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When a C-Section is Like Rape

Posted by jeannesager on October 6th, 2009 at 9:28 am

 When a C Section is Like RapeAn Arizona mother who says she just wants the chance at natural childbirth is comparing her doctors’ decision to demand a C-section to rape.

As far as Joy Szabo is concerned, the hospital’s not making a medical decision but a financial one in telling her she cannot attempt to deliver her fourth child vaginally.

Especially in light of her last VBAC – a successful vaginal delivery of her third child at the same hospital that is now telling her she must have a C-section because she had an emergency Cesarean once before (there was a placental abruption with her second child).

So she’s painted her van with the words “Page Hospital, enter my body without permission. . . Sounds like rape to me.”

She’s also spent her pregnancy meeting with the hospital’s board of directors and other hospital officials to lobby for her right to choose – in this case choosing how to give birth.

The hospital has pointed to the American College of Obstetrics and Gynecology (ACOG) recommendations for emergency back-up as reasons the hospital can’t approve a VBAC. Yet the ACOG cites a sixty to eighty percent success rate for women delivering vaginally after a C-section. Success rates of SECOND VBACs are even higher than the first time around, which puts the likelihood of Szabo encountering trouble even lower.

The word rape is a lightning rod, and it is often used too casually to describe invasive reaches into people’s private lives. But it well describes the powerlessness women fighting for a VBAC often feel.

And they’re all up against the same establishment as Szabo – hospitals that say they can’t have enough staff on hand for an emergency C-section in case the VBAC goes wrong.  Considering the repeated elective surgery has been found to be worse on the body than a VBAC, it would stand to reason that the hospitals would instead add extra staff to help deal with the resulting problems of the C-section. But they aren’t. Which throws medical reasoning out the window.

And it brings everyone back to Joy Szabo’s idea – her hospital cares about the money, not her choice. And they’re willing to make her lie down on a table and force something onto her body which she doesn’t want – and doesn’t medically need.

Sound like rape to you?

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This is why people think pregnant women are crazy–woman likens her C-section to rape « Taking a chance on baby… commented on Nov 12 09 at 10:43 pm

Rape?? Um, no, it does NOT sound like rape to me. You should be ashamed of yourself. And sorry, but in tough economic times, hospitals have to think about the bottom line, especially with so many uninsured people that they are obligated to treat.

Lorraine commented on Oct 06 09 at 9:41 am

Um, no. You should be completely ashamed, as should she. Rape is a horrific crime of sexual abuse. This is a medical issue. Period. She lost whatever credibility she had in her argument with the hospital as far as I’m concerned – its people who make comparisons like this who trivialize rape.

PlumbLucky commented on Oct 06 09 at 9:59 am

Though economic times does not call for putting patients health or even lives at risk. I do not care if the hospital is going bankrupt, it does not give them the right to force me to have a C-section when I can well give birth naturally. When I was in labor the first time, my doctor was calling for a C-section, even though it was like the fourth time he walked in the delivery room to check on me and if it wasn’t for the angel delivery nurse that was with me that night, I would have had a C-section, when I did not need one. She told the doctor flat out that I was totally capable of giving birth naturally and that was the end :)

Rosana commented on Oct 06 09 at 10:00 am

I’m sorry but…
“The word rape is a lightning rod, and it is often used too casually to describe invasive reaches into people’s private lives. But it well describes the powerlessness women fighting for a VBAC often feel.”
Um…I take it you’ve not been raped. Seriously. I would have taken an unwanted C-section, thank you very much. Its one of two options for birth…not a life altering attack. There is not comparison and to make it one is completely disgusting. Those fighting for a VBAC may think that its akin, but I would be willing to bet that any woman who has been a victim of sexual assault would disagree. I know that I do.

