Being Pregnant
I Have a Happy Announcement
Three months ago we were in a regroup with our doctor. We had already gone through three IUIs and she was explaining the IVF process, what we thought would be the next step. After a thorough explanation she said, “You can always try another round of IUI. What do you want to do?” I wanted to say no. I had given up hope and needed a break. I didn’t think I could handle another disappointment. So I was surprised when I said, “We’d like to try another IUI.”
A couple weeks later we were at the doctor’s office going through the treatment, which seemed routine by then. I squeezed my husband’s hand as my stomach cramped up and, within a few minutes, it was over. There was nothing more we could do. We just had to wait.
I’m not good at waiting. You’re supposed to wait two weeks until you take a pregnancy test. I waited a week and a few days. Nothing. I waited a couple more days. This time something appeared that I had never seen before: a very, very faint second line. I didn’t tell my husband because I was afraid I was imagining things. The next day I took a third test and the second line–although faint–it was there again. I went to the store for more tests so that I could take more that same day. Nothing. I looked at the box and realized it wasn’t early detection. Back to the store for more tests. The next morning was the day I was actually supposed to test. I couldn’t sleep. I woke up groggy and took a test while my husband was sitting on the couch eating a bowl of cereal before work. This time that magical second line was darker than ever before. I started to shake and came out of the bathroom in a hysteric, ugly cry. “I’m pregnant!” My husband was in disbelief.
The first trimester has come and gone and I am due on April 15th. That stick with the visible second line still sits on our console table, reminding us of how shocked and happy we were. We thank God everyday for this miracle.
While we are thankful to have a baby on the way, my husband and I still carry with us the heaviness of infertility. We remember our struggle and the pain associated with it. And we understand how it will be in the future as we try to grow our family. But today we can say that miracles happen and no one is alone.
Go Back To Being Pregnant
71 Comments
Heather commented on Oct 20 11 at 9:18 amCongratulations Melanie! I have just recently found out about my own infertility issues and have sought comfort with this blog so many times. I am so happy for you and your husband. I actually started tearing up (how crazy do I sound?) when I read this just because I know you have had such a journey to get here and thank you so much for sharing all of your ups and downs. Happy pregnancy!
DENISE of Hello, Moxie! commented on Oct 20 11 at 9:19 amWhat?!?! Really?!?! OMG, congrats!!!!!!!!!!
sumeera commented on Oct 20 11 at 9:24 amI cried reading your story. I am so happy for you guys and hope that everyone who is trying to concieve can have such a happy story to tell. your little bean is my fave.
Sarah commented on Oct 20 11 at 9:28 amCongratulations!! I was so happy to read this, this morning! I can’t wait to read the rest of your journey!!
Connie commented on Oct 20 11 at 9:28 amI literally gasped as I read the title and your name!
Oh my goodness, congratulations in every way. Your story gives a lot of us out there such hope. :)Now grow, baby, grow!!!
Janna commented on Oct 20 11 at 9:32 amWAHOO!!! Congratulations!
I opened this post with joyful trepidation after I read the title- I’m so excited for you! I have really enjoyed reading your posts these past couple months- the grace and maturity with which you have dealt with your infertility and now, wow- so incredibly happy for you and your husband (it’s amazing how happy you can be for someone you’ve never met!).
Helen commented on Oct 20 11 at 9:33 amI am so delighted for you! Congratulations :-) I read your post and wept, I remember vividly testing in my first pregnancy, not believing the result and retesting – I kept the stick for a long time!
judy yarvitz commented on Oct 20 11 at 9:45 amMelanie,
Joy, pure joy. Congratulations!
laurenhartmann commented on Oct 20 11 at 9:48 amI am over the moon excited for you Melanie!! I feel like one of my friends just announced they’re pregnant!
You guys finally have your miracle! Can’t wait to read all about your pregnancy journey. Congratulations!
Alecia commented on Oct 20 11 at 9:56 amYou have big tears in my eyes right now. I am thrilled for you and feel an overwhelming emotion of hope for myself. I’m just starting down this journey with IF, too. Thank you for a moment of grateful gladness for you and for a moment of optimism for myself on a day when it all seems so overwhelming.
sarahh commented on Oct 20 11 at 10:00 amYAY!!! Yay! YAY! Yay!!! Congratu-freaking-lations! I’m so happy for you!! :):):):)
Maggie commented on Oct 20 11 at 10:03 amSo very happy for you… such amazing news!
Barchbo commented on Oct 20 11 at 10:06 amSo excited for you that I am commenting twice!! Hurrah! Here’s to your growing family!
