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Five Lessons Learned from a Mom on Food Stamps

Posted by Katherine Stone on November 15th, 2011 at 9:25 am
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The US Census Bureau now considers the impact of food stamps on the poverty rate.

At the grocery store I frequent, I don’t often see people in line with food stamps. In fact, I don’t think I ever have. I’d like to think I know how I’d behave if I did, which is to say it wouldn’t matter to me one whit, but then again I haven’t been in the situation, so how can I know for sure? Would I form an opinion about what items an individual was buying with the stamps? Would I wonder why they were using food stamps in the first place? Would I be annoyed if it made me wait longer in line?

I just loved this blog post from Dresden Plaid at her blog Creating Motherhood titled, “Food Stamp Etiquette: Human Kindness.” Dresden writes about some of the judgment and shame she experienced when utilizing this program to buy food to feed her own family.

Dresden shares five important lessons learned from using food stamps over the last two years, a program for which she now no longer qualifies. One is the concept that “food stamp chic” is offensive. She writes:

“I can’t tell you how awful it is to see someone writing about their creative menu planning for the month and saying it is an homage to the sort of budgeting that one has to/should do while on food stamps. There are tons of sites that dedicate posts to ‘food stamp challenges’ or ‘snap challenges’ and while I get the desire to create a challenge for yourself or your own family, at the end of the day if you need to buy one more carton of milk beyond your budget chances are that you can.”

More than 44 million Americans — or 12% of all American households — use the Supplemental Nutrition Assistance Program (SNAP), formerly known as food stamps.  The number keeps rising with no end in sight to the country’s economic troubles. According to the Carsey Institute, single parents like Dresden have some of the highest need for this benefit: “In 2010, 42% of single mothers and 25% of single fathers relied on SNAP; in rural places, the rate was as high as one in two single mothers.”

The average monthly SNAP benefit for a household in 2010 was $289.61, which comes out to about ten dollars a day. For a family. That’s not much. Consider that the American Farm Bureau says the average cost of a Thanksgiving meal this year is $49.20.

On this week before Thanksgiving, when everyone is focused on menus and traditional food items and shopping lists, I am so appreciative that Dresden shared her experience and her wisdom. Visit her blog and read her five points of food stamp etiquette. The subject is one I hadn’t thought a lot about until she shared her experience, so she helped opened my eyes to something that can happen to anyone at any time.

 

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28 Comments

This was such a great blog post – I hope we can all get into the spirit of humility and kindness this holiday season. And Thanksgiving is next week. Next Week! I swore it crept up on us so fast this year!

LS commented on Nov 15 11 at 10:44 am

What a great post. I have seen people paying with a food stamp benefit card not only at the regular supermarket, but also at Whole Foods. You would not believe what I have personally heard other moms saying about that — the judgment about other people’s “food choices” is so stupid and condescending.

michelle commented on Nov 15 11 at 11:26 am

“At the grocery store I frequent, I don’t often see people in line with food stamps. In fact, I don’t think I ever have.”
Are you sure? It’s just a card you swipe.

Lisa commented on Nov 15 11 at 12:54 pm

Good point Lisa. Maybe I do and I just am unaware.

Katherine Stone commented on Nov 15 11 at 12:57 pm

Really- because a cashier at a local store swipes our cards- and some have nearly $800.00 for the month- food only.

goddess commented on Nov 15 11 at 12:58 pm

“Food stamps” I am pretty sure are meant to *help* or supplement a family’s food budget, so, $289 a month is a pretty good supplement. I could feed my family of 3 on this, without a doubt. I think a bigger issue is the broader system in which such a high percentage of families on on this kind of assistance. The “powers that be” should be working to make the economy such that this isn’t needed…you know, jobs, industry, stuff like that. To me, feeding people in America should be no big deal. With, what, 30% of the population obese or overweight, it’s not something that seems like it should be a big concern.

Suzie commented on Nov 15 11 at 1:08 pm

I don’t understand your logic. Because thirty percent of Americans are obese we shouldn’t be spending taxpayer dollars on SNAP?

Kelly commented on Nov 15 11 at 1:24 pm

Yeah, cause you know, those overweight people, they can live without food for, like, years. *rolls eyes*

Also, your location is a huge factor in how much food costs. Maybe you could feed a family of three for a month on less than three hundred bucks, but here, where even hamburger is almost five bucks a pound, that’s impossible.