PlumbLucky commented on Oct 06 09 at 10:04 am

Um, if she doesn’t want Page hospital to “enter her body” she shouldn’t use Page hospital. Yes, I know that sounds a little flip, but frankly if having a VBAC is that important to her, she can pay for it herself at another hospital if insurance payment is an issue. This isn’t a story about doctors and a hospital forcing their will on her body—this is a story about a hospital refusing to participate in what it considers

1.)Dangerous

2.)A poor use of the hospital’s stretched-thin resources

Hospitals, public and private, have an obligation to provide appropriate medical care. That medical care should take into consideration the plans and wants of the patient, but shouldn’t bend over backwards for them. Doctors, the people who devote their adult lives to constantly updating their knowledge of the human body and the ways to treat it, must have the final say in what is appropriate medical care. Patients have the right to disagree and to refuse said treatment but NEVER a right to force and bully the doctor or hospital into giving treatment on the patient’s terms.

Comparing a hospital’s refusal to do what she wants to rape is a gross insult to real victims of sexual assault.

jenny tries too hard commented on Oct 06 09 at 10:17 am

She is trivializing rape. She needs to find another hospital, another doctor, another option if she doesn’t like the situation. But she is being awful in her quest to make a point.

Mistress_Scorpio commented on Oct 06 09 at 10:23 am

Oh, and as far as “forcing” her to have c-section, they won’t. This patient would have to sign forms of consent unless she were brought into the hospital on the verge of death. The fact that the hospital doesn’t offer a VBAC does not mean she will be tied down and cut open against her will. If she chooses to go to Page, she will be told, “We can give you a CS or we can send you home or to another hospital. If you want the CS sign these forms, if you want the transfer, sign these forms.” This woman has limited choices because of her location, yes, but no one is forcing her to live there or to have a c-section.

jenny tries too hard commented on Oct 06 09 at 10:27 am

The word “rape” may be too strong, and this is not what I would consider a “sexual” issue. HOWEVER — the hospital IS essentially forcing her to give birth how they want her to (which seems bizarre, especially considering that she’s had a successful VBAC!). Whatever happened to a woman’s right to choose? It sure doesn’t apply to birth. I’m guessing that the hospital wants someone “immediately” available, instead of “readily” or some other less urgent word. Jenny, there have been cases where women ARE forced into C-sections, so this woman isn’t totally nuts.

Have any of you read Jennifer Block’s “Pushed”? Sometimes in it the tone seemed a bit alarmist to me, but the evidence about what hospital can (or just will, even if they “can’t”) do is scary. I’m convinced that half of what goes on in hospitals with women and childbirth qualifies as assault and/or UNinformed consent.

ChiLaura commented on Oct 06 09 at 11:02 am

Laura, there have been cases of forced c-section, and that is an absolute tragedy. This is not even close to what is happening here. They have made their policy, which has medical, financial, and legal reasons, crystal-clear and she is trying to bully them. This woman’s right to choose is perfectly intact. In this country, the right to choose is NOT the right to force someone else to accommodate your choice. She has the right a VBAC, but the hospital has the right to not provide it. I have the right to an abortion, but St. Mary’s Hospital has the right to tell me to get lost if I ask them to perform it. I have the right to pull all my teeth and get dentures if I want, but the dentist has a right to say “not in my practice.” The hospital doesn’t feel they can provide enough staff to attend a VBAC without compromising other patients. They have an obligation to all their patients, not just Ms. Szabo.

jenny tries too hard commented on Oct 06 09 at 11:13 am

I agree with many comments here. Using the word rape is ridiculous and insulting to rape victims. I also agree that no one is forcing her to give birth at that hospital. She can find another place that will honor her wishes. Maybe it IS a poor medical decision for the doctors to insist on a c-section when she’s had a successful VBAC, but it certainly isn’t rape.

