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Today’s Single Men Want Children More Than Women?

Posted by danielle sullivan on February 5th, 2011 at 12:45 am
838397 playing with daddy Today’s Single Men Want Children More Than Women?

Match.com says single men want kids more than women.

In a new survey performed by leading dating site Match.com, results show that single men want to have children more than single women. Twenty-four percent of single men without children under the age of 18 want to have children while only fifteen percent of the women surveyed want kids. The study also reveals that 33 percent of both men and women want to get married.

Keep in mind, the survey is not exactly from a scientific journal and although Match.com is saying the study is the most comprehensive American study of its kind, it has been released right in time for pre-Valentine Day’s sign-ups. The results were likely meant to draw more women into keeping hope alive that there is that special someone out there who is looking for nothing more than to settle down and start a family.

Could it be true?

With women gaining broader independence and no longer having to rely on husbands for financial compensation, it stands to reason that women are putting off marriage and motherhood, at least until the threat of their biological clock sets in. Yet with so many fertility options today, even that fear is weakening. I have seen this time and time again in my single female friends. In fact, I hope that’s what my daughters do: have a career and enjoy the single life in their twenties before settling down. I see that as a healthy expectation.

Also, amid the various choices for career and personal growth and satisfaction, many women are no longer compelled to have children at all. A growing number of American women no longer feel societal pressure or the need to have kids to make their life whole. That is also something I am seeing expand in my own social circle as well.

The part that throws me off is that more single guys want kids than women? The majority of single men I know and have known aren’t really thinking about ticking biological clocks and finding Ms. Right. Rather they are concerned with goals and choices that many single women are facing: finding job satisfaction (or a job in general in today’s economy), advancing in their career, and pursuing personal growth opportunities.

According to the Huffington Post, Dr. Helen Fisher, chief scientific advisor of the study says not so fast, if you look at the date, you’ll see how time has changed and romantic gender roles have been reversed:

“I’m amazed this study hasn’t been done before but in my literature search I’ve found nothing as comprehensive,” says Dr. Helen Fisher, biological anthropologist and chief scientific advisor for Chemistry.com and Match.com who led the study.

Dr. Fisher adds, “This survey busts some entrenched myths about women, men, sex and love. In fact, today’s singles are returning to dating patterns that are highly compatible with our ancient human brain…With a few remarkable exceptions: men are now expressing some traditionally female attitudes while women are adopting some of those long attributed to men!”

Have the tides really turned? Do you think more men want kids than women?

Source: Huffington Post

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Tweets that mention Today’s Single Men Want Children More Than Women? | Strollerderby -- Topsy.com commented on Feb 05 11 at 1:56 am

My guess is that this is all part of the dating game. Women don’t want to have their desire for children advertised on their profile, before they have even met the guy. Guys perceive that women may respond more positively to them if they say that they plan on having children. It would be interesting to see who men and women contacted and responded to — did they respond more readily to folks who want kids, don’t want kids, or did it not matter.

Jendy commented on Feb 05 11 at 8:18 am

It could also be the whole Peter Pan syndrome is outdated and today’s men are open to the idea that growing up is manly, not whipped. Overgrown little boys are not appealing, and they don’t seem to be glorified as much anymore. I mean, Hugh Hefner is a laughable figure, and people wonder what’s wrong with actors and other male celebrities who go decade after decade with no sign of settling down. It’s not just women wondering either.

Marj commented on Feb 05 11 at 4:46 pm

Really? We’re relying on dating service surveys for meaningful information now? The stupid factor of some of these posts is just out of this world. *******Editors: If you want people to view this blog as as a source of intelligent information and discussion, you might want to lose these sort of posts, along with the ones on astrology and the British royal family, which, let’s face it, aren’t even remotely parenting topics anyway.****

Linda, the original one commented on Feb 05 11 at 5:01 pm

My guess is that the men don’t view children as a threat to their career and independence, and can look forward to fatherhood without ambivalence. For good reason. The world has changed, but not that much.

moremadder commented on Feb 05 11 at 5:42 pm

@Topsy I was going to say the same thing! hello?!? The information used in this survey was provided by people trying hopefully score dates. The women don’t want to scare the men off, and the men want to appear like sensitve family types! Duh!

Terra commented on Feb 08 11 at 4:50 pm

Interesting. …

Yet, there are STILL many teen pregnancies and teen parents and also ones in their twenties….

and many more to come.

like my cousins

…and the one on TV

—————————-

but if this IS true.

then THANK GOD.

Finally.

Women who are now being responsible about their lives/sex lives and IN CONTROL of their futures and them being stable and confident in what they do.

To bad for those though, in the past, …that already went through the motherhood route.

…and the ones that ALREADY are pregnant

or still PLANNING on having kids so their boyfriends could stay.

NOn YA commented on Mar 23 11 at 3:36 pm

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