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Can We All Agree to Stop Talking About Casey Anthony . . . Like, Right Now?

Posted by meredith carroll on July 18th, 2011 at 12:31 pm
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All the talk in the world won't bring Caylee back or send Casey to jail (for Caylee's murder, anyway)

Did you hear? Casey Anthony was found not guilty by a jury of her peers for the murder of her daughter, Caylee Anthony.

Did you hear? A lot of people think Casey Anthony got away with murder.

Did you hear? Casey Anthony got out of jail just after midnight on Sunday.

Because of the beauty of double jeopardy, Casey Anthony will never, ever rot in prison for the murder of Caylee (she could very well go to prison for murdering someone else, but we don’t have a crystal ball). And since that’s the case and nothing — nothing — will change it, let’s stop giving her more power than she deserves.

In other words, let’s stop talking about Casey Anthony. Like, right now.

Let’s stop talking about how she’s wearing her hair and what color shirt she wore on Monday. Let’s stop speculating about where she went and where she’ll live. Let’s stop talking about her parents and her uncle and her brother and who’s talking to whom and who’s being cut out of the family communication loop. Let’s stop talking about where her lawyer ate lunch. Let’s stop talking about how Casey will inevitably get paid a lot of money to lie about her side of the story, and how she’ll have to turn around and give much of that money to other people who are suing her for things like defamation of character and misleading search and rescue teams.

If I’ve learned one thing as a daughter and as a parent, it’s that it’s best to not acknowledge something or someone if you don’t want to give it or them more power.

There’s love, hate and indifference, right? Love and hate are equal on the passion scale. Indifference is just cold. Let’s agree to be cold and indifferent about all things Casey Anthony.

Let’s not love or hate her, or love to hate her. Let’s ignore her. Yes, she will likely be set for life. Yes, she will likely do some sort of celebrity bikini mud wrestling match with Tonya Harding sometime in the next couple of years. Yes, she will probably get pregnant again. There’s nothing we can do about it. But if we ignore her, chances are strong that she will not get a second round in the wrestling ring or a second book deal  (because, let’s face it, she will publish at least one book) or another appearance on a Jerry Springer-type show (you know she’ll end up somewhere like that, too, for the right price). And just maybe, if we ignore her, when she has that inevitable second baby, it will have a chance at living a full like because Casey can focus on being a mom instead of media whore.

We can ask book publishers not to give her any ink, or Lifetime not to make a movie about her. But if we keep talking about her, the interest will keep growing, as will her visibility and bank account and her feeling of self-importance. No matter how much we talk about Casey, Caylee’s not coming back and the right person will not go to prison for her death. So let’s just stop talking about Casey.

The power is ours. Let’s not give it to her.

The silence begins . . . now.

 

 Can We All Agree to Stop Talking About Casey Anthony . . . Like, Right Now?

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19 Comments

…so what you did was, you made one more post about Casey Anthony. The fourth I’ve seen today. So Babble gets to play both sides – feeding the frenzy around this woman and blaming everyone else for feeding the frenzy. Great.

But it’s a lot more fun to concentrate on how much we hate one woman who may or may not have killed one child than to concentrate on how our tax dollars kill kids in Afghanistan and Iraq every day, right? Or how kids are going hungry in America? There are REAL problems in this country right now that affect millions – when are you going to get started talking about those, instead of being part of the, “Hey, look over there! One bad crazy person! forget about systematic issues, there’s a bad person over there! Throw rocks at her!” media?

Bunnytwenty commented on Jul 18 11 at 12:59 pm

good luck getting people to stop talking about it when the media eats it up. Just like her lawyer said we have to respect the decision. That also will never happen.

whoopie commented on Jul 18 11 at 1:36 pm

I totally agree let’s not pay her anymore attention. She will pay for what she has done to her child, it’s out of our hands now. I feel like even though Casey is not in jail she is in prison in some sense I say that because she will NEVER EVER be able to live a normal life. Her prison time is and will be served out here in society each and everyday that she breathes she will never get a decent job. I don’t feel any thing for her she deserves what ever she gets in my opion.

angel henderson commented on Jul 18 11 at 1:54 pm

Meredith Carroll wants all the talk about Casey Anthony to end now… or rather end after she gets the last word in.

Meredith, do you understand that by keeping quiet, ending all conversation now, that a possible incestuous molestation is swept under the rug? Yes, I know, that was never proven… but guess what, he has not yet been taken to task about it. Casey was tried and adjudged “Not Guilty”. You, and others, are way too quick to condemn Casey and defend her father.
Do you not understand that MORE FATHERS RAPE THEIR DAUGHTERS THAN THERE ARE MOTHERS WHO KILL THEIR CHILDREN?

