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LDS Families Gather For General Conference: Are You Raising Your Child In A Particular Religion?

Posted by monica bielanko on April 2nd, 2011 at 2:01 pm
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A Prop 8 protest I attended at Temple Square in Salt Lake City

Thousands of Mormon families from across the globe are converging in Salt Lake City right now for what they call General Conference.  It’s when members of The Church Of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints come to Salt Lake to hear the leaders of the church speak.

Usually leaders express the importance of family and how parents can raise their children in a manner they consider righteous.

It’s no secret I’m a “recovering Mormon”.  In fact, I was recently voted “X-Mormon of the Year” by a popular local blog here in Salt Lake City.  In my job as a journalist for a local television station in Salt Lake I’ve tangled with LDS church leaders on more than one occasion. 

My experience leaving the Mormon church behind was, perhaps, the most difficult thing I’ve ever done.  I’ve lost friends over it, gatherings with certain family members are rife with awkward exchanges but I’m glad I am no longer officially a member of the church.  I asked to be removed from their record books after they had a hand in getting Proposition 8 passed in California.  It was important to me to be free and clear of the church – of any religion -  before my first child was born.

I plan to raise my children with a knowledge of all religions but a belief in none of them.  Spirituality is more important, in my eyes, than a belief in some other person’s version of truth and righteousness. I don’t believe in the baptism of children who don’t know better. If, at an older age my children choose to be baptized into a religion, so be it.

Which brings me to my question for you.  Were you raised in a particular religion?  Was it a positive experience?  Do you plan to raise your child in a particular religion?  If so, why?

Imagine there’s no countries, it isn’t hard to do.  Nothing to kill or die for, and no religion too. -John Lennon

 LDS Families Gather For General Conference:  Are You Raising Your Child In A Particular Religion?

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I am a lover of all religions. I have read the Bible, Book of Mormon, The Way of the Pilgrim, Tibetian Book of the Dead, Tao Te Ching, Apocrypha, The Essential Rumi and I am currently reading The Zohar, the book of Kabbalists. Also many books and commentaries on these books above.
I am a Mormon, but as the Church has said, there is truth and light in all religions. I will teach my children to accept everyone as a child of God and a literal brother and sister in the world family.
But most importantly is Article of Faith 11 “We claim the privilege of worshiping Almighty God according to the dictates of our own conscience, and allow all men the same privilege, let them worship how, where, or what they may.”
Yes, the LDS Church was against Prop 8. It is sad that they put their hat in the ring of marriage definition. I am for marriage of anyone who wants to, but my church is not. It does not mean I would leave it because of that.

bradlee commented on Apr 02 11 at 3:16 pm

I was born and raised Mormon but later renounced it. On the other hand my husband was not raised LDS but converted as an adult and is still a practicing member. I won’t say this hasn’t been a challenge for us, especially since I made the decision to leave the church after we had been married in an LDS temple but not as hard as some may think.
Our beliefs differ but our core values are very similar. We expect our kids to be kind, honest, hard-working, etc. Spiritual preference on the other hand is completely up to them. Both of our parents raised strong objections about regarding our religious choices and to this day it strains our relations with them. We decided that we don’t want to put that kind of pressure on our kids even if their beliefs don’t coincide with ours. They are free to accompany their father to church or not. If they want to explore other religions we will be supportive with that as well. And when people argue that kids aren’t naturally interested in church and need to be forced to attend we gently point out that they have their whole life ahead of them to revisit that issue. After all, we both did.

Angela commented on Apr 02 11 at 5:22 pm

Wow, pretty much all the major religions are based on lies, designed to overthrow the nature/Goddess deities that were revered before years of systematic take overs. Pretty much all the major religions provide cold comfort to some with the effect of controlling them. I won’t be raising my child in any religious context, but I will teach her to respect a sense of spirituality that transcends what we can see and touch…

GP commented on Apr 02 11 at 6:49 pm

I’m atheist, that is to say, without deities, as is my husband. I suppose we are raising our children to be atheists, as well. We are fascinated by the human experience and by the beauty and magnitude of our world and our growing observation of the universe. We encourage our children to appreciate the beauty, mystery, and complexity of our world as it is and as we discover it and imagine it. We teach them generosity, kindness, and compassion to their fellow man. I would be disappointed if one of them became a member of a church or an adherent to a particular religion, but I would support their choice.

lam commented on Apr 02 11 at 7:10 pm

I could not have said it better myself, LAM. You’ve captured my sentiments beautifully.

