in bed for a while after the second or third occurrence, take the stuffed animal back in. we tried it and it worked.
as for middle of the night wakings? he’d do that too. around midnight and then again around 2. one of us would go in and tuck him back in and say a prayer. that would usually be enough for him and he’d fall back asleep.
here’s hoping this is just a stage for you too. it was awful for the few weeks that it lasted but for the last few months, we haven’t had a problem with it all. best wishes!
Rachel commented on Jan 11 12 at 2:46 pmYes!!! The holidays messed us up too! Now ours just won’t go to sleep. Gone are the days of him laying next to mommy and clutching sponge bob, until he drifts off to sleep. Now he refuses. If we were at home, we’d shut the door and leave, but right now we are living with my MIL to help her get through the death of FIL. So we all sleep in the giant finished basement. So basically he can walk out of bed and walk upstairs and open the door and say HI GUYS!
Wendy commented on Jan 11 12 at 3:35 pmPayback for him sleeping throught he night at 6 weeks! NO FAIR! OR maybe it’s God’s way of getting you prepared for a baby :)
Courtnay commented on Jan 11 12 at 3:36 pmhave you thought about food issues? wheat sugar artificial colours and preservatives (specificially nitrates, nitrites and sulphites) are all common sources of this…
Selena Mae commented on Jan 11 12 at 4:00 pmWe went through (are going through) this too. Various reasons may have all or nothing to with it. Its all, after all a guessing game, right? However. We think it may have to do with molar teething (he’s always cut his teeth at night). Also, not coincidentally, it all began pretty much the day we came from the hospital with his little sister. So. We too have the turtle…which he adores. We also have sleepless nights. Which we don’t adore. Harumph. Me & wine? We’re like THIS. *Fist to fist* Speaking of which….is it 5′o’clock yet? Oh wait I work from home…
Melissa commented on Jan 11 12 at 5:38 pmMy 3 yo still struggles with sleeping through the night. She actually just started not waking up at least once since infancy. However, I’m THAT mom who cherishes her sleep completely and turns on the TV in my daughter’s room for her to watch as she goes back to sleep. (Yep, she’s 3 with a TV and goes to sleep with it. I’ll take my mommy lashes. ;) LOL) Or if she wakes up after 3am, I put her in the bed with us and we all go on to sleep…. Good Luck! Hope it doesn’t last too much longer.
Melissa commented on Jan 11 12 at 6:07 pmMy 2.5 year old daughter did this for quite a while, we got her a night light and it helped for a little while then all hell broke loose again. That was when I made her up a bed on the floor in our room because I needed some damn sleep, and after a while she realized her bed was a lot more comfy. Haven’t had many issues since then.
Crystal Marin commented on Jan 12 12 at 7:39 amI’m having the same problem with my 3y/o.. she wakes up @ 10am and sleeps @ 11:45 and I am a very tired momma especially with a 7month who crawls and have to wake up at 5am to pack lunch for my husband… what can I do to get her to Sleep early and throughout the night… last night she slept with her portable dvd player @ 11:50pm and woke up crying @ 3:30am! I’m very tired and need tips on getting her to sleep! So please help!!
Erin commented on Jan 12 12 at 2:19 pmI’m am currently having the same problem with my 2-year old. She was sleeping through the night at pretty much 3 months old, but since the Holidays she has been a wreck to get to bed, and then when she does go to bed, she wakes up at like 3am and makes sure mommy and daddy (who has to get up at 5am for work) wake up with her! It’s all I can do to get her to go back tobed, but I found the thing that is working for us, but it probably won’t work for everyone. If I let ou dog up in bed with her she crashes right back out. So for the past couples weeks, I’ve just been letting the dog in bed with her from the start and so far no more 3am wake up calls.
Candice commented on Jan 18 12 at 12:56 pmGoogle “sleep regressions.” I don’t know how old your son is, but toddlers have a few of them. We just went through the 18/19 month sleep regression and now, at 20 months, my son is once again sleeping straight thru the night, 12 hours, no problems, no waking. It just happens and usually fixes itself after a couple of weeks.
Delia commented on Jan 18 12 at 1:12 pmI could have written this word for word…right down to the part about being awake for 2 hours. Mine isn’t all calm and staring. He’s pissed. Pissed that we’re not as excited to be awake as he is! I’ve tried quite a few things, and so far…he’s still waking 3-4 times each night and we still practice hosting a WWIII battlefield in our house each night before bed. My new idea: sleep on his floor for a few nights, then we’re going to start working on a “time” system. I’m going to sit in there for 10 min, then 7, then 5, etc. I hope it works. If it doesn’t…he’ll be an only child for good.
Amanda @ The Lungos commented on Jan 18 12 at 1:17 pmMy 2 year old is doing the exact thing except he wakes up and comes in our room and wants “nuggles” which means a) I get up and take him in his room and suggle/rock him until he goes back to sleep or b) i pull his tank like heater body into bed and snuggle him. Neither are ideal options because option a takes for-ev-er and option b puts a 35 pound flailing boxer in a queen bed with 2 adults and no one rests well.
If you find a solution PLEASE share it with a sleep deprived mama.
Erin commented on Jan 18 12 at 1:24 pmHenry’s the same age as Harrison and just went through a stage like this for a good 5-6 weeks. Waking up numerous times a night crying for seemingly no reason!! So frustrating. We got him the teach me time clock that lights up green when he can get up, and we also introduced a sticker chart, and he gets a sticker if he stays in bed and sleeps all night. Both have been working wonders for us.
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