Picture this. George kills his granddaughter Caylee while he was molesting her, an accidental death. What would he do? How about throwing her dead body into the pool.

Or Alternatively, he molests 3 year old Caylee… then he panics, knowing that Caylee can “almost” talk now, or could otherwise show people what her “jo jo” done to her. He throws her into the pool still alive, where she drowns.

Either way, she is dead in the pool.

He then goes in and starts yelling at Casey, “Where is Caylee?”. A few minutes later he “finds” Caylee dead in the swimming pool. As the Defense said in opening, George then begins to scream at Casey, “Now look what you’ve done! Your mother will never forgive you! You will spend the rest of your life in prison for child neglect!”.

George screaming at Casey was presented in their opening statement, presumably that is what Casey told her attorney. They had no evidence of exactly how Caylee wound up in the pool, so they presented the accidental drowning.

Why dump the body instead of calling 911 to report an accidental drowning?
Well, George knows they would find his fluid in or on Caylee. He had killed her, either accidentally or intentionally, and he knew they would find out that he did it. Could this be the accident that “snow-balled out of control”?

The body decomposed and no evidence of the molestation remained.

Why didn’t Casey call 911? She probably didn’t know he father had actually killed Caylee… George screamed at her saying she would spend the rest of her life in prison for child neglect… and she probably believed him.

We don’t know who actually hid (dumped) the body, it could have been either one of them.

The duct tape, in my opinion, was only used to tape the top of the bag closed, and that would explain also how it came to be stuck to the hair (the top of her head at the top of the opening in the bag).

PopeyeBob commented on Jul 18 11 at 1:54 pm

Wow, you are brilliant! Your point was made with this one.

Echo3Hotel commented on Jul 18 11 at 2:01 pm

Just a junkie’s promise. How about instead of ones you’ve fully pulpified already, you vow not to endlessly flog future dead horses?

bob commented on Jul 18 11 at 2:05 pm

very true

nashy commented on Jul 18 11 at 2:31 pm

Here’s an idea: YOU stop talking about it. The rest of us will do as we please. If we want to continue to vilify someone who got away with a crime and either murdered her innocent child or, at VERY least, knows who did, we’ll keep doing that. Your uber-hip, so-over-it stance is something that no one but you is compelled to adopt. How about you and six or seven of your friends stop talking? Since that’s what most people mean when they say, “Why don’t WE do…”, that should take care of your problems and leave your bloglet clear for you to tell us all what else we can and can’t say. Sound like a plan?

Steve Body commented on Jul 18 11 at 2:42 pm

To that I say AMEN, SISTER.
Can we extend those thoughts to also include Nancy Grace and Jane Velez-Mirchell ? Change the channel, America ! It’s over now, there’s nothing more to see.

Methinks Alot commented on Jul 18 11 at 2:59 pm

POPEYE BOB
ARE YOU FROM THIS PLANET????????????????????????????

FRANK commented on Jul 18 11 at 3:00 pm

He’s definitely not from the moon, Frank. That much I’ve established.

bob commented on Jul 18 11 at 3:25 pm

I agree. Lets quit talking about CA. She’s not worth the time and PopeyeBod you’re an idiot. The 1st amendment gives us all the right to speak our minds including Meredith Carroll and yourself but I think it is irresponsible to vilify someone without any solid evidence at all, only speculation. At least that’s what the jury in the Anthony trial claimed.
I have a daughter that was molested by a grandfather. I don’t think you have any right to judge George Anthony. It is difficult to explain the denial one goes through when someone you love accuses someone else you love of something unthinkable. It not something you act on or recognize immediately and you are torn between the accusers. Although in the Anthony case the accuser has repeatedly and continues to lie. I hope you never have to experience such a horrific event in your life and go through the emotions this family had and continues to endure because of unfounded accusations such as yours.
Lets just drop the story so CA will go away. A proven murder has been swept under the rug.

Jill commented on Jul 18 11 at 4:10 pm

@ANGEL HENDERSON – Ummmmm. An internet savvy mom making a valiant effort to spare her child from the insidious, fell clutches of a sexually abusive grandfather is a mom that goes underground with her child. If same mom’s child dies accidentally before she can take that underground path, you won’t find her clubbing the night away in hedonistic fashion.

