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We Can Choose to Abort, but Not Where to Birth?
It’s occurred to me recently, with all the talk about pro-choice issues and “anti-choice” laws being enacted, that we’re kind of missing the boat. Or, well, part of the boat. Women are so focused on their right to choose that they’ll do anything to stand up for abortion — the right to have one if they want to.
But at some point during pregnancy, that fire seems to die down in many, and we seem to lose our rights. We’ve fought to have the right to have an abortion because it’s “my body, my rights,” yet…we don’t seem to be saying the same thing about birth.
How is it that we can have the right to choose abortion, but not the right to choose where to give birth?
That makes no sense to me at all. (Now…I’m not a fan of abortion. I’m a Christian and I don’t believe in it. But politically, well…that’s another post entirely. To put it briefly, if we give the fetus rights over the mother, at any point in the pregnancy, we are opening up women to lose their rights at all points, including in the delivery room.)
How can it be that we fight for the right to choose whether or not to keep a baby in our bodies early in the pregnancy…yet we don’t fight for our rights later? How can it be that any political official would support the right to choose abortion, yet not support a woman’s right to choose how she gives birth?
But it happens all the time.
People (mistakenly) say “Anything but a managed hospital birth is more dangerous and should not be allowed. We have moved forward in time for a reason.” But first, that’s not true for the majority of women, and second, why do we stand for it?!
We have the right to become informed about different birthing options. There are hospital births (including natural/drug free, epi/vaginally, induced, c-sections), birthing center births, and home births. There are different types of providers — OBs, CNMs, CPMs, even some family practice doctors — who can attend these births. And when it comes to the room itself, we have IVs or not, eating or not, walking around or not…and so on.
This is your first parenting decision.
These are our bodies, and our babies, and we should have the right to choose. Not only to choose early in the pregnancy, but throughout! We should have the right to choose what tests we receive, what prenatal care we receive and from whom, and where we have our babies. And once those babies are born, what procedures they are subject to.
People don’t seem to think so. They seem to think, in the name of “public health” or other such nonsense (which just does not apply to birth!), we should be forced to follow a standard procedure. We’re too dumb to sort through research and options and choose what works best for our families and our babies. We just don’t have the right to make that decision.
I say, that’s ridiculous.
So, while we’re busy fighting for the right to choose, let’s fight for the right to choose all the way through. Our rights don’t stop at the end of the first trimester, or when our babies become viable. We, as the mothers, always retain our rights.
What do you think about women’s reproductive rights? Should we have the right to choose where and how to birth?
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We Can Choose to Abort, but Not Where to Birth? « More Than Four Walls commented on Aug 29 11 at 1:22 pmHeather commented on Mar 08 11 at 11:09 amI really appreciate your look at birth choices, a highly charged and challenging topic. I gave birth to my first child in a hospital with midwives naturally and was looking forward to my second child being born in a birth center. The problem is in GA only hospital births are allowed. In addition many “standard procedures” are never even discussed, but pushed on families unless they know their rights to choose. If we focused more on these rights than the “right” to choose I think there would be a better birth experience and teach women how to think through all of their decisions when pregnant instead of following a “medical model” because they are told this is the only way without even offering other options and a good comparison of each type.
Lynnsey commented on Mar 08 11 at 12:24 pmFor people who truly fight for reproductive rights it’s about so much more that abortion. It’s about comprehensive, age-appropriate sexual health education, access to and information about contraceptive choices, access to affordable preventative care to keep women healthy, and promoting a healthy attitude about sex.
All of this tends to boil down to one important question: Do you believe that women can make decisions for themselves or do you think that they need to be patronized and told what to do because they’re obviously too stupid to make an informed decision? This question applies to all of the aspects of reproductive choice, including if and when and how and where to give birth.
Ashley commented on Mar 08 11 at 12:47 pm@Lynnsey: I think you hit the nail on the head. Very well put!
Heidi Fiscus commented on Mar 08 11 at 4:04 pmI think it is ridiculous the medical community puts such pressure on women to have babies in the hospital and to do everything their way. What ever happened to strong, independent women? Women still have rights whether it is to abort their baby or to have their baby at home.
We had to create an emergency birth plan in order to feel somewhat comfortable if something major happens and we have to be transported. What a silly thought… but very much needed!