Voice of Reason commented on Apr 02 11 at 11:54 pm

I was not raised LDS but converted at the age of 21. My wife introduced me to the church. As a child my father was in the military so we would always attend the church on base. We would attend every Sunday but we never talked religion at home. I enjoyed listening to the protestant sermons and enjoyed going. My parent’s only concern was that my brother and I be good up standing people.
Now my wife I raise our 4 children in the LDS church. I love it. I if they choose not to follow as they get older then so be it. I would be sad but would love them anyway.
I am a black member of the church and have had some serious “soul searching” moments and enjoyed diving into that portion of the church. It has taught how to teach our children.
My wife and I will continue to teach and share our testimonies with our children in hopes they stay on this path. Always free to choose but understanding the consequenses ahead.

Just Me commented on Apr 03 11 at 12:56 am

When my childish behavior would exasperate my mother, she would often exclaim, “when you grow up, I hope you have a child just like you!” Fortunately for mankind, none of our nine fulfilled her wish.

No clones indeed. But somehow all nine are still faithful Latter-day Saints, and I have fifteen grandchildren who are joyfully pointed that way. I suppose, then, that my love for my children has not been fully tested. I don’t ask for that test, but I greatly admire friends whose children have rebelled and who still love them unconditionally.

I certainly don’t wish for any of your children to rebel against the path you have chosen, but no doubt you have already considered that possibility. Should any of your children ever choose Mormonism and marry in the temple, I am confident that you have already committed yourself to be gracious and supportive.

Tracy Hall Jr commented on Apr 03 11 at 9:33 am

You summed it up for us too, Lam.

Manjari Olds commented on Apr 03 11 at 9:38 am

I was raised Catholic, but stopped believing in God before I stopped believing in Santa. I mean all those presents on Christmas morning were proof of Santa, there was no proof of God. My dad was a science who had wanted to be a priest when he was a teenager, until he failed freshman Latin twice. I agree with Monica. I am raising my kids with a knowledge of all religions, but a belief in none. My 7 year old knows the basics of Christianity, Judaism, Islam, Buddhism, and more traditional Goddess based religions. Whenever we talk about these beliefs of other people, he tells us that it sounds silly to believe the things they say. That’s my boy! However, if he or his baby sister ever do choose to join a particular religion, I will be disappointed, but I will fully support their choice as long as they don’t try to convert me or anyone else. My respect for another’s belief ends when they start to push it on me or anyone else.

x-catholic commented on Apr 03 11 at 11:45 am

I was born and raised a Jehovah’s Witness. I disassociated myself once I reached adulthood. My family and I are comfortably living the kind of experience Lam so beautifully articulated.

Mistress_Scorpio commented on Apr 04 11 at 9:37 am

I was raised Church of the Brethren, which is a smaller, protestant, anabaptist denomination, and I remain a member of the church. I’m still attracted to it because of it’s simple, peaceful message. I plan on raising my son to be the same, but I would not be disappointed if he were to join another Christian church when he grows up (Catholic, Lutheren, even Mormon, etc.). I would be very sad, however, if he were to ever turn away from Christianity completely.

Amanda commented on Apr 04 11 at 10:43 am

I was born a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints. I am now 41 years old and can only say that my membership in this church has been one positive experience after another. My oldest child is 16 and my youngest is 5 months. While many teenagers are experimenting with sex, drugs, alcohol, rated R movies, bad language, and other exciting things, my 16 year old is a good kid, and we have a great relationship. All four of my children are being raised LDS and I am grateful for a church that provides a solid foundation that teaches honesty, respect for others, living a virtuous life, serving others, ect (I can go on).

David R commented on Apr 04 11 at 1:34 pm

I’ve been a member all my life and people like you who smugly leave the church and then must tell everyone how pious you are for doing it make me ill. I’m glad you’re gone. Thank you for reducing the home teaching role in your ward.

Killerbug commented on Apr 07 11 at 2:53 am

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