Manjari commented on Oct 06 09 at 11:14 am

I agree that likening her hospitals VBAC policy, which she is clearly well aware of far in advance, to a violent crime is inflammatory and irresponsible. That being said, many women don’t have a choice when it comes to the location of their labor and delivery if they want it in a medical facility. Many have access to only one community hospital that serves a large geographic area but doesn’t have the resources or demand for the staff required by the ACOG standard for VBAC. My reaction to the ACOG standard has always been, if the hospital declares that they don’t have the ability to accommodate a possible emergency c-section resulting from a failed VBAC, should they really be delivering babies at all? As we are all well aware from the skyrocketing surgical birth rates “emergency” c-sections happen all the time with women who do not have any preexisting risk. Surely these are not all happening in university or tertiary-level centers with in-house obstetric and anesthesia coverage.

Lee commented on Oct 06 09 at 2:02 pm

The woman’s comments are appalling and beyond ridiculous. She sounds very self-centered to me. A woman who is raped has no choice, none whatsoever. She still has a right to have a VBAC at another hospital. And yes, the ugly truth is Page’s decision is financially motivated, but like an earlier poster mentioned, if they moved staff from another department to accommodate this woman, other patients would suffer. If she wants to personally pay for or get her insurance company to pay for additional staff to be on duty during her labor in the event the VBAC doesn’t go as planned, and the hospital STILL refuses, now that would be an issue. But as it is, she should go find another hospital and stop comparing her situation to that of rape victims’. It’s not even close.

Jan commented on Oct 06 09 at 2:06 pm

I think this woman should go have her kid in a pile of leaves in the woods.

Suzy commented on Oct 06 09 at 2:08 pm

Well slap me silly, I agree with Jenny.
And given how this woman tend to jump to hyperbole and hysteria, I would guess she’s a VERY high lawsuit risk for the hospital and doctors. It’s terribly sad if that’s playing into their decision, but if I were them, it would sure be crossing my mind.

PS – Suzy – LOL :-)

bettywu commented on Oct 06 09 at 2:22 pm

I also agree that the word “rape” in this situation is ridiculous and diminishes the painful experiences of women who are ACTUALLY sexually assaulted.

But I’d like to point out that this hospital is feeding her a line of BS. If there are enough doctors and nurses and other medical professionals on staff to handle more than 2 or 3 laboring women at once time, there are enough to do the VBAC. Especially since the rate of first-time-mom c-sections is so high. Likely there will be at least one “emergency” c-section performed on a first time mom anyhow, what would they do with her if they’re too understaffed to be ready for an emergency c-section on any other patient??

Sabrina commented on Oct 06 09 at 2:24 pm

Placental abruption history and emergency c-section history makes her very high risk. What the hospital fears is her death or injury or death of the fetus or injury which would result in a lawsuit. They are well within their rights to defend themselves from a potential suit here. They are refusing to treat her unless she agrees to the less risky procedure. I agree with them. This woman cares little for the safety her child and is hoping to cash in. Even if they declared an emergency c-section she could bleed out or the baby expire long before they got her down the hall. She may have had a baby before but she is not a qualified doctor.

Ali commented on Oct 06 09 at 2:31 pm

So, Lee, instead of minimizing risk by insitituting a perfectly reasonable policy against VBACs, a rural hospital should put ALL the women in its community at risk by not offering OB at all? Riiiight. The reason they are delivering babies at all is that there is a need for babies to be delivered and struggling to meet that need is better than doing nothing at all.

jenny tries too hard commented on Oct 06 09 at 2:56 pm

Wow, I’m shocked at the illiberality of the comments on here. Does no one think that this woman has the right to choose how to deliver her own child? And if it’s not a matter of choice for you: Repeat C-sections can be incredibly dangerous, more so than a VBAC. Seriously, this woman’s already had one successful VBAC; why shouldn’t she be allowed to try another? Women’s choice is fine when we’re talking about abortion, apparently, but if a woman decides to keep her baby, she’s on her own when it comes to giving birth? If clinics stopped offering abortions, I can almost guarantee that every one of the above commenters would be pitching a fit; but when hospitals stop offering VBAC’s, what? Women should just be happy they’re getting a baby? I don’t understand some of you women — women! — who are so callous as to women being sliced open against their will.

