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Do Your Stretch Marks Make You Sad?

Posted by madeline holler on August 27th, 2010 at 3:25 pm

stretch marks cesarean section scar self image 300x200 Do Your Stretch Marks Make You Sad?Pregnancy and childbirth can really do a number on your body (can I get an Amen!). Some of the weirdness — line down the middle of your torso, darkened face, extra pounds (ha!), bloated face — eventually goes away. Other stuff? It’s pretty much here to stay (I mentioned the extra pounds, yes?).

For a lot of women, the permanent markings like stretch marks and c-section scars have a huge psychological impact.

One study of 100 women found that nearly half suffered a negative self-confidence related to stretch marks and scars. Only a quarter of them were satisfied with advice their doctors and midwives had given them regarding the matter. Half the women dressed in order to hide their stretch marks. More than one quarter had been worried about stretch marks during pregnancy and two-thirds received no advice at all regarding them.

Now, important to note is that the study was funded by a group selling products they claim improve the appearance of stretch marks or lessens and prevents them. So of course the stats are all doom and gloom. Still, the fact that half of the women surveyed aren’t all that excited about their stretch marks isn’t so surprising.

The results of the study (and plenty of plugs for the product) were published in the online journal Nursing in Practice. The article quotes a midwife who, I think accurately, intimates that we mere mortals are made to feel freakish when celebrities show up in People with little to no evidence of having had a baby three weeks prior. Not only are they fatless, but their skin is flawless. And they claim its genes (which it sometimes is) and ignore that it’s Photoshop (which it, more often than not, is too).

I think celebrity culture and the faux returns to pre-pregnancy bodies helps in making women feel bad about these changes, but our culture is also somewhat fixated on the idea that we can pretend nothing much really happened when we had babies and became parents. Anyway, like the kids themselves, stretch marks are an indicator that life altered with pregnancy, we moved on, it’s OK to change!

My body has never been my lead feature, so I’m not all that bothered by my stretch marks. I remember, though, during my first pregnancy, the nurse in my OBs office used to run her hands over my growing belly praising me for having no stretch marks. “That’s good!” she would enthuse. I’m not sure I even knew what a stretch mark was back then.

At the end of my eighth month, though, I saw a few of them appear. And then more and then more. I didn’t really care, not knowing they would be around until the end of time, but all I could think was how disappointed the nurse was going to be.

How do you feel about your stretch marks? Your c-section scar? Do you remember your pre-marked belly?

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Children Television and Good Parenting | Strollerderby commented on Aug 30 10 at 3:11 pm

My stretch marks and c-section scar are small prices to pay for the gift of my baby boys. I might get “the girls” lifted sometime in the future though.

Mistress_Scorpio commented on Aug 27 10 at 4:42 pm

I hate my stretch marks :( My nurse during childbirth said that I had some of the worst she’d ever seen. They’re horrible.

Ri-chan commented on Aug 27 10 at 5:40 pm

Hate hate hate mine. They are horrible. I weighed 93lbs through my 1st trimester then gained 70lbs the next 3 months (he was born early). They are everywhere…stomach, back, sides, bottom of my boobs, thighs and oh yea on one calf (Yes one.) And they are deep. And the more weight I loose the more they show.
Sorry but I guess I’ve been holding that rant in for a long time. LOL

JZ commented on Aug 27 10 at 8:12 pm

If I want to look as good in photos as the the celebs do, I’ll retouch my photos like I always do. I don’t love my stretch marks, but honestly, they’re not the end of the world, either. I’m not a bikini model, it won’t ruin my career, and anyone who doesn’t like them can feel free to not look at me.

Samantha commented on Aug 28 10 at 12:20 am

Not really bothered by the stretch marks. They fade and I sort of view them as a badge of honour. However, this “overhang” that persists in mu lower stomach after a c-section 4 weeks ago- I’m going to try exercise but my mind is already dreaming of tummy tucks!!!

Andrea commented on Aug 28 10 at 11:39 am

Agree Scorp. The lines on the belly were totally worth it for my sweet twins. Besides, I look better by candlelight anyway. Once those lines fade enough, who could tell they were there with how pale I am?

Marj commented on Aug 28 10 at 2:56 pm

My body has never been my lead feature, so I’m not all that bothered by my stretch marks. I remember, though, during my first pregnancy, the nurse in my OBs office used to run her hands over my growing belly praising me for having no stretch marks. “That’s good!” she would enthuse. I’m not sure I even knew what a stretch mark was back then.

Madeline, this kind of writing is exactly why I try to read your SD posts first. Bravo.

Voice of Reason commented on Aug 29 10 at 12:40 am

My stretch marks are extensive and dark, but they don’t bother me that much. No one can see them when I’m fully dressed. I am very bothered by other changes though. The reality is that there are regular clothes, and there are maternity clothes, but there are no “empty sack where the twins used to be” clothes. So I’m stuck wearing baggy clothes even though I am back to my pre-pregnancy weight. It bothers me a lot.

Obviously it’s all so worth it. I don’t think missing your old body means you somehow don’t value your kids. It’s just that some things about becoming a mom are awesome, and some things suck. My belly is one of things that sucks.

Manjari commented on Aug 30 10 at 11:13 am

They bothered me at the beginning because I did not get any while pregnant with my son but got some dark ones while pregnant with my daughter (in fact that picture up there is how my belli looks like, weird :) Now I don’t really care about them. I have my two babies, that is all I care about.

Rosana commented on Aug 30 10 at 2:02 pm

Comments I was horrified when I came to the realization that baby number two wouldn’t be using the same stretch marks but creating her very own. Now that I’m pregnant with baby number five I could care less, BUT the extra sagging skin is so disturbing.

Sarah commented on Aug 30 10 at 7:27 pm

IAM GLSD THAT I DONT HAVE THEM AND IAM EXICTED TO HAVE MY SON WITH ME MOST PEOPLE HAVE TO GET USE TO IT BECAUSE THAT WAT YOUE BABY GAVE U WHEN HE WAS GROWING INSIDE OF YOU BE PROUD OF THEM YOUR CHILD GAVE YOU THEM STRECTH MARKS!!!!!!!! ALSO YOU SHOULD REMBER THAT WHAT WAS YOUR BIRTH WAS LIKE

MALISSA KILLINGSWORTH commented on Aug 31 10 at 3:20 pm

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