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Natalie Munroe Blog: Cyberbullying, Or Just Telling It Straight?
Natalie Munroe, the teacher who has been suspended for slagging her students on her blog, went on Good Morning America to defend her comments about her students.
She says the posts were not meant for public consumption and were taken out of context. Furthermore, she was just telling the truth as she saw it.
That may be, but teachers have inordinate amounts of power over their students. Is it really appropriate for any teacher to publically criticize a student, even anonymously?
On the one hand, you could say she’s not a cyberbully because she didn’t talk trash about individual students – at least not by name. She was writing on her own blog, not posting mean notes on her students’ Facebook profiles or anything like that.
In some ways, calling her students names without naming names makes it worse. CNN reports that the comments were about “caricatures of students that I’ve had over the years, things that I would say if we weren’t limited in the canned comments that we’re allowed to write.”
That opens the door for every student she’s ever had to wonder if they were the target of her mean remarks. That doesn’t exactly make it better.
What she should be doing now is apologizing to all the students she hurt, not defending her rude comments about them. Maybe her students were lazy, entitled, selfish. It’s her job as a teacher to help them work through those problems, not model the same kind of self-centered, privileged behavior.
Natalie Munroe may not be a cyberbully, but she’s not exactly a great role model either.
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Bobbye DePaul commented on Feb 16 11 at 7:45 pmNatalie Munroe is furthering disrespect toward others, period. Her comments were unprofessional and insulting and I believe her school district should impose powerful sanctions against her. Basically, if you don’t like the kids, you should find another career that is better suited to your tolerance level. I also believe she knew her remarks violated the spirit of her profession and she egotistically (or ragefully) decided to do it anyway. Maybe Natalie is the one who should grow up and act like an adult!
KC commented on Feb 16 11 at 7:47 pm“What she should be doing now is apologizing to all the students she hurt, not defending her rude comments about them” — oh please, it’s a power struggle. The kids are mad she’s pushing them to do work, and somehow they got just cybersavvy enough to find her blog and make mountains out of whatever molehills they could find. Double standard – lazy kids think teachers should be perfect while the students can do whatever the heck they want without consequences.
mbaker commented on Feb 16 11 at 8:03 pmMy sister who is a teacher who blogs considers Natalie’s blogging irresponsible. Not only does my sister blog under an alias because she doesn’t want anyone related to work to find her blog (it has her fanfic on it and some of it is pretty racy) but anything she writes about school doesn’t have any identifying details and if it’s negative it’s friends locked.
goddess commented on Feb 16 11 at 8:03 pmOh geez. this PC agenda will bring this country to its knees. I can understand her being held accountable for her words by her employers [the school district]. But to label it as bullyin? Poppycock! Seeing how many of the teens behave at school she’s probably calling it like it is. She SHOULD have used better phrasing like “SOME of them” or “MANY of the students” to provide that room for those who weren’t. But to call it bullying is pure nonsemse IMNSHO.
Gretchen Powers commented on Feb 16 11 at 8:03 pm“It’s her job as a teacher to help them work through those problems…”
No, it’s her job to teach them academic subjects…herein lies the problem. So many people think it’s a teacher’s job to do all these general things for children that it is really parents’ jobs to do. I don’t particularly care for this woman’s style, but I don’t see her as quite the villain you do…at all.
goddess commented on Feb 16 11 at 8:47 pmGP- have to agree.
JM commented on Feb 16 11 at 9:06 pmIt’s not her job to teach anything but academics, but any teacher with a modicum of decency recognizes the influence (good or bad) they can have on a teen. With her attitude she needs to work at the DMV where she can express her feelings towards adults (in perwon) and make the same pay.
Jenna commented on Feb 16 11 at 9:29 pmGP and Goddess- I third that motion.
Mel commented on Feb 16 11 at 9:51 pmthe original blog:
Jensen commented on Feb 16 11 at 10:34 pmWait a minute, they said that she did not even identify herself on her blog. How was it hurtful to her students if no one even knew who she was? Please, this is a violation of her first amendment rights.
