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Pole Dancing Classes for Toddlers: The Ick Line Has Officially Been Crossed

Posted by meredith carroll on June 13th, 2011 at 11:34 am
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Pole dancing for toddlers? Really?

Yesterday I wrote about makeover salons for toddlers and how I thought they weren’t so bad as long as they’re frequented with only fun in mind and not because moms think their daughters should look like mini-versions of themselves (or beauty queens) as a matter of course.

Now comes word that there actually exist pole dancing classes for kids as young as three. Makes pedicures for 2-year-olds look like child’s play, no?

A studio in England, Make Me Fabulous, charges just £5 an hour for little girls to learn the sleazy art of pole dancing in a class called Little Spinners, with an instructor insisting it helps keep them fit and boosts their self-esteem.


I’m all for movement and dance class for little girls. When my daughter turned 2 last summer, she started a class where she “dances” to hip hop songs (while wearing a tutu and ballet slippers, natch). She loves the music and being with the other kids. It’s the first class I haven’t had to participate in with her and the discipline and repetition each week have been super fun for her, and fun for me to watch.

How anyone could offer pole dancing to girls almost that young is beyond me. Talk about the increased sexualization of kids.

The lessons take place in a room adorned with pink feather boas and sparking mirrors. The studio advertises pole dancing as “sexy, relaxing and invigorating.” Kids ages 3-7 do exercises like holding their legs in a V-shape while sliding down a pole.

Exercise for young girls is critical, of course, but teaching them to be sex objects before they’re in kindergarten should be criminal. Hopefully some government agency will swoop in — pronto — and put the kibosh on this. It’s one thing for little girls to use their imagination and dress up and play; it’s a whole other thing to teach them the sick art of being sex kittens while they have no idea what they’re doing.

A class instructor defended the practice, saying it originated from a traditional Indian sport called Malkhamb, in which participants performed around a wooden pole.

“I’m not a scumbag,” she said.

I disagree. Like, big time.

Do you think pole dancing is a legitimate exercise for kids or is this shockingly sleazy?

Image: Wikimedia Commons

Cute or cause for alarm? My 5-year-old wants to wear makeup!

 Pole Dancing Classes for Toddlers: The Ick Line Has Officially Been Crossed

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[...] Yesterday I wrote about makeover salons for toddlers and how I thought they weren’t so bad as long… and not because moms think their daughters should look like mini-versions of themselves (or beauty queens) as a matter of course. [...]

Taking "Ick" To A New Level: Pole Dancing Classes for Toddlers – A Community for Single Moms commented on Jun 19 11 at 2:18 pm

I’ve seen the Indian sport they were talking about and it’s pretty cool. But why would they need to advertise the classes as being “sexy” if it’s really just for exercise? Children should not be trained to do anything “sexy”.

TT commented on Jun 13 11 at 2:30 pm

I feel queasy right now…just straight up ill.

Marissa commented on Jun 13 11 at 11:37 pm

It’s disgusting enough when grown women do it, when kids do it: BARF. Let’s allow our little girls to just BE LITTLE GIRLS. The world will ruin them soon enough.

bwsf commented on Jun 13 11 at 11:40 pm

teaching pole-dance to toddlers is just wrong! if u wanna exercise your kids take them for a walk or to the playground to run around NOT pole dance

Kristen commented on Jun 13 11 at 11:42 pm

I agree with you . Little girls already live in an over sexualized world as is. But what kind of parents thinks this kind of class is ok? not a very good parent I would guess.

Corey M commented on Jun 13 11 at 11:42 pm

this is appalling and disturbing. i guess the mom’s who have kids so that they’ll have someone to foot the bill for the retirement home in 40 years are giving their kids a way to come up with the necessary funds. you’ve got to look out for #1. thanks for sharing.

bootsy commented on Jun 13 11 at 11:43 pm

I’m sorry talking about crossing the line….I have a grand daughter that is 3 mos old. I can’t even begin to imagine her wearing make up at 5 let alone pole dancing. When does it stop, don’t we have enough Pedi phials, must we continue to feed their desires, it’s sick, imagine it’s bad enough that we have freaks out there that are willing to take away a child’s innocense, that’s like throwing a child into a pit full of wolves. Our children are surrounded by so much “sex” it’s not even funny. My nephew told me he was taught how to put a condom on at his school in the 2nd or 3rd grade. My God at that age I wasn’t even thinking about things like that nor were my children at that age. My children were raised in the 80′s and 90′s but they didn’t even think about all that.

Lupe Lazo commented on Jun 14 11 at 1:26 am

no need for the GOV to “swoop in” just stand against this unsavory mind melding on TOTS to be sexy…rebel parents!!!! shun this course!!! WAKE UP!

tommie23 commented on Jun 14 11 at 1:27 am

If no one signs up for it they’ll have to take it off the roster. Are parents signing their kids up for it? The article didn’t mention if they had a lot of registrations or not. I hope not!!!

