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Teen Suspended for Wearing Confederate Flag Sweatshirt: Fair?

Symbol of the South? Or racist banner?
The Confederate flag is a symbol of different things to different people. To many white Southerners, it represents their genteel, Antebellum past; black Americans often view the Confederate flag as a threat, a reminder of a time when their people were enslaved. Bearing that in mind, should children be allowed to wear items emblazoned with the Confederate flag to school?
That’s the question that was raised by school officials in East Windsor, NJ, after they suspended a student for being uncooperative about removing a sweatshirt with the Confederate flag on the front. Kreps Middle School assistant principal Jermaine Blount called Jane West, mother to eighth-grader Torri Albrecht, to tell her that several teachers and students complained about the sweatshirt Albrecht was wearing. In reality, only one staff member had complained.
There is some splitting of hairs about whether or not Albrecht was suspended for refusing to take the sweatshirt off (she says it reminds her of her home state of Virginia) or if she was suspended for the way in which she refused to take the sweatshirt off. Regardless, West says “she wants the school to formally apologize to her daughter, rescind her suspension and grant the teen permission to attend school outside the district,” NJ.com reports.
West plans to withdraw her daughter from Kreps, as she says Albrecht has been consistently targeted by school officials, first for wearing an I Heart Boobies bracelet, then for her Halloween costume, and now for this sweatshirt. That leads me to wonder if it’s the shirt the one staff member had a problem with or if it’s the child wearing it he or she can’t stand.
My daughter is only in first grade (and she started kindergarten late), and in just a few months in the public school system I can already see how one or two children in each class get labeled early on as “problem kids” and are then scapegoated for the rest of the year, in a sense bullied by their own teachers. I can’t totally imagine how hard it is to teach 20-30 students all day and having to deal with one or two who are disruptive. But I do know what it’s like to have a 6-year-old with a pooping problem, and I know that if I only view her as “the kid who poops her pants all the time,” I’m not giving her credit for or encouraging all of her other wonderful qualities. Being constantly told “you are the problem” is maybe what turns kids into problem children.
That issue aside, let’s talk about the sweatshirt itself. Is it okay to wear a Confederate flag sweatshirt to school? That depends largely on whether or not you or those around you see the symbol as racist or a threat. I think probably the best way to handle a problem like this is to calmly explain to the student exactly why others might feel the shirt is inappropriate. These are referred to as “teachable moments” for a reason, no? I wonder if any of the staff who addressed the issue at Kreps took the time to say to Albrect, “We understand you see this flag as a symbol of your home state of Virginia, but other students might feel you’re being supremacist.”
I can’t help but think of an incident that took place last November at Denair Middle School in California where a student was asked to remove the American flag from the back of his bike so as to avoid racial tension. How would an American flag cause racial tension, you ask? According to the Superintendent, “Our Hispanic, you know, kids will, you know, bring their Mexican flags and they’ll display it, and then of course the kids would do the American flag situation, and it does cause kind of a racial tension which we don’t really want.”
Right.
Or we could all just take pride in our heritage and move on, yeah?
Of course, it’s not that simple when your heritage involves slavery.
Hrmph.
The thing is, this story isn’t just about Torri Albrecht and the school officials who have been harassing her. This story also involves Albrecht’s mother, Jane West. Jezebel ran their take on this news with the headline Mom Defends Daughter’s Inalienable Right to Wear Racist Shirt to School. That sort of says it all. Per First Amendment rights, should Albrecht be allowed to wear a sweatshirt saying absolutely anything at all? Sure. As long as it complies with the school’s dress code, “which bans any attire that creates a significant disturbance,” according to NJ.com. One adult complaining about a shirt is not “a significant disturbance,” so unless others complained, Albrecht should have been left alone, at least on a technicality.
