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The 8 Toughest Mommy Breakups

Posted by mommyfriend on January 5th, 2012 at 10:55 am

shutterstock 60738814 1 The 8 Toughest Mommy BreakupsBreaking up is hard to do, like for reals.

As women first and moms second, life breakups are some of the toughest challenges we will ever be faced with. Personally, I find it hard enough to advocate for myself sometimes, let alone for my children when a breakup is warranted.

I believe the worst part of any breakup is twofold. While being the dumpee most certainly sucks, finding the courage to be the dumper can sometimes suck even harder.

Let’s examine the toughest female breakups out there. Feel free to add any breakups I may have missed in the comments below.

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Breaking up with your child's frenemy
Sometimes our child's closest friendships are the most volatile. Since our kids don't have the ability to recognize when it's time to call it quits, that's when we get to step in. Uncomfortable much?
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How do you manage these horrible breakups? Avoidance? Witness Protection Program? Via text message? How?

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11 Comments

I had to breakup with my son’s private preschool because I felt like he wasn’t getting the education I was paying them for. When I told the Director that I was pulling him from their preschool program, I was crying… and she started crying too. It was horrible. I tried easing the blow by telling her that it wasn’t the teachers themselves, because I loved them all, but I didn’t agree with their curriculum. I also felt like what should be automatically be a part of the curriculum I was paying EXTRA for, otherwise he wouldn’t be taught it (i.e. reading, alpahabet and number recognition). I have sinced moved him to a new private preschool and I love it! My son is very happy and will be very well prepared when he has to start Kindergarten in a couple of years.

Shantel commented on Jan 05 12 at 1:57 pm

I would definitely have to agree with the daycare breakup being a hard one. Our son was in one in our neighborhood (just 3 minutes from our house) but there was 1 kid who kept attacking him every week & the teachers nor the facility ever did anything about it. We had to eventually move him even though we loved the price and location. Now he’s in another facility about 15 minutes from our house and we all love it. Plus he no longer has to worry about the mini- Edward Scissorhands that use to attack him at the old place! ;) P.S.- Thankfully, I haven’t had to tackle the other break-ups mentioned! *Whew!*

Charma (@Surprised_Mama) commented on Jan 05 12 at 2:47 pm

My child’s father broke up with me when I was about five months pregnant. It was WAY HARD to deal with that when all I wanted to feel was joy about the baby. We’re good friends but I still hurt a lot. I want to forgive him but I don’t know how.

Heather commented on Jan 05 12 at 3:21 pm

I’ve only had to endure the breakup with childless friends. And while it kinda sucked, I’m better for it.

jenn commented on Jan 05 12 at 3:21 pm

For me personally, I’d have to say the FRENEMIES! My son is only 4 years old, mind you, so he does not understand at all how/why some people behave the way they do. He is still an innocent little boy, he has a huge heart, and it killed me to watch him being taken advantage of, being picked on, ignored, made fun of… everything! I thought this crap didn’t start until at least 4th or 5th grade. Yet here was my preschooler going through this.

NO FREAKING WAY! Mama Bear had to step in.

Tamara commented on Jan 05 12 at 4:41 pm

When my daughter was 3 I had to break up with my best friend whose child was my daughter’s best friend. Why? Because that child was a big bully and the mom just laughed it off! I am all over my kids if they are the mean ones….who wants their child to be the mean kid and what kind of mom knowingly permits it??!! It was hard on both of us because my daughter was mad at me for it and I lost a close friend. In the I am happy I stood up for my child.

~Sarah
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Smallmombigcity commented on Jan 06 12 at 1:19 pm

in reference to #7, Some of us arent raising our children in a mom/dad family unit. I think in this day in age putting it as “breaking up with your child’s other parent” is more fitting. But yes that is one of the hardest, especially when having to have the conversation the children about why their parents arent gonna be living together anymore. I had to go through this last year, I basically told my son that we werent getting along anymore, and that we both still loved him but we would be living in different houses from now on. I made sure to put emphasis on how it isnt his fault what so ever.

Taylor commented on Feb 09 12 at 1:01 pm

I’ve had to do 4 of these… I’m only 23 years old and my child is only 8 months old. Oh Lordy… lol.

Kathryn commented on Feb 10 12 at 12:57 pm

done all of these except the bff. the biggest deal was the hairdresser. none of them were big deals. look at it this way, if either you or someone else is going to be unhappy; choose someone else every time.

(and the mariage btw, over for both of us LONG before i ended things).

Umm Hummm commented on Apr 10 12 at 11:48 pm

in the process of breaking up with my daughtes step father… cant stand him and i think its best that im on my own

Asriel commented on Apr 18 12 at 11:38 pm

My boy friend of three years now just infirmed me that in tw o … Weeks hes leaving . So i guess im supposed to be prepared fr him to leave ? Wth thats crazy .. And i dont dread it i just wish it would happen already i dont like to be second best in his life any way and come to find out hes still legally married on paper .So did i actually give all this time to nothing ?? Really.

Kat commented on Apr 19 12 at 9:26 pm

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