Linda, the original one commented on Feb 16 11 at 11:12 pmThanks for posting that, Mel. If anyone can read that and then defend it, I have ZERO respect for them,.
Linda, the original one commented on Feb 16 11 at 11:13 pm“If You Don’t Have Anything Nice to Say…
I’m being a renegade right now, living on the edge and, um, blogging AT work.However, as I’m blogging about work stuff, I give myself a free pass of conscience.
I’m in the process of entering grades, and also need to enter comments for the grades. I used to take a lot of time with this procedure, choosing just the right comment(s) for my students. If I put a negative one, I’d also put a positive one to temper it. (When I was in school, I hated when I got the same 2 or 3 comments from my teachers. It felt so insincere.)
(For the record, my computer froze and had to be shut down at work; when I rebooted, I didn’t bother signing back on to finish this as other things to do came up. At present, then, I’m not being a renegade at all, as I’m writing this at my kitchen table.)
Anyway, as I was saying, when I was first teaching, I put a lot of time and effort into the comments because I felt it was a great way to communicate the students’ efforts. Then it got to be a complete pain in the ass, just one more thing standing between me and being done the report cards, and suddenly I realized why I’d always gotten the same comments from my teachers: they didn’t want to do them any more than I do. (I refuse to believe the alternative reason that I’ll explore momentarily.)
Also, as the kids get worse and worse, I find that the canned comments don’t accurately express my true sentiments about them. So now I pretty much choose “Cooperative in Class” for every kid (or, in some instances, will speak in other codes. For instance, if they talk a lot, I’ll put “is easily distracted” or “talks persistently”; if it’s a kid that has no personality, I’ll put “ability to work independently”). For some kids, though, my scornful feelings reach such fever pitch that I have a hard time even putting “cooperative in class” and have, sadly, had some kids for which none of the comments fit. (Again, this was NOT me. It couldn’t have been. I was a delight!!)
Thus, for this blog, I will list the comments I’d like to see added to the canned comment list, as an accurate reflection of what we really want to say to these parents. Here they are, in no particular order:
Concerned your kid is automaton, as she just sits there emotionless for an entire 90 minutes, staring into the abyss, never volunteering to speak or do anything.
Seems smarter than she actually is.
Has a massive chip on her shoulder.
Too smart for her own good and refuses to play the school ‘game’ such that she’ll never live up to her true potential here.
Has no business being in Honors.
A complete and utter jerk in all ways. Although academically ok, your child has no other redeeming qualities.
Lazy.
Shy isn’t cute in 11th grade; it’s annoying. Must learn to advocate for himself instead of having Mommy do it.
One of the few students I can abide this semester!
Two words come to mind: brown AND nose.
Dunderhead.
Complainer.
Gimme an A. I. R. H. E. A. D. What’s that spell? Your kid!
There is such a thing as too loud in oral presentations. We shouldn’t need earplugs.
Att-i-tude!
Nowhere near as good as her sibling. Are you sure they’re related?
I won’t even remember her name next semester if I see her in the hall.
Asked too many questions and took too long to ask them. The bell means it’s time to leave!
Has no business being in Academic.
Rat-like.
Lazy asshole.
Just as bad as his sibling. Don’t you know how to raise kids?
Sneaky, complaining, jerkoff.
Frightfully dim.
Dresses like a street walker.
Whiny, simpering grade-grubber with an unrealistically high perception of own ability level.
One of the most annoying students I’ve had the displeasure of being locked in a room with for an extended time.
Rude, beligerent, argumentative fuck.
Tactless.
Weirdest kid I’ve ever met.
Am concerned that your kid is going to come in one day and open fire on the school. (Wish I was kidding.)
I didn’t realize one person could have this many problems.
Your daughter is royalty. (The Queen of Drama)
Liar and cheater.
Unable to think for himself.
