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What Your Child’s Teacher Will Never (Ever) Tell You

Posted by bethanysanders on September 30th, 2009 at 10:00 am

caring teacher What Your Childs Teacher Will Never (Ever) Tell YouYour child’s teacher will tell you a lot of things:  What last night’s homework was, that your child talks too much in class, or that little Suzy seems to finally mastering her multiplication tables.

But besides being professional educators, teachers are also human.  And there’s often a lot more they’d like to say, but don’t.  Unless, of course, they’re allowed to be completely anonymous.

When Reader’s Digest interviewed teachers from all over the country, they came up with the real list of things your child’s teacher wished you knew.  A sampling:

  • If we teach small children, don’t tell us that our jobs are “so cute” and that you wish you could glue and color all day long.
  • I’m not a marriage counselor. At parent-teacher conferences, let’s stick to Dakota’s progress, not how your husband won’t help you around the house.
  • We’re sick of standardized testing and having to “teach to the test.”
  • Your child may be the center of your universe, but I have to share mine with 25 others.
  • Please help us by turning off the texting feature on your child’s phone during school hours.
  • Guys who dribble a ball for a couple of hours a game can make up to $20 million a year. We educate future leaders and make about $51,000 a year.

Want to hear more?  Check out 20 more things your child’s teacher will never tell you.  And then give us the scoop:  Has your child’s teacher ever said something that surprised you?

 What Your Childs Teacher Will Never (Ever) Tell You

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I hate when teachers compare their salaries to athletes. There are many more people in this world who can be good teachers than can play basketball like LeBron James. Sorry, but it’s true. (And I say this as someone who used to be a teacher.)

Amanda B. commented on Sep 30 09 at 11:10 am

Amen, Amanda

jenny tries too hard commented on Sep 30 09 at 12:09 pm

Gotta agree with Amanda. No one is getting into teaching for the big payday so stop whining about it.

Mistress_Scorpio commented on Sep 30 09 at 12:26 pm

Maybe it’s this kind of attitude that contributes to the other article about education here today. The one that talks about (I’m paraphrasing here) how public schools suck.

Huh? commented on Sep 30 09 at 1:45 pm

Yeah, they had me til the last comment. It’s a free market. Deal with it and be glad you make 51K.

GP commented on Sep 30 09 at 2:12 pm

Just to clarify, the attitude I’m talking about is the one expressed in the comments.

Huh? commented on Sep 30 09 at 3:10 pm

Comments
Great Article! Great job RD!

Kliu commented on Sep 30 09 at 4:21 pm

What the hell? I guess your kids are really important to you if you think their education is that frivolous a thing that the people educating your kids don’t deserve a high salary.

What public school teachers do is infinitely more important than what a basketball player does, and it’s kind of shocking that it’s not important to the people whose freaking CHILDREN they are educating. They’re helping your KIDS build their FUTURE, for heaven’s sake.

Priorities, people, priorities!

Bunny commented on Sep 30 09 at 5:19 pm

The day I meet someone who changed their major from education to engineering because they couldn’t cut it in education, I’ll cheer for higher teacher salaries.

Meredith commented on Sep 30 09 at 5:24 pm

Bunny, you don’t seem to understand how the market works. Prices aren’t set by how essential a thing is. If they were, water would be more expensive than those sparkly lumps of carbon we put in engagement rings. Water is essential, but plentiful, therefore cheap. Teachers are essential, but most rational adults who are capable of going college for four years can do it, thus teachers are plentiful so their monetary value goes down.

jenny tries too hard commented on Sep 30 09 at 5:51 pm

I’m a graphic designer and would loooove to make 51k a year. When the hell did that kind of money become something to whine about? If teachers made minimum wage, I’d get it, but 51k for 9 months a year? Seriously? And while I agree that education should be more important than basketball, I’m also aware that the millions of dollars that are paid to professional athletes are a FRACTION of the amount of money that people pay to go to games, get merchandise, etc. Even though I think the paychecks are kind of ridiculous, I would expect a decent cut if someone was making billions from my talent.

Allie commented on Sep 30 09 at 8:41 pm

Bunny, you are more than welcome to hand out cash bonuses to your public school teachers, if you think that will help.

