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Do Sex Offenders Belong at Church?

Posted by amy kuras on October 16th, 2009 at 1:01 pm

gesu 199x300 Do Sex Offenders Belong at Church?How would you feel if you knew the person sitting next to you in church was a sex offender?

Me, I’d be pretty nervous. And I’m not the only one. Some churches are banning sex offenders from the weekly service, because they offer things like a nursery for children or Sunday school. That puts offenders inc conflict with several states’ laws that require sex offenders to stay a certain distance away from any facility that cares for or serves children.

One ex-offender, James Nichols, is suing the state of North Carolina over its law requiring sex offenders stay 300 feet from any facility that serves children. Sadly, he got arrested when he called police to report a fellow congregant at Moncure Baptist Church fondling a 12-year-old girl. When police checked his record, they found his second-degree attempted rape conviction and took him off to jail.

Nichols credits religion with keeping him on the straight and narrow, and now attends a church which caters to ex-cons like himself and has no children as regular congregants.

This is a tough one. On the one hand, these laws don’t necessarily keep kids safe — the man Nichols called the cops on was an ex-offender himself and shouldn’t have been at the church, either. And my kids are always pretty tightly supervised at church, by adults who are directly related and plenty of others who have known them since they were born. And while I can’t speak to the teaching of other faiths, Christians are supposed to be all about the love and forgiveness. Being part of a church community certainly could help these people to live better.

On the other hand, my mama bear instincts kick in and I think that I don’t want a sex offender to be in the same county as my kids let alone the same pew. While at least in my state some of the things that can land you on the sex offender registry are pretty mild — an 18 year old having consensual sex with a 16-year-old can do it — I think people who do sick things to kids are pretty much always going to be that way, and I don’t want them to have free access to kids no matter how much they have “paid their debt to society.”

Kind of a tough one, really. What do you think?

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If these offenders somehow “disappeared” from the community (hint, hint, men of the community) we wouldn’t have to worry about this. That said, sure, let ‘em go to church. I won’t be there.

GP commented on Oct 16 09 at 1:20 pm

CommentsI wouldn’t really want them their either, but…..I suppose if faith and religion keep them on the right path, who am I to say no you cant come here? It is food for thought.

S commented on Oct 16 09 at 4:17 pm

I think there is something in the bible about forgiveness and turning the other cheek? Maybe I’m just crazy and its just a big book of jokes and riddles. If not church, then where? I work in a large state park where school groups come to visit. Will we need to perform background checks on every single visitor coming into the park? Parents, keep track of your children.

Rob B. commented on Oct 16 09 at 4:27 pm

Maybe the sex offender should have to make it known to the clergy of the church that he/she was attending, and the church could make its own policy. I honestly think some of the whole “registered sex offenders must stay X number of feet away” thing gives people a false sense of security. The most dangerous sex offender, IMO, is one that hasn’t been caught yet. I could see the kids being endangered by a sex offender working in the church nursery, but I don’t see how attending services in the attached sanctuary could be any more dangerous than the fact that sex offenders ride the same public transit, go to the same shopping malls, hospitals, etc, as everyone else.

jenny tries too hard commented on Oct 16 09 at 4:36 pm

Yes! I think its where they NEED to be – however, I don’t think they belong working with children in the church or in a position where people would be leaving their children with them.

T commented on Oct 16 09 at 4:51 pm

in some places peeing outside is a sex crime. and if a kid sees it, that’s a sex crime involving a minor. or being naked outside, or getting busted in any kind of sex act in your car or in your back yard, or anywhere else in public view or any other number of things that do not involve raping kids. sex offender registries are bunk and should only include sex crimes where there is a minor victim. pedophiles should simply not be allowed out of jail, rather than the rest of the population freaking out about where they are, what they’re doing, where they can go, what rights they have left etc. know what your area’s definition of a sex offender is before you start deciding whether or not they are allowed to go to church.

sex offender is not the same as pedophile commented on Oct 16 09 at 5:02 pm

our church is actually going through this right now – we have a member about to get out of jail and is hoping to return to our congregation. It’s very complicated – our Pastor is working to create a plan for accountability (a team of people, one of which will always be with him in the building, places in the building he cannot go, etc) It doesn’t feel like the “Christian thing to do” to exclude him, but including him requires honesty, accountability, open communication and a heck of a lot of work for the Pastor and staff. I agree with the comment above too – our church can do all of this and still not be protecting kids from the person who has not “offended” yet. It is a tough one.

b commented on Oct 16 09 at 5:40 pm

I think everyone deserves a chance at redemption. Jesus forgives and so should his followers. So I believe that they should be able to attend church but not participate or help with any youth activities. Personally, I feel that Christian Fellowship really helps people (ALL people)stay on the right track. Our church institutes a Safe From Harm program that sets up an environment using a series of rules to prevent any chance of, well, harm (hence the name). I think this is more constructive than just banning registered sex offenders from church… besides we know that not all predators are registered.

Devene commented on Oct 17 09 at 12:18 pm

Another example of Christian hypocracy. Just like Churches locking their doors or turning away people in need, just like people gossiping in church or hatemongering in church.

Ri-chan commented on Oct 17 09 at 3:54 pm

I’m a mother of 3 children and while I’m not comfortable with them supervising or being responsible for my children, I’m realistic about everything else. I don’t know whose at the beach with my kids. I don’t know who works construction on the crew working at their schools. I don’t know who’s sitting on the next bench over from us at the mall. I’m also no more comfortable with a murderer than with a child molester but they don’t have to register. At the end of the day, church is not for the perfect and if we start saying who can and who cannot walk through those doors, we night end up with no one good enough or saintly enough to sit and receive forgiveness. My being uncomfortable means I’m vigilant about my children and their welfare. No law can protect my child. It can only punish the violators.

cerenatee commented on Apr 05 11 at 2:23 pm

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