Being Pregnant

Baby’s Before-Birth Personality

Posted by katetiejte on May 26th, 2011 at 5:08 pm
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That's me, pregnant with my second...my "sensitive" baby

Being almost 30 weeks pregnant with my third, I’ve experienced a fair amount of “pregnant time.”  One thing that has really stood out to me is how different each baby was…even while still in the womb. 

Also, somewhat surprisingly, their “womb personalities” have fairly closely mirrored their real personalities!  Babies can definitely ‘tell’ you who they are, even before birth!

My first baby was very stubborn.  She’d stick her little elbows and knees into my ribs and when I gently pushed them back in…she’d stick them right back!  She was absolutely determined to do whatever was most comfortable to her.  And although, now, and 3, she isn’t that way about the same sort of issues (she tends to be very careful not to hurt people), she’s still determined to do what she wants and very independent too!

My second baby was much calmer and more gentle.  He never stuck limbs out where they could hurt me, and always seemed so cautious.  He’s generally very sensitive and seems “aware” of people a lot now.  (Though he’s not personally cautious at all!  Nothing’s too high to climb.)

This baby seems very different, too.  Very active, very “oblivious.”  This baby won’t quit flipping into different positions almost everyday.  Head down, breech, transverse, and around again.  The baby never hurts me really like my first, but doesn’t seem at all deliberately cautious like my second, either.  I’ve kind of imagined this baby as very “day dreamy” and so far it kind of seems like that.  Of course, since s/he isn’t here yet, that remains to be seen!

It’s amazing how different babies are, almost immediately. 

Have you experienced this?  Did your baby’s “before-birth” personality match baby’s ‘actual’ personality at all?

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9 Comments

This is my first baby but I do hope that my baby before birth is similar to my baby after birth. This has been the sweetest pregnancy so far. My baby gives me these gentle kicks right on time each day and I never once had an upset stomach or any bad feelings.

I do look forward to a lovely baby who takes after my husband. His mum told he never cried but was content to play by himself in his crib.

Izzy commented on May 26 11 at 5:54 pm

Well, my eldest is adopted.. so I cant answer for him.. BUT my twins.. this is def true. The “oldest” of the twins was VERY active in the womb and is the life of the party outside. The “youngest” was very mellow. Didnt move much but when he did.. he made sure you knew it was him and made it count! He is my couch potato and a very sensitive soul. I remember in the unltrasound room trying to find out gender, the oldest kept kicking the other and he would curl up and hide. after about an hour we finally got a peek. Funny thing was that even outside the womb the oldest tends to beat up on the other and when they are in water.. the oldest stretches out and the youngest curls up and crosses his legs :) They were both also very calm at night.. something I cherish now as both sleep VERY well.

Now the one thats in there now.. she is ACTIVE and seems to be a bit stubborn as she likes to stay breech most of the time (Doesnt both me, I birthed on my twins breech) She is also most active at night.. so that has me a bit worried about my much valued sleep :)

Courtney commented on May 26 11 at 9:23 pm

@ Amanda. What is your problem? That was unbelievably uncalled for. Saying that her daughter is stubborn, determined, independent and gentle is not “always having something negative to say.” She is merely commenting on her personality traits. How about I do the same for you. You are a bi***

Courtnay commented on May 26 11 at 11:06 pm

I have three small boys and my first son is very stubborn. When I ask him to do something he always has an excuse as to why he doesn’t want to do it but he is very gentle and great in school and with other kids. My middle child is a people pleaser and doesn’t like ruffling anyone’s feathers and always jumps right up to do what I ask him to do. My third child is the youngest (only 3) but he is very unaware of the term “sharing” and likes to get his was all the time. There are obviously different personality traits for every child and I don’t think anything this mom said about her 3 year old daughter is wrong. Me and my husband often joke that the first two are angels and our third one is going to be our “problem”! They are all different and they are all LOVED no matter what their personality!

Asya Blake commented on May 26 11 at 11:48 pm

BTW I don’t think that my 3 year old is going to need therapy one day because I said he was my fit throwing always getting his way kind of child. I think he will grow up and laugh about being the “hell raiser” ;)

Asya Blake commented on May 26 11 at 11:53 pm

i agree. thats y they say all pregnancies are diffrent….my daughter she was stuborn, always pokin her butt out, and feet in the ribs, and always moving….she is now ready to be 3, still stuborn, her way or the highway and always dancing, she loves music…..

danielle commented on May 27 11 at 1:53 am

It was opposite for me…”angels on the inside, he!! on the outside”. My first was a super easy pregnancy (although delivering 10 lb baby was NOT easy), but once he was here, BAM! He is now 4.5 yrs and still as feisty as the day he was born. My second pregnancy was difficult, but my daughter is just a calm little sweetheart. Totally opposite to how the pregnancy was.

Jodie commented on May 27 11 at 9:05 am

My mom says that I was a difficult baby from conception on. My mom’s about 5’4″, and I was over 21″ of baby in there, so I kept her awake a LOT apparently. She also said that one Friday on her way home from an appointment, she felt some pain, and then I stopped moving. She freaked out, made an appointment for that Monday, and spent the weekend scared because I never moved at all the entire time. At the appointment, I was still alive (obviously!), but apparently I had FINALLY gotten comfortable and slept for a weekend straight.

After I was born, things didn’t get any easier – acid reflux, etc. And I wouldn’t let my dad hold me until I was almost a year old! They thought it was dad’s moustache, but my Grandpa had one and I liked him just fine (although he was one of those never-held-a-baby-what-do-I-do-with-this-thing sort of Grandpas). Then around 9 months, I decided that dad was cool and was a daddy’s girl from then on. You never really can predict these things!

Emma commented on May 27 11 at 11:15 am

Oh, and I don’t have any bad feelings towards my parents for telling me I was difficult. I know I was difficult – I remember all of the fights I had during my childhood, and my family and I made it through them just fine. We’re a pretty tight-knit family now (Skype at least weekly).

Emma commented on May 27 11 at 11:16 am

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