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Mother Defends Son Accused of Burning Peer
Two fifteen-year-olds and one sixteen-year-old are in jail facing attempted murder charges after they allegedly doused their peer, Michael Brewer, in rubbing alcohol and flicked a lighter, all over a $40 video game.
One of those charged is Denver Jarvis, and his mother recently appeared on The Today Show to discuss her feelings about the brutal attack.
She was accompanied by her other son, 13-year-old Jeremy, who was present for the attack but against whom charges have been dropped.
It may be hard to imagine what a mother could possibly say in defense of a crime that heinous. And in fact, Sherry Jarvis doesn’t seem to have much of use to say, which makes this story doubly tragic. She repeats platitudes such as, “They’re not monsters,” and, “There are two sides to every story.” Such bland statements come off as callous in the face of so much suffering, and I came away from the interview feeling that a boy with such unforgivably violent tendencies should not be returned to this woman’s care.
Certainly, this interview was conducted in what must be one of the most difficult times of her life, but I got the sense that she was a bit checked out from reality–which is probably at least part of the reason her sons’ behavior got so out of control in the first place.
That said, I don’t think this clearly troubled young man will learn lessons in compassion from jail, either. This doesn’t mean that I don’t think he should be locked up–he has absolutely forfeited the right to his freedom–but I think his mother did have a point when she mumbled something about rehabilation, saying that while she believes there should be punishment, she doesn’t see how it helps anyone to “throw away” a 15-year-old.
And when 13-year-old Jeremy puts his head in his hands while watching the video about Brewer’s painful physical therapy and then says, “Michael is one of my friends; he was one of my friends until all of this happened,” you do get a sense of how terribly young everyone involved in this tragedy was.
Anyone who’s ever dealt with a teenager knows that a 15-year-old brain is not fully formed, and I do believe there’s a chance of turning these kids around if they end up in an effective treatment program while behind bars. Unfortunately, our criminal justice system was made to deal with adult offenders, and teenage offenders rarely get the schooling and mental health treatment they need in jail.
Nevertheless, extreme violence cannot go unpunished, even by our broken system, and perhaps Sharvis is naive when she says, “I don’t see that throwing a 15 year-old away for 30 years helps.” Do you agree that such a punishment is too harsh, or have Brewer’s attackers forfeited the right to liberty for many years to come?
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They Say: Don’t Treat Kids Like Felons | Strollerderby commented on Dec 18 09 at 11:58 amKnitty commented on Dec 15 09 at 12:52 pmThere are TWO SIDES TO EVERY STORY? OMG, the willful stupidity. Yes, there are two sides: the side of the innocent victim and then side of your sociopathic son who should rightly go to prison for a long, long time. These two sides are in no way equal. There are some 15-year-olds who should be thrown away, and one who splashes another human being with gasoline and then lights him on fire is about the clearest example one could find.
PlumbLucky commented on Dec 15 09 at 1:22 pmEither she’s saying what she is under the advice of an attorney, or she’s completely clueless.
Citizen Mom commented on Dec 15 09 at 1:30 pmWow, this is awful, and I am the mom of boy. However, I do think it’s too harsh. But I do think there should be consequences. First, donate his video stuff and computer to charity – clearly he’s not ready for them. then he should have to go to therapy and report to a school psychologist weekly as well as a parole officer. Also the parents should be fined for the any costs related to their son’s injuries. Maybe even an ankle bracelet for the kid – he certainly doesn’t need to be hanging out at the mall. Maybe more time on homework will give him better perspective about what’s important in life.
I do not want my tax dollars spent on a trial, jail time, appeals, and parole when there are much better ways to hold a child accountable for his/her actions.
Mistress_Scorpio commented on Dec 15 09 at 2:17 pmPut them away.
Knitty commented on Dec 15 09 at 2:22 pm“Hold a child accountable for his/her actions”? Seriously? We’ve not talking about a kid who blackened a friend’s eye, he doused him with gasoline and set him on fire! I, personally, am fine with my tax money being spent on locking this sort of monster up for the rest of his natural life. The rest of society needs protection from people like him, and that’s what we have prisons for.
alison commented on Dec 15 09 at 2:41 pm“Two sides to every story”?
Parents who do not hold their children accountable for bullying and/or teach them through their own actions that bullying is okay are part of the problem. It is tragic that these young boys are sociopaths and are already a danger to society, it is tragic that their parents let things get to this point, but it would be an even greater tragedy if these boys were let off simply because of their age.
Barb commented on Dec 16 09 at 10:18 amIf these kids just get away with a slap on the wrist, we’re sending the message to the rest of the youth in our country that you can do basically anything to anyone and get away with it. They tried to KILL the boy–they need severe consequences.
Andrew commented on Feb 05 10 at 12:25 pmSherry Jarvis should listen to the horrifying 911 call for Michael Brewer. I couldn’t even listen to the whole thing. Michael’s screams were too gut wrenching and sad to listen to. He was clearly experiencing extreme pain. If Sherry Jarvis heard this call and still defends the actions of her son then she is a delusional mother.experiencing extreme pain. If Sherry Jarvis heard this call and still defends the actions of her son then she is a delusional mother.
Theresa Moore commented on Mar 30 10 at 8:27 pmComments That Jarvis woman needs a wake-up call. What her son did was so vicious, so digustingly horrid, U dont even see how he is classified as being human. Her child is a monster. OK< its still her kid and she loves him no matter what, but face reality and show some humility and admit the kid is Damien, Omen III. He committed a crime of unspeakable magnitide and had destroyed an innocent victim’s life and that of his family. She he get rehab or prison? PRISON. 30 years sounds appropriate.. give him time to think about what he did. Here’s a thougt.. Mommy wants mercy for her criminal brat? Fine, lets douse them both with alcohol and flick our bicks.. if they survive the kid gets a reduced sentence. If he doesnt survive? Oh well, no loss. One less predator to deal with. Jarivis and her son should rot in hell.
My prayers to the burned child and his family.
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