Mergath commented on Nov 15 11 at 8:02 pm

You know what, when I see a mom in 7-11 buying AriZona iced “tea,” Cheetos, Coke, San Pellegrino sparkling water and pretzels with her Link card?: Yeah, I make a judgement about that. None of those things are necessary, nor are they even actual food (“food product,” I’ll give you that). If you’re in enough trouble that you need someone else to help you pay for food, fine — it happens. None of those things listed above should be paid for by taxpayer money. Every single one is either crap or a luxury (sparkling water). Yup, I make judgements. I wish our lawmakers would, too.

ChiLaura commented on Nov 16 11 at 12:09 am

Thank you for posting this.

anon commented on Nov 16 11 at 3:34 am

I believe that SNAP, like WIC, should have restrictions on what food may be purchased with it. Fruits and vegetables (fresh, frozen, or canned in 100% juice), low-fat dairy or unsweetened soy/almond/rice milk, unprocessed lean meats/poultry/fish, beans, no-sugar-added nut butters, eggs, 100% whole-grain bread/tortillas/pasta/rice, cereal with no more than 3 grams of sugar per serving, and other healthy foods. No junk food or beverages!

CW commented on Nov 16 11 at 5:58 am

Like CW I think there should be restrictions also. I worked as a cashier at a large store around Easter. People were able to use their food stamp cards to buy the huge Easter baskets because ‘they had food in them’. I was shocked to see that it actually went through. It actually pissed me off to see that the money being taken out of my check to provide food stamps for people was being used on Easter baskets. I think food stamps should resort back to the stamps, or use coupons like WIC which have restrictions on the tickets. I don’t see how a case of pop and a giant bag of chips is a ‘necessity’, I think people should not be allowed to buy prepared meals either (the frozen tv dinners). I think they need to reevaluate the whole system of SNAP also. I don’t see how people can afford to buy cigarettes, beer, have expensive cell phones, have their nails professionally done, can afford to buy their kids all kinds of toys, and buy video games, but can’t afford to buy food? Yea…I’m thinking they need to get their priorities straight. This is just my opinion after watching people use food stamps and see how they used them and spent their other money.

Hailey commented on Nov 16 11 at 9:42 am

I don’t think states use ‘food stamps’ anymore. I thought most have switched over to a card, similar to a debit card?

There are no requirements on what you can buy with SNAP benefits like there are with WIC. However, I think there is also an assumption about the quality of food available in some low income communities. If your closest ‘grocery’ store doesn’t sell fresh produce and you have no farmers market or Whole Foods, what do you do? I’m not saying this is the case for everyone who receives these benefits but I strongly dislike people telling poor people what they should be doing without taking into consideration the reality of some of their situations.

Laila @OnlyLaila commented on Nov 16 11 at 11:14 am

You don’t think those mini-markets would change their selection if SNAP benefits could only be used on healthy foods? Change the demand by limiting what SNAP can be used to pay for, and the suppliers would meet that demand. Plenty of healthy foods come in non-perishable forms. Okay, maybe 7-11 isn’t going to carry a wide selection of fresh produce, but they can stock canned & frozen fruits and veggies. That may not be as healthy as fresh-picked organic at the farmer’s market, but it’s a heck of a lot better than Cheetos.

CW commented on Nov 16 11 at 11:35 am

Aaaaaand the message of compassion is clearly lost on some people. sigh.

Bunnytwenty commented on Nov 16 11 at 1:14 pm

I think it’s pathetic that people would prefer to pay for an entire policing structure to be built in to the SNAP system just so they get some say in what poor people are eating. Seriously, you give a shit if someone buys drinks and snacks for their work day with their SNAP card? People who buy from overpriced vending machines at work are the only ones worthy of an iced tea and a bag of pretzels? Butt the hell out! You have to be pretty damn nosey to even notice what card people are using at the store.

Linda, t.o.o. commented on Nov 16 11 at 1:31 pm

“Seriously, you give a shit if someone buys drinks and snacks for their work day with their SNAP card?”

If it’s paid for with my family’s hard-earned tax dollars AND more of those dollars will have to go to pay for Medicaid costs when the individual eating cr*p gets sick? You betcha.

Don’t like the strings attached? Don’t take the handout!