Noting that this article promotes what CA’s defense team turned promotional team wants -for acrimony to die down so that the now “too toxic” CA’s book, movie, or whatever other profit yielding deal, etc. can proceed. Ironic that an article calling for civility and reason is a double edged sword that also serves to help CA. Perhaps that is why the public is reticent to let it die down.

not quite commented on Jul 18 11 at 5:03 pm

I hear all, or most all, of you telling me where to put it. I hear you when you scream out the same exact thing Nancy Grace has and continues to scream. I only hope that some few of you will stop being led by the nose.

The BLOOD-LUST of NANCY GRACE!

Grace worked for nearly a decade in the Atlanta-Fulton County, Georgia District Attorney’s office as Special Prosecutor. Her work focused on felony cases involving serial murder, serial rape, serial child molestation, and arson.

Grace left the prosecutors’ office after the District Attorney she had been working under decided not to run for reelection.

Prosecutorial misconduct
The Supreme Court of Georgia has twice commented on Grace’s conduct as a prosecutor. First, in a 1994 heroin drug trafficking case, Bell v. State, the Court declared a mistrial, saying that Grace had “exceeded the wide latitude of closing argument” by drawing comparisons to unrelated murder and rape cases.

In 1997, the court was more severe, overturning the murder-arson conviction of businessman W. W. Carr in the death of his wife. While the court said its reversal was not due to these transgressions, since the case had turned primarily on circumstantial evidence, it nevertheless concluded “the conduct of the prosecuting attorney in this case demonstrated her disregard of the notions of due process and fairness, and was inexcusable.” Carr was freed in 2004 when The Georgia Supreme Court ruled unanimously that Fulton County had waited too long to retry him, thereby unfairly prejudicing his right to a fair trial.

Despite upholding the conviction she sought, a panel of the 11th Circuit Court of Appeals wrote in a 2005 opinion that Grace “played fast and loose” with her ethical duties and failed to “fulfill her responsibilities” as a prosecutor in the 1990 triple murder trial of Herbert Connell Stephens. The court agreed that it was “difficult to conclude that Grace did not knowingly use … [apparently false] testimony” from a detective that there were no other suspects, despite the existence of outstanding arrest warrants for other men.

Controversies
Suicide of interviewee Melinda Duckett
In 2006, 21-year-old Melinda Duckett committed suicide following an interview conducted by Grace concerning the disappearance of Duckett’s 2-year-old son Trenton.

Grace interviewed Duckett less than two weeks after the child went missing, questioning her for her alleged lack of openness regarding her son’s disappearance, asking Duckett “Where were you? Why aren’t you telling us where you were that day?” Duckett appeared confused and was unable to answer whether or not she had taken a polygraph test. When Grace asked her why she could not account for specific details, Duckett began to reply, “Because I was told not to,” to which Grace responded, “Ms. Duckett, you are not telling us for a reason. What is the reason? You refuse to give even the simplest facts of where you were with your son before he went missing. It is day twelve.” According to the CNN transcript, Duckett replied, ” with all media. It’s not just there, just all media. Period.” Grace then moved on to a media psychologist who asserted that Duckett was “skirting around the issue.”

The next day, before the airing of the show, Duckett shot herself, a death that relatives claim was influenced by media scrutiny, particularly from Grace. Speaking to The Orlando Sentinel, Duckett’s grandfather Bill Eubank said, “Nancy Grace and the others, they just bashed her to the end. She was not one anyone ever would have thought of to do something like this.”CNN has also been criticized for allowing the show to air in the wake of Duckett’s suicide. Police investigating the case had not named Melinda Duckett as a suspect in the case at the time, but after her suicide the police did say that, as nearly all parents are in missing-child cases, she was a suspect from the beginning.

In an interview on Good Morning America, Nancy Grace said in reaction to events that “If anything, I would suggest that guilt made her commit suicide. To suggest that a 15- or 20-minute interview can cause someone to commit suicide is focusing on the wrong thing.” She then said that, while she sympathized with the family, she knew from her own experience as a victim of crime that such people look for somebody else to blame.

While describing it as an “extremely sad development,” Janine Iamunno, a spokeswoman for Grace, said that her program would continue to follow the case as they had a “responsibility to bring attention to this case in the hopes of helping find Trenton Duckett.” Grace commented that “I do not feel that our show is to blame for what happened to Melinda Duckett. The truth is not always nice or polite or easy to go down. Sometimes it’s harsh, and it hurts.”