ChiLaura commented on Oct 06 09 at 3:39 pm

It is not rape. She is free to go to another hospital. Most women wanting VBACS make sure to find our their hospital’s stance on them, and if it does not tally with their wishes, they find another hospital. And as for hospitals stopping offering VBACs, they just started offering them. It used to be, one c-section, all c-sections automatically. The VBAC thing is fairly new here in the US, and not all hospitals allow them because they consider them risky (whether for the patient or the hospital).

Marj commented on Oct 06 09 at 5:23 pm

Marj, they consider VBAC’s to be “fairly risky” against medical evidence. Further, you’ve got in backwards: VBAC’s were far more common in the 90′s than they are now, backlash to “once a C, always a C.” Now, that is again becoming unofficial policy, and a woman’s only “choice.” Many on here are woefully misinformed; it’s frightening. When so-called “doctors” of obstetrics don’t even know how to deliver a breech birth these days (the norm), it’s not surprising that they are fooled into thinking, and fool others into thinking, that repeat C-sections are “safe.” Sad, sad, sad. And again, as far as finding other hospitals? My friend who lives Dallas — no small town — was able to find one, yes ONE doctor in all of Dallas who was willing to let her try a VBAC. Do you people commenting even know anyone who has had a C-section?

ChiLaura commented on Oct 06 09 at 5:35 pm

An informative VBAC website
http://www.ican-online.org/vbac/home

Lee commented on Oct 06 09 at 5:45 pm

As a victim of a sex crime, I think that rape is a poor choice of words. People use it too often to describe too many things (i.e.”
That test raped me!”) It’s insulting to compare a medical procedure in which she has a choice (and she does have a choice, she can always go to another hospital) to a forced and violent invasion of one’s body in a sexual manner. Rape is SO much worse than refusing to offer a VBAC and it’s a horrible thing for you to say that they are even slightly similar events. Given the choice between the two events, I’m sure the vast majority of women wouldn’t pick being raped, would you?

NotRape commented on Oct 06 09 at 6:02 pm

Um, I’ve had a c-section Laura, three in fact. The first was an emergency which went swimmingly and the second was planned but had a complication. The third though– My hospital let me labor against physician’s advice after I went into labor the day before my scheduled c-section because the L&D floor was understaffed and I was “only five minutes apart” (!) I ended up with a blood transfusion and extensive scar tissue after my incision ruptured, an occurence MUCH more common, though not as deadly, as a full uterine rupture. This was a hospital that did VBACs, for what its worth, and totally unprepared for my emergency.

I am not judging this woman, or any other, for choosing to go the VBAC route. Her body, her choice. However, I am saying this.

1.)The risks of VBAC are real, and the cost and risk of an emergency c-section is much greater than the costs and risks of a planned one.
2.)Again, her right to have a medical procedure does not force her hospital to provide it. I have a right to eat organic food, but Wal-Mart doesn’t have to take the financial risk of buying and stocking it so I can buy it. The hospital has a right to refuse to take this particular legal, financial, and medical risk, and they’ve given her time to make other arrangements. Frankly, if OBs didn’t have exorbitant malpractice insurance costs, it likely wouldn’t be as big an issue, because the pool of OBs would be wider, less risk-averse, and easier for hospitals to find. A good argument for tort reform.

jenny tries too hard commented on Oct 06 09 at 6:05 pm

I also have had a C-section, and there is no way in hell that I would compare it to rape. Even the suggestion that these are comparable events is disturbing. I know many other women who have had C-sections, and the majority of us had no issue with it. There are some people who feel bad they could not deliver vaginally, but I have never heard anyone say it was so horrible as to come anywhere in the same universe as rape.

I have to agree with the person who said this woman, acting the way she is, would be a high-risk for a lawsuit. And ultimately, this is the main reason why certain hospitals won’t offer VBAC’s.