Meme commented on Jun 14 11 at 8:02 am

It’s too bad there is the sexual element because kids do love messing around on poles. I see it all the time on the metro.

Gretchen Powers commented on Jun 14 11 at 10:01 am

I’m not sure who’s more f—ed up here, the instructors or the parents signing their kids up for this? Probably 50-50… Seriously, when the best physical exercise you can think of for a child is “pole dancing”, you should be in therapy, at the least, or in jail.

Robert commented on Jun 14 11 at 12:18 pm

I have an idea, why not just teach a child’s version of the Indian sport they referenced instead of pole dancing?

Jennifer Shewmaker commented on Jun 14 11 at 3:42 pm

I am speechless! And THAT does NOT happen often! :O

Pregnancy -n- Pregnancy Helpers on FB commented on Jun 14 11 at 9:52 pm

This is disgusting! Children should never participate in an “activity” that objectifies women, regardless of the alleged objective behind it. I cannot believe that a parent, who is on any level, concerned about their daughters activity level or self-esteem, would find this activity acceptable! This is flat out wrong….not the solution to ANYTHING.

Tricia commented on Jun 15 11 at 6:41 am

I agree… no need for the GOV to “swoop in”

Instead of hiding in the shadows and getting others to ‘enforce’ your opinions and personal preferences…
Get off your own tush & complain to them and anyone else’s ears you can chew on.

Something about public opinon and economic survival, make it too hot for them to deal with.

Disgusted commented on Jun 15 11 at 6:42 pm

@Disgusted — How, exactly, is writing a piece about something I don’t agree with “hiding in the shadows?” Wouldn’t you consider this piece for public consumption to “complaining about anyone else’s ears [I] can chew on?”

Meredith Carroll commented on Jun 15 11 at 8:42 pm

May be the government should ‘swoop’ in and do something because there are too many idiots out there who are harming our kids and don’t have the brains to realise what they are doing!

Helen Thomas commented on Jun 17 11 at 4:28 am

Our daughters are already growing up too fast as it is. To teach them something that should be reserved for the over 18 crowd is absolutely appalling.

Christi commented on Jun 17 11 at 12:11 pm

This is beyond wrong. I don’t care if some 27 year old WOMAN wants to learn to pole dance but to teach an innocent three year old little girl how to slide down a pole with her legs open is beyond wrong not to mention the pedohiles that could just walk in and watch. This is going to far we are not allowing our little girls to be little girls anymore they are becoming little women at younger and younger ages. When will this stop? When will we allow our children especially our girls to be children and have their biggest worry be if Santa thinks they are being good or not? We should not be teaching our young girls these things because it ruins their body image and teaches them that sex is the way to the top.

Liz commented on Jun 17 11 at 9:44 pm

I cant believe my eyes are you serious? This is way out there even for our morally corrupt Society. I am outraged at this and putting flowers and sparkles is a sad reason for this monstrosity. You who find this exceptable might want to look deep inside and find some shred of decency and find another way to boost your childs self esteem You could make her ashamed of herself. You stripping Their innocents away leaving them no choice. how would your daughter feel about her self when she gets older. Protect your child thats what parents do.

Kathryn commented on Jun 18 11 at 12:12 pm

please, everyone email these monsters and maybe they will realize how sick this is and cancel the program.

reb commented on Jun 19 11 at 1:25 pm

OMG! I cant even believe what I just read about pole dancing for 3 to 7 year old girls! If you ask me its just wrong anyway you look at it. I cant believe that it even exsits seriously and why would any parent let their child do such a thing in the first place is beyond me! Idk but I think that it should not be alowed at all I mean dancing is one thing but pole dancing no that is just sick for any female not to mention a little 3 to 7 year old child!

Kristin commented on Jun 20 11 at 1:40 pm

Appalling, I can’t believe this. With all the perverts out there it should be against the law to teach children to be sex objects. I agree with Jennifer S, if this is based on some kind of sport teach the girls that in it’s purest form. This rates right up there with padded bras for little girls.

Kate commented on Jun 22 11 at 11:03 am

And please tell me where this will enhance someone’s education? The only people I’ve heard of who do pole dances are “exotic dancers”, or goofy TV/movie stars. There are plenty of other courses for kids, both boys and girls such as gymnastics, skating, dancing, etc. What will this teach these children? Pole dancing is an alternative if I don’t like education?

Nancy commented on Jun 23 11 at 12:45 pm

Really people. What will these parents do next…put their little ones out on the stroll with high heels and hot pants?????????????

