I think its only hair and I agree wash out is a good idea. Its more important to worry about her moral charecter than her hair color. So I totally agree with you.

I’m going to let it happen, when it does. And I’ll be letting her pierce her ears soon, too–she’s six. I guess I think making your outer appearance match your inner vision of yourself is really important to a kid. Plus life is easier if you get to do the cool stuff first. That may not be right, but it’s just the way it is.

My parents’ mantra was “you are not permitted to do anything permanent to your appearance without our permission until you are 18 and have your own health insurance. Anything non-permanent is fine, but you must deal with any consequences and ramifications of it.” Our school had a dresscode that actually addressed “hair colors not in nature”, along with the use of nail polish, etc…

My sister was doing a box job when she was 15 and I stole the leftover dye that she put in the trashcan when she went back to her room. I was 11. Needless to say, I had no idea what I was doing, so I ended up dying only the left side of my head totally uneven and the tips of the right side a streaky, blotchy, orange (I’m naturally dark brown…I think). My mom thought it was so hilarious she took me around to all my family to show off how stupid I was and let everyone take pictures. It seriously took like 3 years to fix that, and once you start dying, you can’t ever stop. I regret it so much, but it was pretty damn funny.

My 7 y/o son “ha[d] to have a mohawk” before his school talent show. I’m not that into the whole mohawk thing, but it’s his head and it’ll grow back.

I don’t fight with my kids over hair, but if I’m paying for it, I get veto power. I vetoed mohawks for my twins for the past few years, but pointedly told them each time we went for a haircut how much it cost…a few months ago, they finally saved their allowance and went for it.

I don’t see hair dye as particularly grown up, and in fact dying ones hair strange colors with Koolaid seems like something everybody in their tweens around me did (not me, I’m afraid of bees). It is not something I worry about, honestly. It’s his hair, whatever he wants to do with it is his business.

I say let her have fun with her hair color while she can. I was too old (and employed) to dye my hair a crazy color by the time I really wanted to do it… have some fun.

That was my mom’s problem after my trashcan makeover. She kept saying “Do you have any idea how much getting your hair colored costs?” She was talking professionally–and that’s the only problem I would have with it. Too much freaking money! But if your daughter wants to do the non-permanents or box jobs, whatever. I’d let her.

I started box jobs when I was 13, and yes, it is difficult to stop, especially with drastic changes. However, I am growing out my last dye job now (black) to remember what color my hair actually is. As long as it’s done properly, it won’t damage the hair to the point of being fried, so just monitor the frequency of dyeing. Semi-permanent is a good ‘test run’ – I started there.

I am a strong advocate of self expression and could care less what other mothers and people think BUT I am concerned that letting children dye their hair can be dangerous. There are so many predators out there and when your allowing a 7, 8, 9 or pre-teen dye their hair like a grown up it can invite inappropriate attention. Save hair dying for parties, halloween, performances etc. Clearly you have to allow your child some freedoms to express themselves and can’t over shelter, but it is your job to keep them safe and teach them why certain things such as dying your hair isn’t kid appropriate.

I was allowed to dye my hair in 9th grade, but not before then. So with my kids I am doing the same. My kids think the rule is a little funny, but they don’t nag me about it.