On November 21, 2006, thesmokinggun.com exposed pending litigation on behalf of the estate of Melinda Duckett, asserting a wrongful death claim against CNN and Grace. The attorney for the estate alleges that, even if Duckett did kill her own son, Grace’s aggressive questioning traumatized Duckett so much that she committed suicide. She also argues that CNN’s decision to air the interview after Duckett’s suicide traumatized her family. Trenton was never found.

On November 8, 2010, Grace reached a settlement with the estate of Melinda Duckett to create a $200,000 trust fund dedicated to locating Trenton. This settlement was reached a month before a jury trial was scheduled to start. According to the agreement, if the young boy is found alive before he turns 13, the remaining proceeds in the trust will be administered by a trustee – Trenton’s great-aunt Kathleen Calvert – until he turns 18 and the funds are transferred for his use. If Trenton is not found by his 13th birthday, or if he is found but is not alive, the funds will be transferred immediately to the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children. “We are pleased the lawsuit has been dismissed. The statement speaks for itself,” a spokeswoman for CNN said.

Duke lacrosse allegations
Grace took a vehemently pro-prosecution position throughout the 2006 Duke University lacrosse case, in which Crystal Gail Mangum, a stripper and North Carolina Central University student, falsely accused three members of Duke University’s men’s lacrosse team of raping her at a party. Prior to Duke suspending its men’s lacrosse team’s season, she sarcastically noted on the air, “I’m so glad they didn’t miss a lacrosse game over a little thing like gang rape!” and “Why would you go to a cop in an alleged gang rape case, say, and lie and give misleading information?” After the disbarment of District Attorney Mike Nifong, Attorney General Roy Cooper pronounced all three players innocent of the rape charges made by Mangum and Nifong. On the following broadcast of her show, Grace did not appear and a substitute reporter, Jane Velez-Mitchell, announced the removal of all charges.

Elizabeth Smart kidnapping
During the Elizabeth Smart case, when suspect Richard Ricci was arrested by police on the basis that he had a criminal record and had worked on the Smarts’ home, Grace immediately and repeatedly proclaimed on CourtTV and CNN’s Larry King that Ricci “was guilty,” although there was little evidence to support this claim. She also suggested publicly that Ricci’s girlfriend was involved in the cover-up of his alleged crime. Grace continued to accuse Ricci, though he died while in custody.

It was later revealed that Smart was kidnapped by Brian David Mitchell and Wanda Barzee, two individuals with whom Richard Ricci had no connection.

When CourtTV confronted Grace seven months later to ask whether she was incorrect in her assertion that Ricci was guilty, and whether or not she felt bad about it in any way, she stated that Ricci was “a known ex-con, a known felon, and brought suspicion on himself, so who could blame anyone for claiming he was the perpetrator?” When Larry King asked her about the matter, she equated criticism of herself with criticism of the police in the case. She said: “I’m not letting you take the police with me on a guilt trip.”

In July 2006, Grace interviewed Smart, who was promoting a legislative bill. Grace repeatedly asked her for information regarding her abduction. Smart told her she didn’t feel comfortable discussing it, despite Grace’s persistence in the matter. Finally, Grace stopped when Smart said she “didn’t appreciate [Grace] bringing all this up.”

Grace co-wrote the book Objection! — How High-Priced Defense Attorneys, Celebrity Defendants, and a 24/7 Media Have Hijacked Our Criminal Justice System, which was published by Hyperion on June 8, 2005. The book caused notable controversy because Grace referred to defense lawyers as “pigs” and compared them to Nazi concentration camp guards.

Allegations regarding fiancé’s murder
In March 2006, an article in the New York Observer suggested that in her book Objection!, Grace had embellished the story of her college fiancé’s 1979 murder and the ensuing trial to make it better support her image. Grace has described the tragedy as the impetus for her career as a prosecutor and victims’ rights advocate, and has often publicly referred to the incident. The Observer researched the murder and found several apparent contradictions between the events and Grace’s subsequent statements, including the following:

* Her fiancé, Keith Griffin, was shot not at random by a stranger, but by a former coworker, Tommy McCoy.
* McCoy did not have a prior criminal record and, rather than denying the crime, confessed on the night of the murder.
* The jury deliberated for a few hours, not days.
* There was no ongoing string of appeals (McCoy’s family did not want any). McCoy has only once filed a habeas petition, which was rejected.

Grace told the Observer she had not looked into the case in many years and “tried not to think about it.”She said she made her previous statements about the case “with the knowledge I had.”