Pat commented on Jun 27 11 at 2:12 pm

i am shocked but only a little. that’s what is truly scary is that i’m not totally surprised by this. people have gotten to comfortable with CHILDREN being sexy and that is not ok. i do not think that a children’s pole dancing is right but i am not calling it sleazy because i don’t think pole dancing in itself is sleazy but this is certainly inappropriate in any way you put it.

stephanie commented on Jun 27 11 at 2:24 pm

Only a loser, bad parent would let their child do pole dancing classes.

Rach commented on Jun 27 11 at 5:55 pm

Are you kidding me? Even though I am all for helping to boost kids’ self esteem & for encouraging kids to spend more time moving & less time sitting……..this is going too far. Don’t be surprised if these kids end up pregnant at 12 years old because if their parent(s) agree that this is o.k., then Lord knows what else they let their kids do. :(

Jennifer Jones commented on Jun 27 11 at 7:18 pm

I have a friend that pole dances, fully dressed in a non-sexual way, and her two daughters (4 and 16) join her often. Her 16 y.o. realizes that her mom does not appreciate pole dance being used as a sexual device and she herself has grown up disgusted by comments and jokes about “pole dancing strippers”. I’m sure little Elli will be the same. To some people, this is a form of expression, not something sexy. I don’t support this dance class, I don’t think they should advertise it as “sexy”, but I think it’s sad people come here and getting all mad. No one is forcing you to have your children go, so don’t worry about it. You can’t control everyone.

Rosalyn commented on Jun 28 11 at 8:35 am

Any activity that involves using the muscles against resistance can be deemed “exercise” but it seems to me that the owners of this salon are trying to have it both ways – they use the sexual connotation of the name “pole dancing” to generate buzz and attract customers, then they try to spin it into a non-sexual activity to market it to a wider base of clients. The genre began with stripping and no matter what context you place it in, it’s thought of as sexual. If fitness is the goal – try gymnastics – where rope climbing and parallel bars are sexuality neutral.

Michelle commented on Jun 29 11 at 10:06 am

Okay, first of all, I am not a pole dancer, nor am I a stripper or condone the act. But, I also don’t believe in condeming something prior to investigation. So, with that said consider that pool dancing in some cultures is not what we think of as “pool dancing,” but rather “Mallakhamb.” So, take out the sexual moves, the wording (pool dancing) because we (US) will make automaticly make the S.E.X connection and replace it with Mallakhamb fitness (see: http://www.thekidsworld.net/1/mallakhamb.htm).

T commented on Jul 09 11 at 2:11 am

The instructor acting like this could basically be mallakhamb is somewhat hilarious. Aside from involving a pole there are very few things mallakhamb and pole dancing have in common, for example mallakhamb doesn’t involve the feather boas, glittery mirrors, or the description “sexy”… those are straight up pole dancing things. For the record, I would totally sign my kid up for an actual mallakhamb class.

Jenna commented on Aug 05 11 at 4:38 pm

I don’t think I’d want my kid doing it at that age, but you also have to realize the different culture. Most European countries are a lot more open about sex and the human body than America is. And in the UK in particular pole dancing is a huge sport that both men and women participate in. They have huge national competitions and everything and clothes are kept on. Pole dancing is not just something that only strippers participate in.

Haley commented on Oct 04 11 at 8:07 pm

Oh My Good Lord.
I think I am going to be sick.

Its things like this that reinforce my idea that all children from birth to 25 should be kept at home and supervised at all times, get up, go to school, come home, and have all activities monitored. I JUST had my first girl last month, after 3 boys, I am scared to death to let them venture out at all into the world. The world is SCREWED. There really isn’t much left that doesn’t scare me into very strict parenting!!!

KARA commented on Nov 15 11 at 5:24 pm

I am a Pole Dancer, and it is one of the greatest woman self empowerment methods I have discovered in my 51 years of life. It is pure expression, in the beautiful form of Dance, and is a vehicle for the emotions that I hold inside, just as Ballet, Modern, Tap, Jazz, Hip Hop, Krumping, Ballroom are, along with many other forms. I am not feeling debased or belittled when I do it, nor when I perform in front of others, (should the performers in Cirque Du Soleil feel ashamed? pulleease!)

It is neither ‘a sleazy art’ nor are the dancers ‘sex objects’ with the ‘sick art of being sex kittens’. To hear the writer use these terms makes me think that she herself has some distorted views on sexuality and the beauty of it.

Pole Dancing IS beautiful, sexy, sensual, and expressive, and anyone who has seen the Tango dance could say the same thing. I have burst into tears watching my fellow students express who they are in Pole Dance and also when I have watched other forms of dancing.

HOWEVER, dancing the Tango, or Pole Dancing, like everything else in life, is age appropriate, and yes, on that point I do agree with the writer of this article. Little girls need to experience childhood and develop naturally into their full sexual being without being forced into it before they are ready.

But please quit lumping one issue of sexualization of young girls with an age appropriate dance form.

murrellgirl3 commented on Nov 16 11 at 5:22 pm

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