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Fearmonger Alert: Pre-Register Your Kid for an Abduction

Posted by jeannesager on August 20th, 2009 at 3:04 pm

eye identity label Fearmonger Alert: Pre Register Your Kid for an AbductionThe pitch smacked of fearmongering: a promo for temporary ID tattoos for kids, paired with an encouragement to sign up for a registry that lets you put together a profile of your child IN CASE they’re ever abducted.

Do we really need to live in such fear that we’ll pay $19.95 for an update-able registry listing for police to check out should our child ever be grabbed by a sex offender? How about just keeping a current photo of your child on hand?

The Amber Alert Registry bills itself as a way to “prevent your child from becoming an Amber Alert statistic.” Then it launches in to the hard questions: Do you know where your child is at all times?

Unless you have your kids micro-chipped (no, I’m NOT suggesting that), can any parent of a child above the age of maybe three or four say “yes” to that? Even at four, my daughter isn’t with me every second of the day – I can’t control what happens when she’s with my mother or a babysitter. That’s why I try to pick capable, trustworthy people to care for her – but it’s a reality that I can’t have her in my sight every single second of every day.

I can answer the second and third questions with certainty: yes, I know what to do if she goes missing. Like most Americans, the numbers 9-1-1 have been programmed into my head since childhood. And yes, I have the necessary information to provide the cops should something happen, “instantaneously, from anywhere” – I’m her mother; it’s my job.

Like most parents in America, I keep a picture of my child in my wallet. If we’re going somewhere out of the ordinary or to an ultra-crowded place, I snap a picture of her on my cell phone so I also have her most recent clothing options and don’t have to remember them.

I’m even willing to cash in on the temporary tattoos – not because I think there’s a child molester waiting around every corner, but because four-year-olds move fast, and in a crowded amusement park, it’s easy to be separated even when you’re trying to hold tight to a child’s hand. Slap on the temporary tattoo, add your cell phone number in marker, and a child who can’t yet be trusted to share that kind of information with a security guard or policeman can supply the necessary details to be reconnected with you. Some would consider that fearmongering too; I consider it part of the added convenience of modern times – my mom didn’t have a cell phone in case of emergency. We do, and we might as well take advantage of it.

The Amber Alert Registry is taking advantage of technology too – only they’re using it to terrify you. Log onto the site, and a ticker at the top logs how many children have “gone missing” in the time since you surfed in. They base it on the statistic that a child is reported missing every forty seconds – although that number does not address what the reports are for . . . be they runaways, a toddler separated from mom at Chuck E. Cheese or actual abductions. Even so-called “actual” abductions vary, from the ever-popular child custody battle kidnapping (family kidnappings account for almost half of all child kidnappings) to the less common stranger danger.

All told, according to the U.S. Department of Justice,  “kidnapping makes up less than two percent of all violent crimes against juveniles reported to police.”

Is that two percent scary enough to make you cough up your dough?

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Another Job Loss: Today’s Kids Won’t be Paper Boys | Strollerderby commented on Sep 10 09 at 4:32 pm

I will stick with “Mom” and my cellphone number in marker on the sole of his shoe, thanks ;-). Good idea though, on the cellphone pic when in a crowded place.

PlumbLucky commented on Aug 20 09 at 3:16 pm

That’s a good idea too, Plumb. I picked up on the tattoos recently because she was wearing a sundress and hence had no pockets. I’ll have to try the shoe thing.

jeannesager commented on Aug 20 09 at 3:18 pm

I find the accompanying photo misleading. You are visually connecting a safety-tat image with a “fear mongering” title. I assumed this article was negative toward temporary tattoos–which it is not. I’d update your image to one more relevant to the story.

kat commented on Aug 20 09 at 3:26 pm

The tats I understand and I find them very reasonable. Especially because when I’ve seen them in stores they seem to be for ‘special needs’ kids such as the picture above. I do not understand what service the registry will provide, really. What are you supposed to enter in that you later will not know?

Bec commented on Aug 20 09 at 4:21 pm

I’m too tired to look up the stats right now, but in most kidnapping cases, I’m pretty sure it’s someone related to or close to the child. It’s rarely a stranger. That said, I’m down with the tats for the reasons articulated above. Not the registry so much.