I hear the trash company is hiring…
Utterly loathsome in all imaginable ways.
I called out sick a couple of days just to avoid your son.
There’s no other way to say this: I hate your kid.
These comments, I think, would serve me well when filling out the cards. Only, I don’t think parents want to hear these truths.
Thus, the old addage… if you don’t have anything nice to say…
…say “cooperative in class.”
Linda, the original one commented on Feb 16 11 at 11:18 pmAll below a header that says, “I don’t care if you lick windows, take the special bus, or occasionally pee on yourself… You hang in there, Sunshine. You’re friggin’ special.”
Manjari commented on Feb 16 11 at 11:37 pmWait, she teaches honors English? I’m sort of surprised how bad her writing is.
Kelly commented on Feb 16 11 at 11:45 pmMost high school students are very lazy and maybe it’s about time they hear it. I don’t think Natalie should have to apologize – we’re too soft on kids these days.
Mel commented on Feb 17 11 at 12:13 amI can’t find that “header” anywhere on the webpage nor could the find feature on my browser.
Linda, the original one commented on Feb 17 11 at 12:25 am@Mel, It’s on the link you provided. It’s a graphic with a picture of a “short bus” directly to the left of the opening lines of her post.
jenny tries too hard commented on Feb 17 11 at 12:31 amWhy on earth is she a high school teacher if she hates high-school shenanigans that much? This isn’t a teacher griping about one bad student or even one bad “type”…I get that most teachers have a pet peeve like grade-grubbing or shy kids or drama queens, but this woman seems to hate em all. Oh, and she’s also an idiot for drawing even more attention to herself by going on TV. If she’d let it go and accepted that she’s not cut out for teaching, she might have a better chance at finding a profession she does like and is effective in. Lots of employers would’ve understood her leaving teaching after a while, it’s not for everyone. Going on TV and using her real name now is just basically saying “Look at me! I’m petty and arrogant and don’t know how to restrict my poorly-written blog!”
Linda, the original one commented on Feb 17 11 at 12:34 amPigs can fly! :P
Vall commented on Feb 17 11 at 7:33 amI blame administrators for allowing entitled students and parents to determine how schools will be run. I was an administrator myself and I was basicly told not to enforce the rules with certain people because of the trouble they would cause. Anyone could get what they wanted by going to the superintendent of schools. It made us powerless and the kids knew it. Thank God most of the kids were decent.
Gretchen Powers commented on Feb 17 11 at 7:35 amWow…I read that post Mel linked…and while it may not be “criminal” it was foolish and really unprofessional….and immature. Everyone who works faces annoyances in their job…these are little things we moan to our friends, husbands, etc. about. Why even spend so much energy getting so ugly about it on a blog? I think it shows a frivolous mind. I wouldn’t call it “bullying” because it doesn’t really have an affect on anyone to cause them to do or feel something (if they do, they are truly too sensitive because it is very general). However, if I was the principal, superintendent, etc. I would try to fire her. Problem is, it’s really hard to fire teachers because of the union. I *just* last night watched “Waiting for Superman.” It’s a friggin’ mess, people. While I stand by my earlier comment that discipline and helping students with personal/personality issues should not be job 1 for teachers (academics should) and that parents need to work harder to make sure their kids aren’t abominable assholes (I can say that, I’m not a teacher!) this woman just kind of grosses me out. She needs to take some time off and raise her baby, anyway, for a while.
Gretchen Powers commented on Feb 17 11 at 7:38 amOh…and that “short bus” graphic and sentiment is despicable for any adult to hold, let alone a teacher. Rule one, NEVER make fun of people with disabilities!!!! I can’t even believe this. What a classless b*%&@!
Brian commented on Feb 17 11 at 9:00 amNo, what Munroe did fits no accepted definition of bullying or cyberbullying.
Scott Shannon commented on Feb 17 11 at 9:23 amI don’t blame her for feeling this way and saying what she thought. She has a perfect right to do it. It IS her First Amendment right. I hope that if the school district decides to fire her, she sues them.
