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Should Dads Ever Push for Pre-Baby Mom Body?
Well this is awkward.
I usually like what the guys over at DadLabs do with their videos, even if I can’t stand their stereotypical “dad cave” studio set. (Hello? Where’s the set for dads who wait all day just to watch a Glee rerun so they can hear a sing-off featuring “Defying Gravity?“)
But I digress. In the following video, Daddy Clay is talking to someone who markets Shrinkx Hips, which are supposed to help moms get their pre-baby body back faster — something about the chemical relaxin and squeezing and looking awesome in a girdle when you really just want to sleep all day long.
Watching the video, I kept thinking, “I’m not so sure I would ever bring up the topic of getting back to a pre-baby body, especially in those first weeks.”
Then Clay asks the woman if it’s OK for dads to ever bring it up. Her answer? No. Of course not. Are you just stupid?
OK, I made the last part up. But she did admit this information would probably be best delivered by a close girlfriend.
Hmm, so why the video plug?
Still, it did bring up a good topic: Is it OK for dads to ever bring up the subject? Or is that pretty much like committing suicide?
Check out the video below.
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GP commented on Jan 07 10 at 1:07 pmYes, it is OK. Partners are supposed to be able to share everything, and there are appropriate ways/times to do this.
RobMonroe commented on Jan 07 10 at 1:12 pmGuess it depends on your relationship with your significant other. For me – honesty has always worked. My wife tells me what she thinks, and I tell her. It’s best to deal with things in the open. I have found, on some very tough issues – more important than weight issues, that she had the same thoughts and just needed to talk it through.
JEssica commented on Jan 07 10 at 1:20 pmUmm..they can come close to getting it back, but not ever really without surgery or medical intervention. So if you ask me, sounds like if you need to ask this question to your wife, you care more about you than your wife’s health (physical and mental) and your babys health. But if you don’t care about those two items, ask away. I am sure she already knows she married poorly.
alison commented on Jan 07 10 at 3:04 pmI know women got their pre-pregnancy body back or whose post-baby bodies are better than before. But they didn’t get it back, magically, in the first few weeks, it took months of healthy eating, breastfeeding, and exercise. My suspicion is the ShrinxxHips thing is another product which will have more success at shrinking the wallets of the unhappy/desperate/hopeful consumer than their hips. But that wasn’t the question. I think, as in all things, it depends on the individuals involved. If a man is suggesting a healthy exercise and eating program for his spouse because he wants her to feel better about herself or if a husband suggests buying something goofy like this as a means of consoling a spouse who is freaking out because she keeps hearing how her body will never really be the way it was before, I don’t really see what is wrong with that. Someone who bemoans that his post-baby wife’s body doesn’t look like Heidi Klum’s, on the other hand, probably shouldn’t bring the subject up (even if she had Heidi Klum’s body pre-baby).
GP commented on Jan 07 10 at 5:04 pmYeah…the product belongs in the trash can. Hubby should watch the kid or hook her up w a gym membership/babysitter while she works out and do his part to help not have junk in the house if he wants her to slim down…
Citizen Mom commented on Jan 07 10 at 9:23 pmI would hope a hubby would take a good long at his own bod before suggesting any “helpful” products.
baconsmom commented on Jan 08 10 at 3:35 pmIf all you want is a hot body, why bother getting married and having kids? My husband loves me for *me*. The personality inside is what keeps the attraction going, and that’s true for me as well. If I never expected that at some point over the (hopefully) 50+ years of marriage that our bodies would look differently, I’d be an idiot. And so would he, if he thought the same.
I guess I just think there are more important things than appearances – especially in a brand-new family.
MsFortune commented on Jan 10 10 at 11:55 amIf hubby just offered it up to me, I’d be mad. But if he suggested it to me after listening to me bitch about how I still looked pregnant, I’d say it was helpful advice.
Tonks commented on Jan 11 10 at 12:17 pmAt first I thought it was to help women in the tummy area to flatten. Why on earth would I want smaller hips!? That’s right up there with nice sized boobs, I want my bigger hips to stay, wish it was that easy to keep the boobs..lol
ashLee commented on Jan 12 10 at 11:28 pmI’ll have to agree with GP’s comment. Before a husband opens up the issue, he should go and look at himself in the mirror. For a woman, it’s a bit irritating to be told by somebody(who doesn’t have a good physical physique) to go slim down.
Anyway, for me, I think it’s okay to bring up the issue but to “push” your wife to go back to her body figure before pregnancy, I might get a bit mad and insulted.
BrandonN commented on Jan 28 10 at 5:05 pmIs it true that we can enter to win one of those by commenting on here? It would save me some money, as my wife is going to make me buy her one anyway. lol
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