Mistress_Scorpio commented on Aug 20 09 at 11:10 pm

Sometimes, I am amazed at the lack of thoroughness of people who investigate things and put little thought or little investigation into the things they comment on. I happen to know the people at the Amber Alert Registry (that’s how I got this article, Google Alert). If any one took the time to explore they would see that this is the farthest thing from fear mongering, this is all about being proactive and prepared for any eventuality where identifying data is needed by police in any situation. The company is run by parents. They are supported by law enforcement and give back a tremendous amount of money to charitable organizations. This is one of the most wonderful groups of people I know, providing a service that minimizes time in an emergency. How could you possibly argue with that? If you were a concerned parent and your child was missing, would you want to waste even one minute? And to comment about the $19.95 per year. I spend $100 on sneakers for my kids. Anyone who has an issue with spending $20.00 to protect their child certainly gives me pause. So to whoever wrote this article, you just did a terrible disservice to everyone. The world would be a much better place if all company’s had the same goal in place as the Amber Alert Registry, safety for our kids and giving back to the community. I would think it might be a good idea to try and bad mouth company’s that actually do harm instead of company’s like the Amber Alert Registry who do a tremendous amount of good safety and charitable work. You should apologize in writing, with an article just as big as the other article. I hope more company’s start giving back like this one. And I hope people use there energies to attack the company’s and people who are really hurting our kids, instead of company’s like the Amber Alert Registry.

Samantha726 commented on Aug 21 09 at 6:21 am

I’d prefer a bracelet type thing to the tattoos, myself- that way, it can be reused and is quicker to get on.

zaksmom commented on Aug 23 09 at 3:48 pm

Problem is, shoes and bracelets can be removed – by others or if you are at a waterpark it won’t work. And if have personal information, you want it tucked out of site – or available on a secure database so you can access it from anywhere? And I don’t understand the concern about a family abduction as opposed to a stranger abduction – missing is missing is it not? and the faster I can get data to the right people,the better! I looked at the site – it seems more about empowering than fear based to me. I actually ordered some Eydentity Labels for my son who has had seizures, for when he’s with his babysitter.

Beth commented on Aug 24 09 at 12:00 pm

Comments I googled it, and according to the U.S. Department of Justice, 800,000 children are reported missing each year. No, that number is not broken down into categories such as runaways, non-custodial parent abductions, abductions by family members or friends, or stranger abductions. But if a child goes missing, does it really matter which category the disappearance falls into? What’s critically important is for law enforcement agencies to have the child’s picture(s) and detailed description – including any medical issues – on hand as quickly as possible. Experts agree that time is of the essence when a child goes missing, and Amber Alert Registry allows law enforcement – local, federal, even international, immediate access to that information. With AAR I can call 911 and say, “Everything you need is online, here’s the password,” rather than trying, in the midst of a panic situation, to scrounge up a recent photo (or two, or three) remember my child’s exact height and weight, then wait for the police to arrive and collect the data before putting it into their system to be disseminated. It’s clearly a much quicker process than gathering, scanning/emailing and sending the information out in real time.

Marie commented on Aug 25 09 at 5:21 pm

I find it interesting that you titled your piece, “Pre-Register Your Kid for an Abduction.” Do you consider auto insurance “pre-registering” your car for an accident? How about your home and liability insurance? Would you say those are “pre-registering” for a fire or accidental injury on your property? Of course not! Why is this any different?

Mamapalooza commented on Aug 26 09 at 9:16 pm

Here is the best break down of missing children I can find basec on the U.S. Department of Justice. “National Estimates of Missing Children: An Overview”

800,000 children younger than 18 are missing each year, or an average of 2,000 children reported missing each day.
200,000 children were were abducted by family members.
58,000 children were abducted by nonfamily members, and
115 children were the victims of “stereotypical” kidnapping. These crimes involve someone the child does not know, or knows only slightly, who holds the child overnight, transports the child 50 miles or more, kills the child, demands ransom, or intends to keep the child permanently.

And here are the scarier statistics from NCIC.

- 73% of all violent crime against missing children occur within the first three hours, and 99% occur with the first four.
- 40% of all children abducted by strangers are killed.

I am a former law enforcement officer and I now work in the field of child safety. I am glad to hear that many of you are preparing yourselves to better protect your children. The fact of the matter is that the majority of parents are not prepared if ever their child goes missing. They do not carry current pictures and when they are frantically looking for their child, they tend to not remember what their child was wearing.

I am not endorsing the protect above or any other product. There are many methods are preparing yourselve and your child and it is up to each individual to find what they are comfortable doing.

Will commented on Sep 10 09 at 2:44 pm

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