Lucy commented on Feb 17 11 at 9:50 am“Maybe her students were lazy, entitled, selfish. It’s her job as a teacher to help them work through those problems, not model the same kind of self-centered, privileged behavior.”
Perfectly stated. I would probably find myself agreeing that there are many students out there today with a very big lack of respect for authority, especially in this me, me, me era we live in. BUT, that doesn’t make it okay for the actual teacher to go online and complain about it. If she has such a beef about it why not discuss it with administrators or amongst her peers? Why put it out in cyberspace? She didn’t mean for it to go public but she’s putting it on a public site. I just think that she IS entitled to her opinion, she may very well be correct about these kids but the way she went about it was horribly wrong. She is the professional, she is above these kids and she has lowered herself morally. It’s just tacky that it’s coming from a woman who, is bringing a child into the world herself, and who is an important part of helping shape so many children’s lives.
NoHo Mom commented on Feb 17 11 at 4:31 pmShe sounds burned out. I don’t think teaching is for her.
Cissyrene commented on Feb 17 11 at 4:58 pmI just have a couple things:
A. She is a teacher AT SCHOOL! At home, she’s just some woman like everyone else. Why should she have to be professional 24 hrs a day? It was her personal blog. No names were ever given (including her own) this is blown entirely out of proportion.
B. Is is absolutely NOT the teacher’s job to fix lazy, entitled, or selfish. Teachers teach reading, writing and arithmetic. We have completely tied their hands when it comes to discipline and maintaining order in the classroom. That’s on the parents who think that their child is an angel that can do no wrong and must be coddled and walked to school until they are 15.
She can do what she wants! Period. She can vent as much as she wants so long as she isn’t pointing kids out. How is this different from mommy blogging? People just love that, but it’s really just complaining and commenting on a mommy’s “position”, is it not?
Chill out, she did absolutely nothing wrong, and in trying to hide her identity and not calling out individual students, she did everything right.
Linda, the original one commented on Feb 17 11 at 5:45 pmUm, of course she can “do what she wants” in her off time (first ammendment! first ammendment! @@) The consequence for behaving like this and getting caught (which she made really easy by using her name and photograph) is that she, quite rightly, was fired from her job.
Mel commented on Feb 17 11 at 7:53 pmFrustration Incorporation; Iratation Nation
Well, it’s paper-grading time again. This is, as a rule, always a bad time. It’s feeling lately, though, that these times are getting worse and worse.The first semester of this school year, when I had a parade of whiny, entitled kids run to the guidance department to tell on me for giving them the low grades they earned on their shoddy papers, sort of scarred me. I consider myself very fair with my grading. There is an expectation which I set forth at the onset, and I help and guide and conference along the way. There is a level of quality that I expect to see when I collect good copies. When that level is not reached, the grade goes down incrementally based on just how far off the expectation it is. Then, when kids get their graded papers returned to them, there’s a strange level of surprise and cries of “But I worked hard on that!” Well, sorry, but it wasn’t hard enough- I don’t know what to tell you.
This semester hasn’t been as bad with the complaints, but the papers have been worse! The first paper–a literary analysis on a short story–was a nightmare for me from beginning to end. I did more work than they did, for sure. I started by framing each and every short story and our discussion of it from the standpoint of whatever literary device I knew that particular story would be analyzed on the paper (since, of course, I knew the paper prompts while we went through the unit). So each kid had copious notes and examples of how the target device was being used effectively for every story. Then, when it was time to start writing the papers, I gave them access to a guide to writing such a paper, reviewed this document in class with them, showed them–step by step and piece by piece, from the introduction to topic sentences to integration of textual evidence to transitions to concluding sentences to conclusion–how to craft and each part of the paper. Then, after the broken down part, I went through a completed and effectively crafted example paper for them, color-coding it by part (transitions, topic sentences, evidence, etc, each getting a color) so that one could see simply by looking at the colors that each paragraph had all the same pieces. I taught them (and gave them a handout for their future reference) how to incorporate and properly cite their textual evidence. Then I conferenced with them about their thesis statements to be sure they were headed in the right direction on the paper. Then I conferenced with them about their outlines to be sure they were still ok, giving feedback on quote selection and topic sentences. Then I required a rough draft edited by themself and one other person with that other person also drafting a paragraph articulating what the paper seemed like it was about being an outsider reading it (so students could make sure that what they were meaning to say is what they were actually saying and could fix it before). Then the final paper was due.