Mistress_Scorpio commented on Sep 30 09 at 9:50 pm

So…none of you have any respect for teachers, because “anyone can do it”. And if they were actually smart or talented, they would be doing something else that society DOES value, and the $51K (that one teacher makes somewhere, likely in an affluent suburb with additional education and experience under his/her belt) should be more than enough to satisfy an idiot that would go into a profession such as teaching. Or, if they *are* smart and talented, they should be altruists, and shut up about how they are overworked and underpaid. If
I had to deal with 24-32 of your offspring (not to mention you) for 9 months a year, I’d need much more than $51k.

Huh? commented on Oct 01 09 at 10:49 am

Then I guess you shouldn’t be a teacher, huh. Especially not a teacher of economics. Do you want your property taxes to shoot up so a teacher can have a higher salary…but then, when the teacher took his or her raise home, the very next year it would be eaten up in the increased taxes he or she would pay to…pay teachers more! The bottom line is this–I respect my babysitter, too, but I’m not going to pay her more than the market rate if she’s not super-extra-special in some way. It would just be silly to pay her more than my neighbor pays her sitter and pretend that means I respect her more than my neighbor respects her sitter. Maybe teacher pay is a problem, but it would best be solved by going against Union dictates and paying by merit, so that super-extra-special teachers, who do what can’t be done by just anyone, get paid more than the ones who just go through the motion

jenny tries too hard commented on Oct 01 09 at 12:41 pm

So what you’re saying is, low property taxes are more important than having the smartest people possible teach your kids, and therefore teach them well.

I sure hope you don’t complain about how crappy your public school is. Priorities, lady! get some! your kid’s education should be more important to you than your freaking property taxes. You SHOULD be willing to pay through the nose for your child’s future, but you’re incapable of thinking that far ahead.

Bunny commented on Oct 01 09 at 1:31 pm

no, what I’m saying is that the teachers pay property taxes, too, and the purpose of a payraise across the board (vs. pay raises for exceptional teachers) would be entirely defeated by the teachers’ having to pay higher taxes themselves. Kind of like when they raise the minimum wage and suddenly the price of EVERYTHING goes up. Come on, was I the only who took econ? And why is it that everyone’s willing to say teachers should be paid more $51K but everyone thinks doctors (who save your kids’ lives and ensure their health) are overpaid?

jenny tries too hard commented on Oct 01 09 at 1:53 pm

Bunny, by your logic we should all be willing (at least those of us who pay taxes) to pay $500 each time we or our neighbors go to the doctor, right? After all, an education is pretty meaningless if you’re dead, so we NEED to see only the docs who graduated in the top 5% of their class. From Harvard. Right?

jenny tries too hard commented on Oct 01 09 at 1:57 pm

Sheesh…I make $19,000 a year. $51,000 sounds awfully nice to me. Hell, $40,000 sounds like a dream come true. I grew up with an English teacher (my mother, high-school teacher), and even she will tell you that she was always paid fairly for the job she did.

puasamanda commented on Oct 01 09 at 2:09 pm

I actually do know people who have quit teaching because they couldn’t hack it. And I wouldn’t say that any rational person with a degree can do it – the job requires a lot for someone to do it well. Until some of you work as a teacher, please don’t judge.

L commented on Oct 01 09 at 4:06 pm

Jenny – your argument is not helped by all the things you’re making up (for instance, the arbitrary $500 or the supposition that I think doctors make too much money). Nor have you remotely approached my argument, which was that your child’s education is an incredibly important thing, and that your decision to entrust it only to people who are willing to work for cheap (i.e. not always the best and brightest) is wildly shortsighted. Again: does your kid’s education mean anything at all to you? Are cut-rate teachers the best your child deserves? Don’t you think that if teachers were paid more, more talented people would be willing to do the job, and your child, YOUR CHILD for god’s sake, would get a better education?

