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Grown Children Claim Imprisoned Father Never Actually Molested Them
This is the most disturbing case I’ve ever read of parents wrongfully involving their kids in their marital troubles. Two grown children have come forward with claims that their father, who was convicted of molesting them soon after their parents divorced, never actually abused them.
Matthew Spencer and Kathryn Tetz were nine and five, respectively, when their father was investigated for sexual abuse. Now 33 and 30, Matthew and Kathryn testified in court recently that their father, who spent twenty years in jail for child rape, is an innocent man.
Both children told the court that their mother told them they had been abused by their father, but that they had blocked out the painful memories. Matthew recalls how detective Sharon Krause hounded him about the abuse for months, until he finally answered “yes” to her questions to get her to leave him alone. Kathryn was too young to remember what exactly she told Krause, but she remembers that the detective took her out for ice cream.
After Matthew and Kathryn read the police reports as adults, they knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that their father had never violently and repeatedly raped them in the graphic manner they described to pushy prosecutors as kids. They realize now that their father was far from the ideal husband, but this did not make him a child rapist.
Their father, Clyde Ray Spencer, pleaded guilty to the charges because he couldn’t afford an attorney, and his court-appointed lawyer failed to come up with a defense. Although Spencer was sentenced to two life sentences in prison, his sentence was commuted in 2004 when it came to light that prosecutors had withheld medical examinations which showed no evidence of abuse.
But Spencer is still a convicted sex offender, a conviction that his kids are seeking to overturn. Although 61-year-old Spencer is grateful that his name is finally being cleared, he is most happy to have his children back in his life. “They were my life, and they were taken away from me. That was the hardest part. I could serve in prison,” he said.
After Spencer is cleared, I hope that both Krause and Spencer’s ex-wife are sued for the damages they’ve caused. Not only did they destroy an innocent man’s life, but they also irredeemably sullied children’s lives by taking them away from a loving father and causing them to grow up with the traumatic false understanding that they had suffered terrible abuse, an understanding that may well have had damaging affects on their psyches and romantic relationships.
This case shows how the laudable drive to prosecute sexual abuse does have some dangers. There’s a fine line between taking children’s abuse claims seriously and convicting a man to life in prison based solely on a five year-old’s testimony. I hope that in the decades since Clyde’s conviction, courts have learned to tread that line with far more care.
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Gretchen Paules commented on Jul 14 09 at 12:36 pmThe Let Go…Let Peace Come In Foundation is a newly formed nonprofit with a mission to help heal and support adult survivors of childhood sexual abuse worldwide. We are actively seeking adult survivors who would be willing to post a childhood photo and caption, their story, or their creative expressions to our website http://www.letgoletpeacecomein.org. By uniting survivors from across the globe we can help provide a stronger and more powerful voice to those survivors who have not yet found the courage to speak out. Together we can; together we should; together we NEED to stand up and be counted. Please visit our site for more details on how you can send us your submissions.
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sabrina boothe commented on Sep 28 10 at 9:23 pmmr spencer is not guilty my bet friend was married to the detective on this case and he was having a affair with mr spencers wife ,she knows he is not guilty and has paperork to prove it..
Ray Spencer commented on Oct 01 10 at 1:01 pmMs. Boothe I would very much like to speak with your friend. Please contact me at rayspencer1@comcast.net. Thank you
Leo clark commented on Oct 01 10 at 3:57 pmComments This has been a tragic story. personal gain, lust, False witness, withholding evidence,Career advancement. Its a shame that professional and politically elected folks had Red flags in 1985 that should have questioned and stop this misuse of justice.
Leo clark commented on Oct 01 10 at 4:04 pmComments P.S His court appointed lawyer is now a Superior court judge for many years in for the same county that put him away.
Ray Spencer commented on Nov 02 10 at 1:15 amCommentsPlease watch 20/20 on Friday November 5, 2010 for the complete story.
BobTrent commented on Dec 08 11 at 7:16 pmWouldn’t it be great if we had truly unbiased investigators and judges?
BobTrent commented on Dec 08 11 at 7:28 pmThe case of personal interest to me has a judge who has (reluctantly) found the father civilly guilty (preponderance of the evidence) of molesting his daughter – “French” kissing, fondling, exposing his genitals to her, but nonpenetrative. Yet the judge seems to be “bending over backward” to give the father almost everything he petitions for.
He was under “supervised” visitation. The “supervisor” would leave the room and leave him alone. He would then molest his daughter. Now he has gotten the judge to allow him weekend visits to take her along with a drinking buddy (no background check, no professional qualifications) of his as the “supervisor.” He has just failed with a motion to have her overnight in his home, the house where the molesting took place.
He has been trying to find out where his ex-wife (who he choked severely, lifting her by her neck – he is 6′-7″ and 260# and she is 5′-7″ and half his weight – and threw a brick at, striking her in the upper back) is living. He has tracked her to the apartment complex but is trying to get the court to make her tell what apartment she is living in.
He also is trying to find out where her new permanent job is and to be able to contact her new employer. She suspects that he is trying to foul up her job so she will have to move back to his home county.
Why is this judge so biased? Afraid of being accused of always giving the mother what she wants? A secret molester himself?
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