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Young Girls Do More Chores Than Boys

Posted by madeline holler on September 30th, 2009 at 4:20 pm

gender differences in chores 200x300 Young Girls Do More Chores Than BoysMarried women aren’t the only ones in the family pulling a second shift of housework after a long day at the office. The nation’s daughters are too!

In its “State of the Kid” report, Highlights for Children uncovered this disturbing fact: girls are significantly more likely than boys to have chores.

That’s not good.

Even though well more than half of the kids surveyed said they were expected to do chores around the house, almost three-quarters of those were girls, while two-thirds were boys. Chore results were the largest gender difference in the 10-question national survey.

Highlights editor Christine French Clark said in a press release that the chore answers were unexpected.

“We were surprised by this gender difference in responses,” says Highlights magazine’s Editor in Chief Christine French Clark. “But Highlights receives and responds to more than 60,000 letters and e-mails from kids every year, and one of the things we know they often worry about is sibling conflict and fairness.”

What would be even more interesting to know is whether the bulk of that 10 percent difference comes from siblings — from within families — or from all-boy vs. all-girl families. Famously, the Duggars rely heavily on their daughters to take care of the family, while the sons get off the hook for the most part. But I’m curious about more typical families. Is there blatant sexism in the chore charts or is it something more subtle? Do older daughters, all told, frequently wind up doing more cleaning and caretaking than their younger brothers?

Also? Who’s cleaning up for that 30+ percent who don’t do any chores. Are those kids seeing Dad do anything, or only mom, or only hired help?

I’m lucky to have been raised by a father who understood women weren’t always treated fairly, and also a working mom and feminist in the days of fights for the Equal Rights Amendment. I was very aware of the notion of “women’s work.” While my mom still did most of any cleaning that got done, I have to say very little got done. We didn’t live in squalor, we just lived cautiously. Our effort was to not make messes in the first place. My sister and I weren’t expected to do much cleaning, but we still took on projects because playing with chemicals was kind of a blast.

My husband is one of three boys and, fortunately for me — and our kids — was raised by a rather lazy father with a very guilty conscience. The result? Boys that cleaned who turned into men that clean. So our kids — two girls and a boy — see a man get whipped up about clean floors and order, and a woman completely unaware of dust but manic about the bookshelves and crayon box.

We can’t swing hiring a cleaner, so my kids see — and help out with — what does get done. I hope that’s eough, because the last thing I want it to crank out kids who think laundry is a pink job and trash is blue.

Do you think some chores are only for girls? Know anybody who does?

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They Say: Candy Makes Kids Mean | Strollerderby commented on Oct 01 09 at 2:00 pm

Good. Women should get used to it.

anonymous commented on Oct 05 09 at 11:58 pm

um, anonymous, women ARE used to it. That’s the problem.

Madeline Holler commented on Oct 06 09 at 12:02 am

First off, i’d like to hit “anonymous” over the head with a blunt object for that comment. Moving on, it infuriates me to see that some families still act like women should do all the housework! When my parents were together I was like seven and I remember watching my mom come home from a full day of work, start cooking, cleaning, and doing the laundry and everything else and my dad would just come in and eat and go to sleep. They both had tough jobs and worked long hours. It used to tick me off. Then my mom had my brother and shortly after divorced him. (thank god). My mom raises us both to do everything around the house, there are no gender barriers. He is 13 now and he cooks and cleans, irons, does laundry, and any other chores you can think of that most people would consider womanly. I do everything to. I put together furniture when she buys it, i fix my own car, change my own tire, check my oil, paint the house, fix the roof, plumbing. Basically my mom made sure we have everything covered. That’s the way it should be, absolutely no gender specific chores. boys and girls should know how to do everything for themselves.

Ness commented on Oct 23 09 at 11:38 am

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