Oh Nichole, Sending you a hug. We have been trying for four months, and have not yet gone to the kits and so forth. But I think that is the plan next month. I basically took this month off, but because my body was tired…I was tired. Sometimes taking a break is good, if nothing else to avoid the roller coaster. But I also know how much you want this…. whatever you all decide, I know that I am not the only one thinking of you.

Sending good baby vibes your way.

Oh Nichole…I have an open-ended hug coming to you every day!

I personally would go back to not tracking for awhile. Relax and have fun again. I know I sure struggled with feeling like if I didn’t pee on that damn ovulation predictor each month that I wasn’t doing everything possible to conceive. As if I could control it, really. I so was not in charge! :)

And yet, it was in just saying “screw it!” one month (and the help of trying a position that, ahem, I don’t really enjoy) that worked.

Hugs, my friend. Can you do a combination of the two? Forego the prediction kits and checks down there, but still have a little bit of a party (as you call it)? I can’t say it will do anything, but if the after-party is a let-down, you are able to let yourself off the hook, but who knows, you still gave it a shot?

Do you have someone who can watch the kids? Get out for a night? Reconnect on a level where sex isn’t an obligation?

I agree that if the obsessing and disappointment is getting to be just too much, then give it a rest this month. Have sex if you feel like it, not because you have to, and don’t worry too much about the timing. I’m sure you’ve heard it before, but apparently stress can make it so much harder to conceive, so regardless of whether or not you actually get in a ‘try’ without trying this month, the break from stress and high cortisol levels will be good for your body and your chances next time.
I’ve been trying for the past 6 months and if I felt the way you described in your blog, I would definitely have a break. At the moment I’m not stressing about it because knowing that it took my similar-aged friends 9 months/1 year to conceive their first gives me hope that we just need to keep trying a be a little more patient. Of course I don’t want it to take us a year, but I’ve accepted the possibility that it might.
Wishing you all the best, whatever you decide to do this month!

I’m thinking about you. I know how much this sucks and I know what you mean about the let down month after month. All that hard work, planning, thinking, obsessing for nothing. After our miscarriage was the worst and it only took 3 months. 3 months to a women that desperately wants to fill her empty sole feels like an eternity. It just didn’t make sense.

I got a massage, tried to calm my spirit as much as possible, and turned it over to God because I obviously wasn’t in control. It was a pretty dark place on my life. I had some issues with my 1st son as well.

I can’t say anything to really make you feel better, but I send my hugs and warm thoughts. Don’t lose yourself in this process!

You are a strong,beautiful and brave women. You will make it through this no matter the outcome.

Take a break! Make a list of all that is whole and fulfilled for you. Have fun. Have sex for the sole purpose of reconnecting with your husband. Cuddle. We tried for 8 months for our third. I was so stressed & tired. I did all of the above, gave it to God & believed & accepted whatever his plan was. I got pregnant as soon as we had given up…given up to the point to where I didn’t even know when to expect my period! We gave up trying after my June cycle, by august there were two lines. Just breathe. It will happen, in the right time, in the right way. Hope this is encouraging during a difficult time. ((Hugs))

I am positive that you’ve heard this story before from hundreds of others, but here I go anyway…

After my miscarriage we started trying immediately for another baby. Month one…my period came early. Month two…I must be pregnant, I’m 5 days late, but every pregnancy test says negative. And then my period starts. Month three…still charting, still ovulating, Aunt Flow comes right on time. Month four…late again…YES must be pregnant. 7 days later, there’s my good ole friend again. And now I’m just fed up. I threw my thermometer away. I was done with it. I decided I was taking the time off from trying.

Month five…late, and sick, and getting fat already…

So my point…take a month off, but don’t. Try to take the month off and have fun with your husband again. I am no doctor and I am no fertility specialist and I realize that I don’t have fertility issues so maybe I shouldn’t even be speaking to it…but stress plays a huge role on our bodies. Then at the end of this month if you’re not pregnant, you’ll at least be refreshed and ready to try again.

Love to you.

Don’t just take a break. TAKE A VACATION.

My husband and I tried for 8 years, and after 2 miscarriages, we had given up. I always thought that raising my hips for 30 min after sex was some old wives tale, but the night I did that I got pregnant. I hope that everything works out for you soon.