Being Pregnant
Infertility Is Not A Solitary Struggle
When it comes to infertility, no one is to blame. I don’t care if the problem is diagnosed as female or male related, infertility is not a solitary struggle. It is very much a couple’s issue. I’m not infertile. WE are infertile.
Because of this, there are difficulties that arise. My husband and I are often at different levels of emotion at different times. When I’m in a complete slump, it seems that he’s the more solid one lifting me up and vice versa.
I think there can be a lot of frustration that comes with being at different points of the emotional scale. Maybe you’re really having a bad day and your spouse seems fine so you’re wondering why it isn’t effecting them as much. Maybe it’s really hard to see your spouse so discouraged and you don’t know if you have the strength to be the rock. Maybe you’re ready to see a specialist and they’re not.
From my own experience and from what I have hear from many of you, this is normal. It can be completely frustrating. Do not allow this to be a drift in your relationship. Try to understand where your spouse is coming from and work together. Be patient. Infertility is something you go through together. You need each other now more than ever. And, even though you both may not be at the same place all the time, you are still in it together. There is strength in that.
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Kelly commented on May 18 11 at 9:14 pmbeautiful!
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