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Abby Sunderland: Should Her Parents Have Let Her Go?
It is one of the tougher calls of parenthood. What do you do when your child seems to show an aptitude or talent for something at a young age? Do you encourage them? Do you rein them in, and force them to keep their skills in check until they are older? Do you allow them to pursue activities that fly in the face of most conventional measures of good parenting?
That’s a question Abby Sunderland’s parents may be asking themselves as they wait anxiously for any news about their 16-year-old daughter. Abby Sunderland was attempting to become the youngest person to sail on a solo mission around the world. This morning, she lost contact with her parents during a storm in the Indian Ocean, and a hour later, the Sunderlands received news that Abby had set off her emergency beacon locater devices, which are used when a person is either in the water, or in the emergency life raft. She has yet to be found. The last few days, Abby has been sailing seas with waves of 60 feet, so even if she is in the raft, her situation is incredibly perilous.
With any luck, she will be found and will be okay. But the question remains: was it bad parenting that put her in the water in the first place?
No matter how you slice it, Sunderland is a 16-year-old. There has been a lot of evidence that the developng brain of a teenager is less able to handle distractions, calculate risk, and understand danger—all skills that a sailing venture of this magnitude would depend upon. It’s one reason we don’t allow kids to drive a car until they are 16—and why many states are instituting restrictions on young drivers, restricting them to a certain number of passengers, or setting a curfew on the hours they may legally drive. That most of us wouldn’t let our teenagers drive across country alone would seem to indicate that the Sunderlands’ decision to let Abby do this was insane.
Ironically, it was just last year that Zac Sunderland, Abby’s older brother, became the first person under age 18 to sail around the world alone. So the decision to allow this type of venture is one they have made before. And of course, the Sunderlands aren’t the first parents to let a child’s gifts cloud their judgment. Many parents of Olympic athletes let their children move far from home at a young age—sometimes as young as 9 or 10—to train with a prominent coach. But figure skating and tennis aren’t life threatening. By any objective measure, sailing a 40-foot sailboat alone for six months is.
What do you think? Should they have let her go? Or should they have made her wait until she was older?
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WTF? commented on Jun 10 10 at 6:49 pmMy personal opinion is that they shouldn’t have let their child go. However, I don’t think that government should intervene in matters like this. Many people choose to live their lives on the edge of danger for whatever reasons. That is their right.
What concerns me is, who is paying for this rescue effort? If someone on one of the rescue boats should die trying to rescue her, who is responsible for that?
and i’m sure these boats weren’t sitting around doing nothing. What effort is being neglected because of a privileged families decision to live on the edge?
Heather commented on Jun 10 10 at 6:52 pmI understand wanting to let your talented child accomplish a great feat. But they should have followed the advice of waiting for a few more months until the worst of the south Indian Ocean weather was out of the way. I fear they didn’t wait because of pride (wanting to be the youngest), which unfortunately, may be what ends her life. Pride is a dangerous thing.
Susan Olevson commented on Jun 10 10 at 7:11 pmI don’t think that question should even be asked at this point! I find it very poor taste to second guess her parents and try to place some sort of guilt on them at a time like like this.
Jessica Watson was 16 and she managed to sail around the world recently sailing safely into Sydney Harbor about a month ago.
How cruel to be asking such stupid questions at a time like this…Abby is more qualified than many twice her age as is Jessica!!!
Chaz Hall commented on Jun 10 10 at 7:24 pmSure! 16 yo, American white girls (especially rich ones) can do anything they want in the world – including sailing around it by ALONE.
They know that if anything goes wrong that the Navy, Air Force and Marines will drop everything they are doing to come save her. Then when its all said and done she will get home and ALL media will clamor for her story and interviews. With the book and movie income she will be able to retire at 17 yo.
To the Sunderland parents: You reap what you sow.
chuck commented on Jun 10 10 at 7:45 pmI hope she’s okay and is rescued but this entire thing is ridiculous and was preventable. Why is she out there? Trying to set a record to be the youngest to do something. Why are such records even kept? It’s unconscionable to let a child pursue such a risky endeavor for such a trivial reason. It’s reprehensible that something’s gone wrong but now the stupidity of allowing or encouraging this child to risk her life is compounded by all the other lives that will be risked to either rescue or recover her, if they can find her. Coast guards, navies, and shipping don’t exist to help get daredevils in pursuit of vain records out of trouble. This whole situation was avoidable but two especially bad parents chose to let her “think outside the box” even if it means bringing her back home in one. For what, a little cheap and quickly eclipsed (because then the next nitwit parent will want his or her younger child to break the record) vanity. That’s if they even can bring her back home. Is this kind of record really worth these consequences? Not if you really love your child more than your own freaking vanity.
Robert commented on Jun 10 10 at 7:52 pmHer parents must be arrested and charged with child endangerment.
Yet another example in America of White Woman Syndrome – you can do anything you want if you’re a white, blonde woman and the whole of Society will rush to save you if anything should go wrong.
suzan moor commented on Jun 10 10 at 8:45 pmthis is addressed to parents–are you stupid or just so obessed with what MONEY or FAME might be gained–as a parent I wanted them excel–sports,grades–I truly hope she is OK and realizes her parents are using her to their gain–come on MOM and DAD–sending a 16 teen year old out to sail the world–the Mall is bad enough SHAME SHAME SHAME on you –and I agree you should be arrested for child endangerment–but how ever this turns out you’ll be paraded on all the talk shows–crying
Chaz Hall commented on Jun 10 10 at 9:35 pmAmen Robert.
Newyorkslim commented on Jun 11 10 at 2:12 amThe more you learn, the more chilling this story becomes. The father recounted that his daughter’s dream made him “excited.” It’s about him — his vanity, his misplaced and pious commitment to “listen” to his children. Well, you can get excited by children’s dreams — supportive, too — you can listen and be respectful of youthful ambition. But encouraging and facilitating this venture was — however it turns out — delusional — and criminal.
Howard Stern commented on Jun 12 10 at 10:33 pmThe parents should be hauled away. Like one poster said, it’s all about them…and they’re unfit to be parents. F ‘em! They should count their blessings because they were lucky this time. Next time? Let’s hope there isn’t one.
Pghgal commented on Jun 14 10 at 12:09 pmI think that Abby’s parents were irresponsible for letting there her go out into the large ocean alone. As she already experienced – storms do occur in the ocean. What if that would have been a hurricane or something else like that. What if her boat would have been seized by pirates? I know you can’t live life on what ifs, but…you can on common sense.
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