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Caillou: Love Him or Hate Him?

Posted by miriamjoyce on June 12th, 2009 at 1:30 pm

caillou2 220x300 Caillou: Love Him or Hate Him?Since my family aren’t big TV watchers, I was a little slow to be introduced to Caillou, but I recently got a chance to plow through a pile of books based on the TV series (which is based, apparently on an older set of books).

For those unfamiliar with the phenomenon, the series stars a four-year-old boy in “real life” situations like getting lost at the grocery store or having his first sleepover. They’re written with a lot of participation from a child psychologist, with the goals of showing a realistic kid experiencing realistic emotions and being treated with respect by the adults. Sounds thrilling, doesn’t it?

Oh, it sounds boring? It is.

(Which may be fine for TV, but not a book I have to read several times a week.) And while they involved psychologists, they seem to have forgotten about, oh, say, writers. The books sound like high school students watched the shows and wrote clunky summaries of what they saw. It’s painful.

Don’t tell me that realistic stories about real kids facing real problems can’t also be well-written and fun. Sally Jean the Bicycle Queen proves that dead wrong.

But hey, kids like insipid stuff sometimes. But then there’s the message: apparently I fall in a rare middle ground between love it and hate it factions. I can see the usefulness in some of the stories and the way they model dealing with difficult emotions: Acknowledging that Caillou is sad that he can’t fit into his favorite T-shirt any more and putting it on his teddy bear instead is decent problem solving, and I like the model of the mom being willing to apologize for having given the shirt to his younger sister without checking with him. Ditto on the first sleepover book—he’s sad and nervous, but after a call to his mom, who reminds him he brought his teddy bear, he gets over it.

On the other hand, much as I shudder to associate too closely with the no-empathy, “spare the rod, spoil the child,” “what’s all this touchy-feely crap, he should obey” Caillou detractors, there are cases where I share their discomfort (if not their preferred remedies). In one case, Caillou is asked to watch his younger sister at the grocery store and instead he wanders off without asking to look for cookies—and he’s never once told “You shouldn’t have done that.” Never. Sure, don’t scream at a frightened kid who just got himself lost, but come on now? No pointing out the problem at all, even later?

Ditto for the time he paints a clown face on his younger sister’s doll. It’s like they have a saboteur on the production team who wants to destroy the good name of empathic, non-punitive parenting by showing that yes, it really is about never saying no.

Similarly, after a book all about how Caillou’s toys are strewn all over the house, his parents suggest that he has an awful lot of toys, including some he never plays with. Maybe he could give some away?

His response: No. I like all my toys.

Their response: Oh, OK, we’ll build you a big toy box instead.

WTF?

Is his response realistic? Yes. Do either his or his parents’ responses model anything useful for the kids reading this? No. In fact, they are awfully counter-productive. I’m inclined to agree with Alison Wonderland when she opines that perhaps parents, as well as writers, were left off the Caillou consulting team.

The fact that he’s so damn popular anyway means there’s a niche screaming to be filled.

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Texas Takes Neutral Look at “Cosleeping” Deaths | Strollerderby commented on May 06 10 at 11:58 am

But my biggest question: WHY IS HE BALD? Everyone else in the family has a Blagojevich mop of unruly, ugly hair. I admit it sometimes amuses me to imagine Caillou has cancer, and that’s why no one ever disciplines him properly.

baconsmom commented on Jun 12 09 at 1:34 pm

The dad on that show is a real milksop, but the biggest problem is how whiny the kid is. The bald thing is a good point too. I banned this in my house after one viewing.

Brett Singer commented on Jun 12 09 at 2:44 pm

I made up my own words to the Caillou theme song. I sing about his lack of hair, his ‘I want to smack him in the mouth’ whining, his parents’ inability to show the kid any emotion but gentle patience (real parents have real emotions), etc… Now my kids turn it on just to hear me sing my song & then change the channel.

Jennifer Collins commented on Jun 12 09 at 3:42 pm

It’s a horrible show, filled with a spoiled, whining, bald cancer baby with ineffective parents. It has so many things wrong with it really, but the kicker is that voice. Mooooommmmmmmmmmmyyyyyyyyyyyyyy . Ugh. Shoot me now.

C.G commented on Jun 12 09 at 4:46 pm

Alisonwonderland.wordpress.com

Alison Wonderland commented on Jun 12 09 at 4:54 pm

Thanks for the link!

I’m right there with you it’s not that I believe in yelling at kids (despite my actions to the contrary) but the purpose of parents is to correct, to teach, not just to make their children more comfortable.

Alison Wonderland commented on Jun 12 09 at 4:57 pm

Apparently in the original stories he had cancer as a baby, hence the baldness. But no one seems to think the current crop of viewers/readers needs to know that even though they ALL ask.

