I can only imagine how difficult this choice is for you, but I am confident that if you look deep inside, you will know what is right!

I’ve been in a similar situation, my son never dropped & was a c/s (failed induction @42 weeks) and a daughter who did drop (several times) and was a VBAC. Now, I still had to work *really* hard to get her out, even though she dropped, and I still had to wait a long time to go into labor (she was another 42wk+ kiddo), but it did work. For me, there was something very significant about having my daughter vaginally, and I’m really glad if I only got to have one vaginal birth, it was with my daughter. It’s great you’re deciding to go for it, and it sounds like you have wonderful & encouraging care providers, so you have a great shot at a VBA2C! Good luck whichever way it goes.

I had a C-section with my first because he never descended and I never dilated past 7. I decided to try for a VBAC with my second, and it didn’t work, and the exact same thing happened as with my first. But I’m still pretty glad I went for it. Knowing what I know now, it’s tempting to wish that I hadn’t because my second labor wound up being more painful than my first and also unproductive, but the thing is, if I *hadn’t* tried, I wouldn’t know what I know now, and I’d always wonder if it would have worked. It was worth trying for me.

OMG you know I am going in my head, she would be crazy not to try to have a vaginal birth now! not before, but now! I know how much this has always meant to you, how bummed you have been that you have not had a vaginal birth. I think you can totally go for it now. BUT You have to do what is right for you. Either way you have support here.

My goodness, can’t imagine what this would be doing to my head if I were in the same position!! Whatever the decision, wishing you all the very best for the birth of your little girl xx

I want to let you know as a mother of three my last born seven weeks ago,even though you daughter is doing something your sons didn’t by decending..it
Is harder to labor and have a c section then to have a scheduled c section. The trauma and stress on the uterus makes recovery and the pain after the c section …. if you need one anyway… more difficult. My first was labor and a needed c section. My next two were scheduled c sections. The immidiate recovery and being able to get up and move afterwards was much easier. That said, it is an imensly personal choice. You seem to be very well educated on the pros and cons. As we know.. a c section does not make you any less of a woman or mother. Good luck with your decision.safe and healthy delivery.

I had an unnecessary c-section with my first daughter, and an HBAC attempt ended in a necessary c-section with my second. While I have to say that I will choose VBAC if I am ever pregnant again, I know that we each must make the choice that we personally are most comfortable with. So, that choice is individual. However, I have to say that I truly appreciate the labor I experienced with my second. Every moment of the 36 or so hours of that experience was right in my eyes and exactly what we both needed. I recovered more quickly from surgery. My baby never had to be separated from me for breathing issues or anything of the sort as my first babe did. I honestly feel like labor with or without a vaginal birth is of tremendous benefit to both mother and baby. If I knew I had to have a c-section, and it was not dangerous to labor, I’d ask that I wait for surgery until labor begins on its own and I have labored for awhile. Unless there is a serious health problem there is no rush. I hope you feel at peace with whatever you choose and all goes well for you. Blessings, mama.