Being Pregnant
Polygamy May Suck For Women, But It’s Great For Mothers.
It’s a big night for Polygamy, what with the [upcoming] finale of Big Love and the season premiere of Sister Wives. I’ve been watching Big Love for all 3 [no, 5] seasons—partly just for the guilty pleasure of seeing Chole Sevigny looking so aggressively un-hot—and while I’ve felt many emotions: pity, anger, disbelief…when imagining the plight of the sister wives, I consistently felt one thing when watching scenes about parenting.
Jealous.
Talk about having a Village. Other Mothers? Sure, I could imagine the competition is fierce. You think you feel bad when your kid loves on the babysitter? But polygamy requires a sort of shift in the idea of a single supreme connection in a marriage. Maybe that spreading out of love translates to the mother-child connection, too? It’s a scary thought, but think about what comes along with it. A network of women who truly are almost as invested in your children as you are.
I’ve had a few moments of communal living I’ve had as a parent, on vacation with other families, mostly. The vibe was always chaotic, but there was something that just made sense about it, an ease. There were always enough adults to go around, to cover all the bases and get everything done. And there was, therefore, no bickering about who was doing what and who had time to take care of whatever it was they needed personally. In a two parent family, self-sustenance is always in conflict with the conveyor belt of kids needs. Clearly a family with more parents has more responsibilities to divvy up. But knowing how it’s usually no harder to care for a group of kids than a single kid—and not much harder to make dinner for 16 than for 4, I do think polygamy might have some real perks to offer in the mothering department. Plus, think of the opportunities for the children. Forget playing Dad against Mom. With this many parents, there’s always someone you can manipulate!
Go Back To Being Pregnant
0 Comments
Anonymous commented on Mar 14 11 at 12:52 amNext Sunday is the finale of Big Love. Also, this is its 5th season (in response to saying thar you’ve watched all 3 seasons).
Rebecca commented on Mar 14 11 at 7:43 amWhoops! That’s what happens when you post late at night (after watching two episodes in a row to try to catch up before seeing too many spoilers!) Duly noted.
Miranda commented on Mar 14 11 at 3:06 pmWouldn’t it be amazing to have another women around the house just for when you didn’t feel like doing laundry, or just needed alone time or even when you needed someone to talk to? I think it would be! I have been watching both of these shows on a weekly basis, without missing a single show and I gotta tell ya.. I am jealous too! I am usually a big fan of only the HD channels, and so when I saw both of these shows were offered in HD I was thrilled! Since I have become an employee at DISH, I can’t help but want nothing but HD since with my subscription I get over 200 channels of HD!
Jenna commented on Mar 21 11 at 8:42 pmWe have two couples close to us that we’re really close to and we joke all the time that we’re going to buy houses next to each other and set up the backyards Big Love style… we’ll all take care of each others kids and eat together… except for there being enough men to go around we joke that we’ll be one big happy family.
We joke about it, but really I’m not kidding.
Add your take:
Note: Babble is a supportive, diverse community. We encourage a range of opinions,
but any unduly hostile comments will be removed.
Comments are delayed up to 15 minutes
Aela Mass 
Casi Densmore-Koon 
Rebekah Kuschmider .jpg)
CaitlinHTP (Caitlin Boyle) 
Michelle Horton 
Ceridwen Morris 
Katie 
Devan McGuinness 
The Walt Disney Company supports Babble as a platform dedicated to honest, engaged, informed, intelligent and open conversation about parenting. However, the opinions expressed on this site are those of individual parents/writers and do not reflect the views of Disney. In addition, content provided on this site is for entertainment or informational purposes only and should not be construed as medical advice, diagnosis, treatment, or safety advice.
0