Miriam Axel-Lute commented on Jun 12 09 at 5:24 pm

I watched Caillou for about two seconds while babysitting years ago. It was awful. I could care less about what lessons are being taught. I can’t stand the whiny baby-talk. I don’t talk to my kids that way and I don’t want anyone else to either.

Twyla commented on Jun 12 09 at 10:01 pm

My son loves Caillou. It’s a really nice show with many relatable situations. My son has learned tons of appropriate language and behaviors from Caillou. Even as a parent I can learn from the way Caillou’s parents and grandparents handle the situations and questions from the children.

Leila commented on Jun 13 09 at 8:44 pm

Holy jeez, this show makes me itch. The kid himself doesn’t particularly bother me. It’s the vapid, drugged-out response of his parents. Schlumpy, dull, ever peaceful. Who ARE they?

Laura commented on Jun 14 09 at 4:05 pm

Hate Caillou. LOVE Sid The Science Kid.

ceecee commented on Jun 14 09 at 10:54 pm

Though the show is super-cheesey, I like the voiceover/narrator’s explication of Caillou’s emotional process. I think it made a difference for my hard-charging, type A first born daughter to understand feelings.

edgar mevers commented on Jun 15 09 at 9:43 am

I love Caillou! Not only is it a great show for the little one but the theme song is catchy as hell! As for the lack of hair – do you idiots whine about Charlie Brown, too? You are exactly what I DON’T want my kid to be like. Grow up.

Mark commented on Jun 22 09 at 10:15 am

I hate Caillou, but my just-about-3-y-o loves it, and I have decided that there are WAY worse things than that whiny bald kid. I think as far as the grocery store thing goes–you can’t expect a four year old to not leave a younger sibling–not in a crazy, distracting public place like a grocery store. I would yell at the parent in that case, not the kid–four is WAY too young, especially in a family where the four year-old has not been brought up expected to do that ( i know families in which that IS the case and while i still wouldn;t get too pissed at the four year old for wondering off, I might be a little more stern in that case). And I am one of those parents who believe that older sibs can be taught and encouraged to watch out for their younger sibs–but four is too young to just expect it and rely on it in a public place. The theme song is burned into my brain and pops up all the time–i hate it.

Laura commented on Jun 25 09 at 4:01 pm

I think the show should be taken off the air. There has been a few times when we have accidently left it on this channel when calliou came on and i had to run to turn it off, while explaining to my 2 yr old that calliou is a bad boy, because he talks back to his parents, and thats a no no. In my world, I believe in teaching my children right from wrong and how to RESPECT others. calliou is very disrespectful to his parents. In the real world i would never schedule a playdate with a kid like him. And I truely believe that the parents should run the house not the kids. Calliou is not welcome in our home.

mel commented on Jul 03 09 at 12:34 am

Seems to me that maybe the people who are starkly against and wholly for the show should learn a little from each other. My son loved the show, when he was very young, but my daughter could do without it.. I personally had issue with the over nice, non punishment, passive parenting but also found many of the lessons not only helpful for teaching and showing my kids that others are dealing with everyday struggles of growing up, but even for ideas with ways to communicate instead of simply discipline my children. Here I must note that I had my son when I was 17, I had been emancipated at fifteen and was not a typical 17 year old (getting married the next year to his father who I dated for four years before) but really had no knowledge and certainly no model for parenting skills. I know this will get me some curt comments but I think it pertinent to understanding my convictions. When my children were young I insisted on watching tv with them and talking with them through out the show to remind them that it is no necessary to zone out and stop thinking when they are watching television. We only watch 3 or four half hour shows so it was only their most wanted ones and others were not considered. Now that they are quite older (9 &13) They are each allowed one hour of tv after homework on school days and two hours over the weekend (my son often trades his tv time to play games) and although I do not always sit through a whole show I often will and the television is in the living room making it possible for us to monitor the shows they are choosing. We also have done the same with the family computer, ecspecially helpful with a 13 year old.
What I have read here in the response to the show seems very black and white…. I would hope to see far more shades of gray, much like life.. a consideration of and understanding for an opposing view point allows for intelligent response. So Caillou is not for everyone, but it is for some and even if you are not of the appreciative watchers you can choose to validate your distaste by noting positive attributes you know others may have liked. I am surprised by the harsh and nasty response from parents, I am not a spare the rod, but also am not caillou’s parents, somewhere in the gray area ;) Yes, Caillou could benefit from some constructive criticism from parents but nasty vocalization of hurtful and demeaning descriptions is in and of itself childish.

Tracy commented on Oct 22 09 at 8:56 am

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