Candice commented on Oct 20 11 at 10:12 amCongratulations to you!!! Pregnancy really is a miracle. What happy news!
katrina commented on Oct 20 11 at 10:15 amYAY Congratulations Melanie! What wonderful news. I’ve read your regular blog for a while, and I am so happy for you. :)
Kim Q commented on Oct 20 11 at 10:19 amSo happy for you! Congratulations!!!
Karen C commented on Oct 20 11 at 10:19 amAhhh!!! Yay! I have such a huge smile on my face right now :) I’m SO excited for you
Karen commented on Oct 20 11 at 10:20 amThis recap definitely made me tear up a little. What an amazing miracle!
katie commented on Oct 20 11 at 10:38 amCat’s out of the bag!
anne commented on Oct 20 11 at 10:38 amCongratulations!!! This is such great news!!
Emily commented on Oct 20 11 at 10:57 amYAAAAAAAAAY! Congratulations!!!!!
Julia commented on Oct 20 11 at 11:01 amWow Mel!!! Congratulations to you and your husband! What an exciting time for you two! I’ll be praying for a great pregnancy and healthy delivery! Enjoy this time!
Julia Reed
(I went to HS with you…used to be Julia Fick :) )
leslie commented on Oct 20 11 at 11:20 amhooray! congrats, melanie!!!
Maggie commented on Oct 20 11 at 11:27 amYAY! So many congrats to you!
Leslie commented on Oct 20 11 at 11:29 amThis brought tears to my eyes! Congratulations, I am so very happy for you both!!!!
Amanda commented on Oct 20 11 at 11:54 amCongrats!! So happy for you! Enjoy this experience!!!
Kate commented on Oct 20 11 at 11:58 amI cried at your happy, happy news. Congratulations!
D-dawg commented on Oct 20 11 at 12:00 pmMelanie and Ryan, I am so happy for you. This post made me cry because I remember well the morning I found out we were getting Mack. Nothing compares to that feeling. I can’t wait for you guys to have that little baby in your arms! Congratulations!
Tenille commented on Oct 20 11 at 12:24 pmOMG! YES!!! I am so happy for you both :) Congratulations and enjoy this very exciting time in your lives.
Kelly commented on Oct 20 11 at 12:30 pmI’ve been following your posts on her as you’ve linked to them via youaremyfave, and am so happy to hear that you’re pregnant now! Congratulations!!
lyndsey @ the stationery place commented on Oct 20 11 at 12:45 pmYAY melanie & ryan!! i am so happy for you. xo
Jessi commented on Oct 20 11 at 1:09 pmOh my goodness…I’ve been following your story ever since you started blogging on Babble. I’m generally not a weepy person, but I have to confess this made me a little teary-eyed. Congratulations to you are your husband, and may pregnancy and parenthood be filled with joy for you both!
mrs.d commented on Oct 20 11 at 1:15 pmAww. Congratulations! So very very very happy for you guys. :)
laura commented on Oct 20 11 at 1:16 pmThis makes my heart so happy!!! Congratulations!!
Devan McGuinness commented on Oct 20 11 at 1:17 pmCONGRATS !! I am so happy for you two!
Haley K commented on Oct 20 11 at 1:36 pmoh that’s so wonderful Melanie!! What a sweet miracle that you decided to do the IUI again, how blessed you are. The last paragraph you wrote got me teary eyed…Hugs to you, the hubs, and your baby belly!! :)
Eileen commented on Oct 20 11 at 1:41 pmOh my gosh, SOOOO happy for you! Just got goosebumps! Many, many congrats to you and your husband! :) In my case, the heaviness of IF has gotten better with time so hopefully it will be the same for you and you will come out stronger from this experience. Take care!
michellehorton commented on Oct 20 11 at 2:35 pmCONGRATULATIONS!!!!!! I am so, so, so happy for you and your husband.
Nichole commented on Oct 20 11 at 2:35 pmThough I’ve told you this privately, I wanted to tell you again just how happy I am for you and your husband. May the rest of your pregnancy pass quickly and easily so that you can hold your beautiful baby in your arms.
Christie commented on Oct 20 11 at 2:37 pmCongratulations! What wonderful news.
sherri lynn @ life of a wife commented on Oct 20 11 at 2:44 pmCongratulations!! What exciting news and what a blessing to you and your husband!
alismith commented on Oct 20 11 at 2:46 pmHooray! Hooray! Hooray! So thrilled for you and yours.
Virginia Valdez commented on Oct 20 11 at 3:18 pmSuch great news! I’ve been following your blog and reading your posts here. I am so excited for you. I’m at the end of my third trimester. The first was hard (because of the all day morning sickness), but the last 5 months have been magnificent and I can’t wait for the baby. Congrats! Congrats! Congrats!