As others have said, this woman did have a choice. She is just making a big deal that a certain hospital won’t bend its rules just for her.

Laure68 commented on Oct 06 09 at 11:15 pm

ChiLaura…

Maybe your friend should have switched to a midwife. I go to a hospital midwifery practice at Baylor Dallas that performs VBACs.

mbaker commented on Oct 06 09 at 11:57 pm

ChiLaura wrote – “Women should just be happy they’re getting a baby?”

OK, I know I am going to sound extremely cold, but what is so wrong about being happy about getting a baby that is healthy. I think there is a movement going on trying to convince us that we have to have this perfect birth experience. As I wrote earlier, I had a C-section and was completely behind this decision. I admit that I work in the medical field, and clearly understood the reasons behind this choice. Plus. I went through many years of infertility, and all I did want was that healthy child. I remember once, after I had one of my miscarriages, that one of my colleagues who recently gave birth to a beautiful, healthy child told me how upset she was that she couldn’t deliver vaginally and how she didn’t know when she would get over it. I wanted to smack her. (Yes, she knew I had a miscarriage.) I know it is not my place to judge how other people feel, but people sometimes need to put things in perspective.

And again, comparing this to rape. Disgusting.

Laure68 commented on Oct 07 09 at 12:15 am

ChiLaura – I might be willing to discuss reasonably had she not chosen the word “rape”. That’s ignorant, illogical, inflammatory, and ignoring the medical aspects of the issue at hand (akin to throwing the “race card” with no real reason). She does have the right to choose, BUT that’s just it – she HAS a choice. I did not have a choice to be sexually assaulted. To compare the fact that the hospital doesn’t permit VBAC (which probably has something to do with insurance, staffing, and a few other things – the hospital is probably protecting themselves from a lawsuit) to a violent sexual crime does not make me want to discuss things logically, to say the least.

PlumbLucky commented on Oct 07 09 at 7:43 am

As for “do I know anyone who’s had a C-section?”? Suffice it to say that I’m in the minority of my friends with children who has NOT themselves had a C-section (most of my friends had them; the major hospital group will not permit VBAC nor breech vaginal due to liability insurance reasons – again, tort reform please!). And know what? After being told that I couldn’t get pregnant in the first place, do I CARE that I was able to deliver vaginally and didn’t need a C-section? Does the fact that I was able to have a “normal non-surgical birth” make me a better mother? I think not. Priorities, people.

PlumbLucky commented on Oct 07 09 at 7:47 am

How many REALLY think tort reform is really the key to getting drs to do more natural births and vbacs? Just wondering. I mean, surgery is taught to these OBs in school, but never natural birth. Midwives do these births now.

Mistress_Scorpio commented on Oct 07 09 at 1:45 pm

Okay, ChiLaura, perhaps you’re right about them being more common in the 90′s. I guess I was thinking further back than that. I graduated HS in the 90′s so it doesn’t seem like that long ago.

Marj commented on Oct 07 09 at 3:00 pm

Tort reform is a big one, and the biggest about changing hospital policies. Individual docs should work on supporting patients while they labor, offering different labor and pain relief options, etc. but for a case like this, where it’s a hospital spouting about the ACOG and a policy, tort reform capping non-medical awards to plaintiffs would be a big deal. C-sections went up in the last 30years primarily because of suits alleging CP was caused or worsened by birth injury, I think the landmark case was something like a 24million punitive award. Will try to find linky.

jenny tries too hard commented on Oct 07 09 at 3:02 pm

I do really think tort reform would really help giving us all more choice. (And I am a liberal democrat.) I personally think that, instead of putting caps on the amount someone can sue for, that there needs to be a jury of experts deciding whether or not the doctor truly was at fault. Today, emotion plays way too big of a role in how juries sway.

People should be free to make decisions for themselves, but with that decision comes responsibility, which I don’t think Americans get. My family is from France, and lawsuits are almost unheard of, which really helps keep health care costs down. Again, there are professional jurists instead of a jury of your peers.

