Would You Marry When Kids Told You To?

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I actually worked with a girl, during college, that was still pretty upset about her parents never marrying. And she was well into her twenties. There is nothing wrong with marrying each other for the kids if you are in fact in love with each other and intend on spending the rest of your lives together. Who does it hurt? And it is quite different from kids dictating a lot of things to you. And this girl I worked with, her being upset about her parents not marrying had nothing to do with being worried about what people thought about her, but more to do with her wanting her parents to prove that they definitely intended to stay together. Because let’s face it, divorce is a rough thing.

HAHAH has the man got no balls? Letting his kids say when he’ll marry and who he’ll marry? Seriously?

Sara’s comment rings true for me personally. My partner and I met sixteen years ago and have lived together for thirteen years. We have two children, aged five and two, and a dog. We’re about as committed as a couple can be (and happily so) and get this: we don’t consider ourselves to be unmarried. We simply haven’t had a wedding. We’re not opposed to marriage; we just don’t believe a wedding makes a marriage. Someday, it’s possible that we might change our minds and decide a ceremony is important to us, after all, and who knows what could trigger such a decision – perhaps conversations with our children? I doubt it, but it wouldn’t be a betrayal of our convictions if we did change our minds. In our hearts, we are as married as any happy couple you could name.

I think the adults need to stop sounding like children. Honestly folks, how does a piece of paper and a party make it any “better”. Sure if you believe in GOD you may have different reasons for matrimony, but even so…a relationship with GOD should be personal and NOT a circus or media circus in Depp’s case. Marriage is a state of committment of heart and mind to each other and to (your) God…and, it’s that promise that keeps couples together, not the ceremony. Sure there’s the matter of accoutnability, but let’s be real, who has ever come knocking on your door when you were treating a boyfrind, girlfriend, fiance, or husband/wife badly, or cheating on him or her. Basically nobody and the choices you likely made you made on your own. These two are married and more successfully than most stars or people who went through the ritual which in the end didn’t amount to a hill of baked beans. And, hopefully they will teach their lovely children that love is more than some fancy dress and party and a meaningless parchel of parchment.

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Marriage is not summed up by a beautiful white dress, a huge amounts of flowers, an amazing ceremony , and a massively expensive reception afterwards. All that is nothing in the eyes of God. What marriage is is the vows that are exchanged between eachother before God. Marriage is a promise of lifelong commitment. You can say all you want about not being married, yet being more married all you want. Bottom line your not married until you made that vow to eachother before God or anyother gods or goddesses if you believe different. Now I know couples who live together and are not married and are happy because they are not committed to one another. And they choose to live that way and that’s great; however, I also know some couples that have lived together for a long time, share children and are very miserible because they are not together because they truly love one another but for the children’s sake. They don’t want to make a vow that they don’t mean to make yet they can’t just break up because they feel the kids would be cheated out having a whole family. And it’s the same with marriages that are failing, they stay because of the kids. It’s very sad that there are those who tend to think that kids somehow make a marriage, when in fact, kids have nothing to do with the vows exchanged and maintained throughout the marriage. Marriage is a contract between the participating couple. Which brings it down to the very point of the matter, kids should not have a right to choose when their parents should get married, that’s for the parents to choose for themselves. But perhaps we are missing the real reason why Mr. Depp is choosing to answer the question the way he chose to answer it. I don’t think Mr. Depp would actually put that burden on his children. What I think what he is really saying is that he doesn’t want to marry Ms. Paradis. It just sounds really cute when puts the question off on the whem of Ms.Paradis or his children. Which I’m sure he feels really confident in the fact that somehow that’s just not going to happen. Maybe that’s because they have an arangement of sorts, maybe not. Who knows?