Bunny commented on Oct 01 09 at 4:43 pm

Of course my child’s education is important, but you’re not getting how economics work. Teacher salary isn’t $51K because we don’t care enough about teachers, it’s $51K because there are many many many many people who have teaching degrees and are willing to work for $51K. Are some of them incompetent? YES. Will the incompetent ones flee the hiring pool if the average is suddenly $75K? NO. More people would apply to become teachers, maybe, but how would that ensure that those people were more talented? Well, it wouldn’t. The people who were willing to teach at $51K would still be there, but if you don’t change the requirements for teachers, like requiring a masters degree instead of a bachelors, they wouldn’t be any “smarter” than the current batch. If you think a masters would help my kids teacher be more patient and innovative, more power to you. But, honestly, it seems like paying the best teachers more and the worst teachers less (like they do in most fields) would make more sense. You still don’t seem to grasp the water vs. diamonds analogy and how it relates to the teachers vs. atheletes issue.

jenny tries too hard commented on Oct 01 09 at 5:08 pm

The comments here are pretty incredible with how little people respect teachers. The point of the article was completely lost on quite a few people.

1. There is a teacher shortage in many cities and rural areas. Teachers are not as plentiful as many people think.
2. A very high percentage of teachers quit in the first five years and go into other careers. It is an incredibly difficult task to be a good teacher, and many people are unable to handle the pressure and the work load.
3. I made $34,000 when I was teaching just a couple of years ago. $51,000 would be amazing.
4. I didn’t quit because I couldn’t hack it. I quit to stay home with my kids and hope to go back into teaching eventually.

J commented on Oct 01 09 at 5:09 pm

BTW, private schools pay their teachers, on average, less than public schools and yet have better results….

jenny tries too hard commented on Oct 01 09 at 5:10 pm

Maybe teachers can’t play basketball like James, but they add something of value to the world. I honestly don’t think basketball players do. Watching basketball is a pointless pastime, at least if one were playing basketball instead one would get a good workout. No offense meant if you like to watch basketball, but try to keep in mind that it is a frivolous recreational thing (of which I indulge in more than a few as well) – not life-changing like teaching can be.

Marj commented on Oct 01 09 at 6:51 pm

“BTW, private schools pay their teachers, on average, less than public schools and yet have better results….”

Here’s a hint- private schools are usually the places where children with stable home lives and affluent parents are sent. So your conclusion in that part if false.

For the general discussion:

Teachers need to be paid more, but the safety net of tenure that allows poor teachers to stay needs to be cut. Look into some merit-based pay changes taking place in D.C. A teacher is infinitely more important than a basketball player. More common, sure, but infinitely more important.

We underpay our teachers when compared with other nations with equivalent economies and governments. Its just time for us to catch up with the rest of the world.

Finally, stop the teacher bashing. It only reflects badly on yourself.

Sare commented on Oct 02 09 at 1:14 pm

Yes, I’m really teacher bashing by explaining the free market and advocating merit pay.

jenny tries too hard commented on Oct 02 09 at 1:23 pm

Why does no one understand economics? Water is infinitely more important than diamonds, but its plentiful, so it costs less. In places where diamonds are plentiful and clean water is not, the water costs more than the diamonds. Good Teachers, I AGREE, are infinitely more important than good basketball players. More people can become good teachers than can become good basketball players, though, so the market price for a teacher is lower than the market price for a NBA player. For pity’s sake, some of our best basketball players are brought in from other countries, doesn’t that tell you how rare they are? If we paid for water, or heating oil, or pennicillin or teachers by the actual value added to our lives, rather than market principals, the price would be astronomical and no one could afford it. I AGREE, institute merit pay, like the NBA does, so that we are actually paying more for good teachers and driving the bad ones to another line of work. The main reason my mom stopped teaching in public school wasn’t the kids from unstable homes–it was the fact that she hated seeing incompetent teachers get paid the same as she for doing less and lower quality work.

jenny tries too hard commented on Oct 02 09 at 1:33 pm

Thank you Bunny! As a teacher, I’m completely offended by some of these comments. I don’t go around whining about my salary, because I CHOSE this profession and LOVE what I do. But noting the fact that I am very replaceable and sport stars are not, THAT’S GOING TOO FAR!

Suzy commented on Nov 09 09 at 2:46 pm

“BTW, private schools pay their teachers, on average, less than public schools and yet have better results…”

I’m a teacher and I must say that the reason private schools have better results has nothing to do with them having better teachers or a better curriculum. Unlike public schools, private schools have entrance exams and in short, get to select/choose their pupils by their own standards. In public schools, we cannot choose our students.

jones commented on Sep 10 10 at 2:08 pm

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