Laure68 commented on Oct 07 09 at 7:45 pm

CommentsRAPE….. Nope I do not think that is like rape at all. Have you ever been raped ? I have and I have also had 2 c sections and it is nothing alike. So I think that you need to stop thinking this was and start thinking about that baby that you have growing inside of you. I believe that what you said…..IF ME AND MY BABY DIE DURING NARURAL CHILD BIRTH THEN SO BE IT…: I consider that murder of a child. and you shoud be charged in this. A child is the most precious gift that anyone could ever ask for. You should be lucky. So stop this silly crap and think about that baby and not yourself. When it comes to a c section that is. That baby’s health is as important as yours. So please if your doctors think that you need a c section for crist sake let them do it. It is best for your health as well as your unborn child health.

Alica commented on Oct 08 09 at 9:14 am

Alicia, you can always be counted on to be the least articulate commenter on any thread.

I get it that a C-section is not rape; I’m not defending this woman in saying that. There *have* been forced C-sections that are much closer to rape in that they are an invasion of a woman’s body; this isn’t exactly the case here. However, presumably there is a certain sense of powerlessness here, which I’m guessing that more than a few of us have experienced with medical providers at one or another time in our lives. I know that I have. I think that the larger issue is that the fact that so many OBs REFUSE to do VBAC’s, despite the evidence that repeat C-sections are at least as dangerous as any given VBAC, if not more so. Whether this is because of liability, or ease for the OB in treating the patient, or whatever, the fact is that many (most?) women who want a VBAC don’t, in fact, have any choice in the matter, for insurance reasons or for lack of OB’s or midwives. (And unless you’ve got tons of extra money just laying around, chances are that you will need to choose a provider covered by insurance rather than being able to go wherever.)

Ina May Gaskin has written about her midwifery practice on The Farm (this sounds almost creepy, but it’s not). They “risk out” at least a few women who come to them, but their VBAC success rate is phenomenal. I can’t recall it off the top of my head, but I do remember that their C-section rate is around 1-2%, which is a far cry from the 30% common nowadays. Yes, some women *need* C-sections, but most don’t, given the support and time to labor that they deserve.

As far as healthy pregnancies go, I think that the medical establishment does not, in fact, serve women’s best interests in general. Too many women are pressured into C-sections, and 30% is way too high of a rate to be considered anywhere near “healthy.” While I’m sure that women who are given unnecessary C-sections ultimately feel that a healthy baby is the most important thing, they do also have a right to sound medical advice and practice, which they’re not getting. Why shouldn’t they feel some resentment?

ChiLaura commented on Oct 08 09 at 5:03 pm

I am just responding to the article, not all of these comments.

I have been raped and I have had a c-section. I wouldn’t use the word rape for the c-sections but I certainly feel violated and manipulated by the experience. I think that’s what this mama is trying to convey…not having rights to your body is a violation and hurtful. At this point, everyone knows that vaginal births are better for baby and mama, that c-sections are on the rise because OBGYN’s are less/not skilled at natural delivery, paranoid and love surgery, and that VBAC’s are also better for baby and mama. So, for all of these hospitals telling people what they can and cannot do is the real crime.

Don’t overreact to her verbage, just support VBAC’s.

seattle mama commented on Oct 08 09 at 5:46 pm

Mistress_Scorpio – I’m a little late here, I admit, but I just noticed that you wrote that OB’s are never taught natural birth. Is this true? I have never heard this, and I know OB’s still do perform natural births.