One would imagine–and the one in question here was me–that the papers would be of a good caliber because of all the lead-in work we’d done. I was wrong. They were very disappointing. I struggled through them, shaking my head at how they didn’t answer the question that was asked, didn’t take feedback I’d offered along the way, didn’t make modifications after their reader indicated that their paper needed changes, didn’t cite things correctly or incorporate their evidence appropriately, didn’t edit before turning it in, didn’t meet page requirements, didn’t didn’t didn’t… didn’t do a good job.
I was disgusted and upset at that experience (particularly as that is the easier paper to write of the 2 core papers!), and I vowed that the second experience would not be as bad. I also vowed that I wasn’t doing as much work with conferencing (which ate up a lot of class time and my own personal time and attention) since it clearly hadn’t made much of a difference anyway since they aren’t willing to make changes along the way due to laziness. I determined, though, that maybe the approach was part of the problem–maybe they would have had less difficulty with paper content had THEY known the questions for the papers as we worked on them in class, the way I had known them. Even though I taught to the paper topics, they didn’t always know that’s what I was doing.
For the second paper, then, my first order of business was to decide that I was going to give them the paper topic question up front before we even read the literature that they’d be writing on. That way, they could constantly read with a specific purpose and through the lens of the paper. The second order of business was to assess the previous results from past compare-contrast papers. Those papers are classically not very good. Why, I wondered? I know why: because I usually have them compare 2 pieces of literature, and those 2 pieces are often in verse (poetry) form, so maybe they’d have better things to say if they didn’t have so much working against them. So I chose a prose version of Beowulf (one that I usually do with the Basic kids, which is certainly accessible to Academic level students) and decided to have them compare images of light and dark within in it (which are so prevalent that to miss them would mean one didn’t read the text) which is also something I’ve done with Basic, so, again, Academic should be smoothe sailing on it. I organized charts for them to track light and dark images, and we read the text and their class discussions were really on point. I was feeling hopeful. Closer to the end, I gave them a bullet list of what should go in each paragraph so that when they were drafting over the weekend or late at night the night before, they’d know precisely what I was looking to see.
Even though I was backing off of the conferencing check-in points (since I didn’t have time to conference anymore), I still chunked the assignment for them since they are inept at time management. First I had them draft their theme statements (after having a lesson on it), then I had them write body paragraphs one and two (which were due 5 days before the paper and which I checked and gave minor feedback on), then I had them write the intro and body 3 paragaphs (which were due the day before the paper and which I didn’t check). On paper hand-in day, 8 students didn’t hand it in! The papers have been gradually trickling in the rest of the week, but as of yesterday, 2 girls still didn’t do them. Have I mentioned that, as a core assignment, this paper is worth 10% of their grade FOR THE COURSE???
As I’ve been grading them (since Wednesday. They are averaging Cs with me being generous in the grading), I’ve become increasingly disgruntled. It’s as though I didn’t give them any instruction at any point in time. I might as well have said, “Write a paper on this book. But don’t bother reading the book!” Here’s the major issues I’ve seen:
* No theme statement (which is obviously an issue since body 3 is supposed to prove their theme!)
* Weak/missing/or off-task topic sentences (when someone puts on a requirement sheet “a topic sentence that expresses that lightness means goodness” or “a topic sentence that expresses that darkess means evil” is there really a lot of room for confusion?)