Mandy commented on Oct 20 11 at 3:52 pmAlmost in tears I am so happy for you. This baby will be so loved. Congratulations, really.
Molly @thewaffler.com commented on Oct 20 11 at 4:43 pmSuch great news! Your story reminded me of how many hundreds of dollars I have spent on pregnancy tests. They’re so darn expensive, but it’s so, so hard to wait!
Catie Curran commented on Oct 20 11 at 5:01 pmThat’s wonderful news. I’m due in January and have been following your posts hoping for the best.
Janelle commented on Oct 20 11 at 6:32 pmSo happy for you!
Jackie commented on Oct 20 11 at 7:50 pmThat is fantastic news! Congratulations!
Jessica M commented on Oct 20 11 at 8:31 pmCongratulations!!
Bridget commented on Oct 20 11 at 8:38 pmCongratulations! :)
Mandi commented on Oct 20 11 at 8:47 pmCongratulations! I’m so happy for you two!
Heather commented on Oct 20 11 at 9:01 pmSO happy for you and your husband! Congratulations- from what I’ve read- you’ll be an incredible mom! Thank you for sharing your story and good news.
Mary commented on Oct 20 11 at 9:48 pmNow we can have a shower for you! When I asked about you a month ago, Kelly just said you were fine. She did a great job keeping the secret. I am so excited for you and cried along with the rest of them.
amanda commented on Oct 20 11 at 10:14 pmaaahhhhh congratulations!!! that is just the happiest news I’ve heard all day!
Michelle k commented on Oct 20 11 at 11:17 pmOmg!!! So happy to hear this!!
Nicole commented on Oct 21 11 at 12:24 amThis is beautiful news! I’m so happy for you. The joy of your miracle is written all over your face. x
Nicole commented on Oct 21 11 at 1:25 amMelanie and Ryan,
I may be on the other side of the world but have read about your struggles to start a family and I am so very happy that your wishes have finally come true.
Take care of yourselves as you continue along this path. I cannot wait to meet your little one through this blog.
All the very best
Nicole
Jennifer commented on Oct 21 11 at 2:52 amOh that’s AWESOME!!!! Congrats!!! :D
Caryn commented on Oct 21 11 at 9:25 amCongratulations Melanie! I laughed out loud when I saw this post come up in my feed and then I smiled and then I laughed again when I saw your due date. After 2 years of struggling ourselves, we are due on April 18, 2 days after you! Glad you made it through the first trimester as well. Mine was terrible, but lovely at the same time. Good luck with the rest. So happy for you too.
melissa p commented on Oct 21 11 at 10:02 amwow melanie, that’s incredible! congratulations!
Angela commented on Oct 21 11 at 12:26 pmBeautiful story which of course made me cry. Congratulations!!!!!!!
Sarah commented on Oct 21 11 at 6:36 pmELATED for y’all!!!!!
Kayt commented on Oct 22 11 at 12:14 pmYAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I am so so excited for you guys. I personally had no trouble conceiving, so I can’t even imagine the roller coaster you guys have gone through. You guys deserve to be happy. Once again, YAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Barbara commented on Oct 22 11 at 1:45 pmOh my! call me crazy but like other people on here I was tearing up too, this is so exciting! Huge congratulations from the other side of the pond xxx
Helen commented on Oct 23 11 at 1:01 pmI am genuinely so happy for you!!I wrote before about my brother and sister-in-laws infertility problems on here before and thankfully they are now pregnant and due just before you.Exciting times!
shalini commented on Oct 23 11 at 2:24 pmA huge congratulations! Such exciting news and I’m so happy for you. I remember taking the test and seeing that second line come too, and it’s something that I’ll remember forever.
Sandra commented on Oct 24 11 at 12:05 amCONGRATULATIONS!!!! I’m over the moon for you!!!
I’ve been following your blog since april, when I lost my first pregnancy.
I’m currently 4w3d pregnant with what I hope is a sticky baby.
Good luck for the remaining months!
Jen commented on Oct 25 11 at 4:31 pmI’m so happy for you and I don’t even know you! [tears] I’ve been following your blog and your writings on the struggles of infertility. Such a tough thing to go through, but being rewarded with a baby is priceless. Have a happy/healthy pregnancy!
Mrs. Kinne commented on Nov 12 11 at 9:57 pmI am so behind on blog reading that I just read your amazing news!! I am so excited for you, and your story gives me hope for my husband and me.
annika commented on Dec 11 11 at 5:43 pmSOOOO very thrilled for you guys! What great news for great people! I have tears of joy! Yay! (and ps – boys are sooo much fun!)
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