But should West have known better than to dress her daughter in a sweatshirt that has the potential to create such controversy? Probably. I’ll admit that I had a magnet on my fridge (that I got years ago while touring the South with a show) that bore the Confederate flag. When my man-friend (who is black) saw it for the first time this summer, he said, “What the f*ck is that?” I said, “Oh, I got it in South Carolina or something. I bought it because I thought it was hilarious that these are still all over the South.” And then I threw it away immediately. He tried to stop me, saying it was no big deal, and I countered with the same response. “No, it’s fine,” I said. “I’ll throw it away.” Then we shrugged it off and moved on.
Maybe Albrecht should have been so courteous and compliant.
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CW commented on Nov 17 11 at 12:48 pmThese kinds of situations are why I firmly believe that public schools ought to require uniforms like most private schools do. Offer a variety of acceptable clothing options so that students get some freedom of choice. But make them solid colors with no writing or images and above all, MODEST.
LS commented on Nov 17 11 at 12:58 pmIf we are just discussing the issue of the confederate flag – not the way that the situation was handled – I would say that it is inappropriate to wear the Confederate flag.
It carries so much meaning to me – so much painful meaning. In this case, we have a story of intent (it reminded her of her home state), but how do I know the intent of the person wearing the flag? Do they wear it because they visited a historical site…or because they agree with those who would see my family lynched? It bothers me to see it in public. You want to wear it at home, that’s your right. But in public…no. It means too much.
Bunnytwenty commented on Nov 17 11 at 1:13 pmAre there seriously people who don’t understand that the confederate flag is a racist symbol???
carolyncastiglia commented on Nov 17 11 at 1:55 pmAt BunnyTwenty – yes. It’s ALL OVER the South.
LS commented on Nov 17 11 at 2:01 pmCarolyn is right – there are people who seriously don’t think it’s racist. Its maddening, but true.
Ashley commented on Nov 17 11 at 2:03 pmI’m torn on this. My husband has a long line of family who came from the south (including his father who died when my husband was very young), so the confederate flag has some familial meaning to him. But he’s not the least bit racist (doesn’t use racial epithets, doesn’t treat African Americans differently, has never expressed a belief in any sort of racial superiority). He owns one t-shirt and a few small items with the flag on them. This bugs me to no end because I am aware of its historical meaning and that many people are offended by it. We’ve had to compromise about it’s presence in our home; all confederate flag items stay in his game room.
As far as this particular story goes, I think the suspension may have been overkill considering there was only one complaint made and it was by a teacher. But the school can set and enforce reasonable dress code standards. The student and her mother should have complied when she was asked to change shirts.
Hollie commented on Nov 17 11 at 2:14 pmThe Confederate flag is not a racist symbol. It has been used as such by certain organizations but when you get down to the heart of the matter it means a lot more than that to us in the South. It’s history and heritage and all kinds of other things that make us proud. Not just something that, regardless of popular opinion, most of us down here are ashamed of. I am of Native Ametican descent and my people were also slaves and suffered horrible things. The thing is I wasn’t a slave and none of the people complaining were either. I think it’s time to get over all this and move on. Do my kids wear clothing with Confederate flags on them? No. Do I think others shouldn’t be able to wear them. No. As long as there was nothing hateful or racist written on the shirt she should have been left alone. However, the girl should have removed to sweatshirt when asked out of respect.
Pikachu commented on Nov 17 11 at 2:32 pmIf someone doesn’t know that the Confederate flag is a racist symbol (the flag itself is just that, a flag) they’re either a. stupid b. oblivious or c. racist. There are no other options. Some people think that swastikas are just ancient art. They are also stupid, oblivious or racist. And the racist stupid brat should have taken the sweatshirt off when asked and the mom should apologize to the school, the world! for letting her daughter, in fact encouraging her daughter to wear a racist symbol. Shame on both of them.
goddess commented on Nov 17 11 at 2:40 pmThe Original Meaning
The word “swastika” comes from the Sanskrit svastika – “su” meaning “good,” “asti” meaning “to be,” and “ka” as a suffix.
Until the Nazis used this symbol, the swastika was used by many cultures throughout the past 3,000 years to represent life, sun, power, strength, and good luck.