The WIC program already has rules about what those benefits can be used to purchase- it really wouldn’t be that difficult to extend similar ones to SNAP.

CW commented on Nov 16 11 at 1:55 pm

“If it’s paid for with my family’s hard-earned tax dollars AND more of those dollars will have to go to pay for Medicaid costs when the individual eating cr*p gets sick? You betcha.” Are you under the delusion that your family isn’t served by the tax contributions of those wealthier than you are? Do you drive on public roads? Do your children attend public schools? Do they play in public parks? Do you use subsidized utilities (most are)? Libraries? Do you attend a place of worship that is exempt from paying taxes? Think about these things, then decide if you’d like to be micro managed in your use of each by anyone who pays more taxes than you. After all, fair is fair, right?

Linda, t.o.o. commented on Nov 16 11 at 2:58 pm

Aside from which, this woman’s blog post wsa about showing basic courtesy. Do you really believe that it’s okay to elevate yourself so much, that you treat total strangers with disdain?

Linda, t.o.o. commented on Nov 16 11 at 3:00 pm

Agree with every single thing Linda, t.o.o. is saying here.

Manjari commented on Nov 16 11 at 4:08 pm

SNAP isn’t the problem, it’s the fact that it is not focused on health that bothers me. People SHOULD NOT be able to buy soda, pastries and non-nutritious food with government money. Those items should be bought out of pocket.

Mel commented on Nov 16 11 at 4:14 pm

So CW–I don’t drive, but I pay taxes to maintain the roads. I think it’s disgusting that people are allowed to drive gas-guzzling, polluting cars. Seriously, this is MY tax money going towards the roads these people use, and I have to inhale their exhaust. If people are going to avail themselves of the government assistance (in the form of roads, street lights, etc.) they should only be allowed to drive electric cars. Don’t like the strings attached? Don’t drive on the road.
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See how ridiculous that sounds?

Katethree commented on Nov 16 11 at 5:07 pm

Comparing food stamps to infrastructure is nonsensical.

I find it funny that the same people who moan and complain about trans fats and high sodium and all the evils of modern food culture and “food deserts” are the same ones who defend the rights of “poor” people to eat and buy that crap on the government’s tax dollar (i.e., our dollars!). I don’t like government corn subsidies, and I like it even less that money is taken from me and given to other people so that they can buy food filled with those corn subsidies. That’s bad and gross and indefensible. I support help to people who need food, but the food they actually NEED is not corn chips, cookies and soda.

And call me nosy, but it’s not that hard to notice the big old “Link” emblazoned on a card that’s being used on the transaction directly in front of me.

ChiLaura commented on Nov 16 11 at 8:59 pm

If the government were providing me with free use of a vehicle, I’d have no right to complain that it’s a fuel-efficient Prius rather than a gas-guzzling Porsche Cayenne SUV. If I wanted the Cayenne rather than the Prius, then I’d need to pay for it myself…

CW commented on Nov 17 11 at 2:19 am

I agree wholeheartedly with what CW an chilaura said. My family does without the extras like coke and chips so we can afford the food we NEED.

Erin commented on Nov 18 11 at 11:16 am

You are only allowed to spend 25% of your allotment for snap on junk food anymore and repercussions will be set forth, which is different in each state, However I will add it is not being followed through . And retailers will turn there eyes to make sale percentages marks. Our government is controlled by these corporations so speak your mind with your dollar rather then for fast convenience and a few minutes of satisfaction .

Ren ripples commented on Nov 18 11 at 2:09 pm

The people for policing snap benifits are nuts. Pardon me for wanting to maybe give my kids a treat for their birthday when I honestly wouldn’t have been able to. Excuse me for not being DESERVING of a candy bar now and then just because I am unfortunate enough to have been unemployed, single, and with two children who hasn’t been able to find a job no matter how hard a try. I guarantee if you had to walk in my shoes you would change your minds.

Wren commented on Nov 18 11 at 8:15 pm

Like EVERY government subsidy, SNAP benefits are abused by some people. Not all, but some. Personally, I’ve been on food stamps, and depending on where you live, sometimes it is tough to live within the budget they give while providing adequate nutrition. Fresh produce can get expensive, milk is often expensive. It only bothers me when I realize they guy loading his groceries into the shiny new Escalade in the parking lot was the guy in front of me paying with an EBT card.

Jess commented on Dec 29 11 at 6:57 pm

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