In response to Keith Olbermann’s claims in a March 2007 Rolling Stone interview in which he was quoted as saying, “Anybody who would embellish the story of their own fiancé’s murder should spend that hour a day not on television but in a psychiatrist’s chair,” Grace stated, “I did not put myself through law school and fight for all those years for victims of crime to waste one minute of my time, my energy, and my education in a war of words with Keith Olbermann, whom I’ve never met nor had any disagreement. I feel we have X amount of time on Earth, and that when we give in to our detractors or spend needless time on silly fights, I think that’s abusing the chance we have to do something good.”

Keith Griffin’s murderer, Tommy McCoy, was released from the Georgia Department of Corrections on December 5, 2006.

PopeyeBob commented on Jul 18 11 at 5:28 pm

just an observation about how long it takes this sort of conflict to die down…Reference Jane Fonda – 50 years later:

http://www.tmz.com/2011/07/16/jane-fonda-qvc-canceled-appearance-book-prime-time-vietnam-war-hanoi/

not quite commented on Jul 18 11 at 5:43 pm

PopeyeBob – Nancy Grace being a bitch doesn’t mean that Casey Anthony is innocent. Her own pictures taken during the time Caylee was missing of her partying, her own indifference when she was filmed in prison being annoyed by questions about her daughter, the fact she lied endlessly not only about where Caylee was but about every part of her life, her laughing and joking it up every time the jury was out of the court room, all of these point to her total lack of caring about her daughter’s death. A true, guilt-free parent would be living in a personal hell if their child had disappeared and died. A true, guilt-free parent would be in a personal hell if she knew how her daughter died, even if she didn’t share it. A true, guilt-free, *loving* parent wouldn’t be out partying and recording it. They wouldn’t be so annoyed when people stopped asking about themself and asked about the child.

Casey Anthony is a textbook psychopath. Sure, she looked like a loving mother for a time, but then Caylee became an annoyance and she was taken care of. Not once has Casey ever shown one ounce of remorse or grief over her daughter’s death. She had no problem throwing her dad under the bus for her case, and tried to say he had abused her. An abused daughter wouldn’t stay home once she could get away, especially if she had a daughter herself that could become a victim.

How about instead of blindly following the conspiracy the defense came up with, and the jury bought because they’re idiots, look at the actual facts of the case independently of anyone’s comments.

Alicia commented on Jul 18 11 at 7:51 pm

I agree. The more we talk about her the more she becomes a celebrity.
Erase her name from your mind and never talk her name. She is a child killer who got away with murder. If the news or anything is on the tv or radio abouts her turn the channel and watch or listen to something else. Do not give her the time of day. She makes me sick. I will not watch, listen or talk her name. Thanks for posting what I have been thinking about. I agree wholeheartedly with you.

ajroma commented on Jul 18 11 at 9:28 pm

Alicia – You have some very valid points. I agree with you about what “a true, guilt-free parent” would and would not do.
I am assuming that when you say, “Caylee became an annoyance and she was taken care of”, you mean that Casey drove to some local park, poured some of the chloroform, that she had been brewing for the previous 3 months, onto a towel and held it over Caylees mouth and nose until she no longer flinched. Then, knowing that it would take a lot more than just chloroform to kill her (almost) 3 year old daughter, she measured out 3 strips of duct tape (which she had in the car with her because she has been planning this for sooo long), and placed these 3 strips over this little girls mouth and nose so as to suffocate her to death……… Is that what you meant by “Caylee became an annoyance and she was taken care of.”? I”m assuming that is what you meant by that. After all, even though there was no EVIDENCE of that, that’s what the Prosecution told you they SPECULATED happened.

I’m outta here, a waste of time with you ignoramus’.

PopeyeBob commented on Jul 19 11 at 12:52 am

Bunnytwenty commented on Jul 18 11 at 12:59 pm :

“But it’s a lot more fun to concentrate on how much we hate one woman who may or may not have killed one child than to concentrate on how our tax dollars kill kids in Afghanistan and Iraq every day, right? There are REAL problems in this country right now that affect millions – when are you going to get started talking about those”.

In response to Bunnytwenty:
There is no doubt that Casey Anthony did kill a child. I’m sure she would like us to believe it was one of her “imaginary friends”. I hope Casey’s defense team reads your post. You bring to light a very good idea though. Casey could always consider joining a branch of military service. Since she has no remorse for killing kids she would serve our country well in battle.
Although, according to military.com her morale character may disqualify her. It was a good idea though.

http://www.military.com/Recruiting/Content/0,13898,rec_step07_DQ_law,,00.html

Jill commented on Jul 19 11 at 2:25 pm

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