Even in the early twentieth century, the swastika was still a symbol with positive connotations. For instance, the swastika was a common decoration that often adorned cigarette cases, postcards, coins, and buildings. During World War I, the swastika could even be found on the shoulder patches of the American 45th Division and on the Finnish air force until after World War II.
Manjari commented on Nov 17 11 at 4:07 pmConfederate flag shirts should not be allowed in school. I see plenty of swastikas when I visit family in India, and I know that they mean something far different and more positive than what they later came to stand for. But I’m really ok with not wearing swastikas and I don’t think that should be allowed in school either. If you have some (supposedly not racist) emotional attachment to the confederate flag, you can indulge that at home.
yahoudi commented on Nov 17 11 at 4:26 pmI wouldn’t wear swastikas either, since they have no positive meaning as they do for the Hindi. But if my pentacle were usurped for nefarious purposes, you would not be able to dissuade me from wearing it anyway.
The Confederate Flag to me is far too closely associated with the evil institutional practice of slavery. It was not usurped by Southerners- it was created by them, and used as a symbol of the many things they fought to preserve in the Civil war, including slavery. Insofar as that is true, you cannot separate their inherent message FROM slavery. I support the school’s actions. As long as she was given a chance to change, or turn it inside out before suffering discipline, they are in the clear n my opinion.
Sara commented on Nov 17 11 at 5:17 pmIt doesn’t matter what the reason was it was breaking the dress code and when she threw a tantrum and refused to change she was suspended. The same thing would have happened if her skirt was too short or if she was wearing a gang symbol. The courts have ruled OVER and OVER again that the schools have the right to control how kids dress unless it fits into a few specific categories (such as clothing mandated by religious practice), They were completely in their rights to tell her to remove the sweatshirt and completely in the right to suspend her when she became belligerent.
Natalie commented on Nov 17 11 at 7:18 pmAlthough students certainly have First Amendment rights like everyone else, these rights are not absolute. Schools can censor speech/expression that may cause a disturbance at the school, are true threats, etc. Courts have already ruled against students on this issue and the U.S. Supreme Court declined to take up the matter leaving the lower court’s decision in favor of the schools disciplining students who refuse to remove this type of symbolic speech in place. http://www.askthejudge.info/is-wearing-the-confederate-flag-to-school-protected-symbolic-speech/227/
Bunnytwenty commented on Nov 18 11 at 9:34 am“If you have some (supposedly not racist) emotional attachment to the confederate flag, you can indulge that at home.”
Yup. If nothing else, it’s just good manners. And if you refuse to keep it to yourself because it’s just too too much for people of color to ask of you not to wear it… well, then, you may be a racist after all.
Sam commented on Nov 18 11 at 1:02 pmThen they better start banning crosses! And holiday decorations because if you do any research some holidays and there traditions are drenched in things that are offensive. Equal rights for ALL…. Thank God we live in America and Freedom of speech along with dressing the way you want is allowable!!!!! Of course you MUST be following the rules and laws. Unfortunately for you kid, if the school rules state the Confederate flag not be worn, then you can’t wear it… now if it says “offensive” fight to make people stick to that rule regardless of what it is…….. what a bunch of crap this is.
Hallie commented on Nov 18 11 at 2:04 pmI would like to take the time to thank the creators of babble and all of the the writers/bloggers/readers/commentators. This community consistently challenges my preconceived thoughts, opinions, and beliefs. Just reading through the comments on this one post, I’ve reexamined my stance three times :). Thanks fellow babblers for your thoughtful remarks and for helping me grow, think, and remain open-minded.
carolyncastiglia commented on Nov 18 11 at 7:20 pmThanks, Hallie. Much appreciated. I forwarded to the team.
Leyla commented on Nov 20 11 at 10:20 ami think people need to get the heck over themselves and stop the “offensive” crap.
was it a lynyrd skynyrd shirt? does that change the context? does it even really matter in the grand scheme of things?
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