Laure68 commented on Oct 08 09 at 9:26 pm

OBs, and family practice physicians, and ER docs and EMTs for that matter learn natural childbirth. To graduate from medical school, even if you plan to work in research and never touch an actual patient again, students must attend to a certain number of births, which are pretty consistently natural, low-risk births. It may be true that OBs, specialists in pregnancy and childbirth, don’t learn enough about natural, no-drug, births, but I doubt Mistress meant to say that they learn nothing at all about natural birth. That seems a tad hyperbolic even for her.

jenny tries too hard commented on Oct 08 09 at 11:39 pm

First, let me say that I applaud her decision to speak out against her hospital/doc in what she believes to be best for her child. She should take her delivery to another hospital if they cannot provide proper care. Whether or not a VBAC is the best option is not something i am knowledgeable of, so cannot argue. I do however know what it’s like to lose my child to a hospital who would not offer/respond to requests for a c-section, even when the situation called for it. It is difficult to be heard by hospitals/doctors.

However, in my support….I cannot stand that she is using the term RAPE. This cannot be compared to rape. Nothing can. Shame on her.

Rica commented on Oct 09 09 at 4:32 pm

If a women doesn’t content to a c-section, guess what will happen, she will have a a baby, a normal physiological event that women have been doing for millions of years. I liken the hospitals refusal to kicking out or refusing a cancer patient who refuses chemo or radiation treatment. All medical procedures should be a patient’s choice and doctors or hospitals should NOT be able to refuse patients who don’t want a procedure. A c-section is a procedure with health risks whereas going into labor and trying to have baby the way nature intended is NOT a procedure and should be a choice for all women.

SunMom commented on Oct 10 09 at 1:48 am

If I remember correctly, in another article it was stated that that hospital was the only one near her and that, of course, home births weren’t available due to them not being afford with insurance. So, going to another hospital isn’t really an option for her, and home birth may not be either. So while I can see why people are upset about the use the word “rape,” she is being told she has no choice. That she HAS to have a c-section even though she doesn’t need one and has VBAC’ed successfully before. Honestly, without getting into my sad c-section story, I would try to find the money to travel to another hospital or try to find a way to stay home. I know those choices aren’t readily available to many women (so it hurts me to see comments that suggest that it is, and if they can’t just suck it up and get sliced) but I definitely try. A very sad story.

Audrey commented on Oct 11 09 at 8:15 pm

‘OBs, and family practice physicians, and ER docs and EMTs for that matter learn natural childbirth. To graduate from medical school, even if you plan to work in research and never touch an actual patient again, students must attend to a certain number of births, which are pretty consistently natural, low-risk births. It may be true that OBs, specialists in pregnancy and childbirth, don’t learn enough about natural, no-drug, births, but I doubt Mistress meant to say that they learn nothing at all about natural birth. That seems a tad hyperbolic even for her.’

Well, in BOBB, when OB students were interviewed they said they had never dealt with a completely natural birth. And after meeting and speaking with many OB in our community at ICAN meetings, they say the same thing. They aren’t taught how to just let the process happen without managing the birth. Can they be more hands off? Yes, they were trained for that I guess, but really, most of them coming out of school, don’t trust that birth works, they trust that they can make birth work. And unfortunately, that means they are going to manage everyting they can. That is not being natural childbirth friendly or mother friendly, in my oopinion.

Audrey commented on Oct 11 09 at 8:19 pm

What do I call it when it’s been a year and a half and I still tear up and have trouble talking about my sons birth? Am I a terrible mother becaose I shook with rage and nearly cried when I was forced to see the ob that cut me 6 weeks later? My ONLY THOUGHT DURING THE WHOLE PROCESS WAS GOD PLEASE MAKE THEM STOP. I loved my son immedietly but the page in his baby book describing his birth is simply coverd with tears. I accept that it was neccsary ,but I don’t accept that everytime I have to celebrate his birthday I’m going to have to bite my tounge when I remember the actual day. Birth plan or not, no matter how it happens the mother needs to be respected not cut into while crying hysterically waiting for her husband to get there for her”non- emergency” c-section. Call it birth trauma or birth rape, it’s still scarred me and still effects me.

danielle commented on Oct 20 09 at 11:15 pm

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Danielle I think you would call it post traumatic stress. All the best

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