* Examples in the light paragraph don’t actually contain lightness in them; examples in the dark paragraph don’t contain darkness in them
* No connection back to theme in body 3, but instead weakly done, lame conclusion-type coverage in a paper that doesn’t ask for a conclusion
* No explanation of the significance of the quotes selected to show light/dark
* Less than 3 quotes in the body paragraphs
* Misspellings, factual errors, use of 2nd person, contractions, not color-coded, incorrect font/margins, missing name and page number in header–pretty much no editing and formatting directions taken into account
* Inability to meet the minimum page requirement of a whopping 2.5 pages
One kid so far wrote about a different topic altogether and didn’t cover light and dark but instead the duality of nature (which was the topic of the example theme statement I supplied them, so it isn’t even as though he’s being original!). One kid turned his paper in 2 days late and it was 3/4 of a page short AND missing 2 quotes. One kid turned in his paper with the pages out of order.
Today’s batch just got worse and worse and worse. Ds and Fs abounded.
Reading them, I felt like someone was playing a cruel joke on me.
Not only did I re-structure this paper for them and choose a different, easier topic for them than I’ve done with kids in the past, but I thought that I’d accounted for everything and put it in writing and gave everyone a copy and explained and modeled and chunked and lowered expectations to such a degree that, in my mind, I’d created an idiot-proof task. I set these kids up for success.
AND THEY STILL FAILED!
It’s hard not to take this personally. I can’t help thinking of it and wondering what I may have done differently to make it easier still for them. But I know–and I know to my very core–that this is NOT my fault. This is not a case where there’s been a miscommunication and they didn’t understand what I wanted. This is not a case where the material was too difficult for them to discuss intelligently. They had the standards. They’d done good work with the material in class and already discussed it intelligently. No, this is a case where I was asking them to do something, to show a product, to put a little effort into what they were doing. This was a case where I was asking them to think. But that is something that they just will not do. And how dare I ask them to do it?
I can say with some degree of certainty that I have spent longer grading and commenting on some of their papers than they did writing them in the first place. I am absolutely giving them a lot more thought.
I don’t know when it happened that thinking and working and effort became impossible tasks. But I do know that I have just about had it. I’m at the end of my rope.
I’m not even supposed to enforce my late penalties (even though I’m doing it anyway) because the shift is toward separating so-called behavioral characteristics (responsibility, meeting deadlines, being awake in class, for instance) from summative assessments (the paper quality itself). This means, for example, that if the kid who handed in his paper on Thursday had written an A paper, that he should get an A on it despite it being 2 days late. The penalty for his lateness should be addressed somewhere separate.
I think that’s complete and utter bullshit. Here’s my example: Say “Bob” is in the business world and is assigned a presentation for a Monday meeting at 9am when the dude from Tokyo is flying in. “Bob,” though, isn’t prepared at 9am for the meeting. Thankfully, “Bob” has the presentation ready on Tuesday and it’s freaking excellent–the best presentation ever. Oh but wait– the dude from Tokyo flew home Monday at noon and the company lost a million-dollar deal. Is that going to be ok? Is “Bob’s” job efficacy going to be measured on the presentation he had ready the day after it was due or the one that wasn’t ready when it was due? Exactly. Time management is part of life. Some people argue that school isn’t business. I disagree with that, too. School is business. It’s the business of learning. And time management and organization and chunking assignments and meeting deadlines and creating a quality product in the time allotted to one are all lessons of life.
It doesn’t matter what we do in the classroom, because kids today just don’t care. They don’t want to learn. They don’t want to work. They don’t want to think. And if we try to hold them accountable, we’re the bad guys.
Oh yes, paper time is a very, very bad time indeed. It makes one face the hard, ugly truths of this job.
Uglier still: I have 17 more to go.
Mel commented on Feb 17 11 at 7:54 pmThe above was another blog by Ms. Munroe.
Linda, the original one commented on Feb 18 11 at 4:55 pmSo?
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