I posted a copy here: http://raisingfiscus.blogspot.com/2011/03/choose-where-you-want-to-birth-and-have.html
Liesel commented on Mar 08 11 at 5:56 pmHow much of it is due to rising insurance costs- particularly for malpractice? Americans are way too happy to sue someone instead of owning up to a decision they might make for themselves. It’s much easier to let a doctor tell you everything you need to do and let them make all the decisions for you. Then you can take comfort in knowing you can sue and receive $$$ when your baby doesn’t turn out “quite right”. :(
So I agree, we should fight for our rights, but I question how many women really actually care to have rights when it comes to pregnancy and birth.
Michael Voisinet commented on Mar 09 11 at 3:24 amThese women have absolutely positively NO RIGHT AT ALL to terminate the life of their unborn child. There are 1.3 million abortions performed each year in The United States. In 2006,Planned Parenthood had performed 289,750 abortions,or approximately 23% of all abortions make it the largest abortion provider in The United States.
These poor innocent young children have totally endured enough pain and suffering. And they most certainly don’t need to endure any more. They hereby claim and they further contend that a woman has a right to do whatever she wants to with her own body.
Yes,a woman does have a right to do whatever she wants to with her own body as long as she doesn’t engage in illicit sexual intercourse or terminate the life of her unborn child. That child has rights. And they must be properly respected at all times.
They further ascertain that a woman has a right to terminate the life of her unborn child in the cases of rape and incest. Absolutely positively not!! If the mother doesn’t want her unborn child any longer she can always opt for adoption as opposed to terminating the life of her unborn child.
Or she can enlist the help of friends or family members to assist her in tending to the needs of that particular child. In The Catholic Church if you procure any kind of an abortion you are automatically excommunicated from The Catholic Church. If you so desire to get reinstated into The Catholic Church you must go to Confession and confess your sins to God.
And you must make full amends for what you have done. After you have received full absolution for your sins and are truly repentant of them then you will be deemed worthy to get reinstated into The Catholic Church and not before. You must fully resolve not to commit the same sins over and over again.
As the old saying goes:Actions do speak louder than words. Showing that you are truly sorry is much more important than the actual words used. Human life must be respected and protected absolutely from the first moment of conception. From the first moment of his existence,a human being must be recognized as having the rights of a person,among which is the inviolable right to every innocent being to life.
Since the first century,the Church has affirmed the moral evil of every procured abortion. This teaching has not changed and remains unchangeable. Direct abortion,that is to say,abortion willed as either an end or a means,is gravely contrary to the moral law.
Formal cooperation in an abortion constitutes a grave offense. The Church attaches the canonical penalty of excommunication to this crime against human life. A person who procures a completed abortion incurs excommunication latae sententiae,by the very commission of the offense,and subject to the conditions provided by Canon Law. The Church does not thereby intend to restrict the scope of mercy. Rather,She makes clear the gravity of the crime committed,the irreparable harm done to the innocent who is put to death,as well as to the parents and the whole of society.
A man and a woman have absolutely positively NO RIGHT AT ALL to engage in any kind of sexual intercourse until they are properly married both in the eyes of The Church and in the eyes of God. God instituted sex for marriage and that’s where it belongs.
Fornication is carnal union between an unmarried man and an unmarried woman. It is gravely contrary to the dignity of persons and of human sexuality which is naturally ordered to the good of spouses and the generation and education of children. Moreover,it is a grave scandal when there is corruption of the young.
Lust is disordered desire for or inordinate enjoyment of sexual pleasure. Sexual pleasure is morally disordered when sought for itself,isolated from it’s procreative and unitive purposes.
Abortion is homicide. It is murder. Unintentional killing is not morally imputable. But one is not exonerated from grave offense if,without proportionate reasons,he has acted in a way that brings about someones death,even without the intention to do so.
1 Corinthians 6:13:Foods are for the stomach,and the stomach is for foods,and God will destroy them both. But the body is not for sexual immorality,it is for the Lord,and the Lord is for the body. God raised up the Lord and he will raise us up too by his power.
1 Corinthians 6:18:Keep away from sexual immorality. All other sins that people may commit are done outside the body,but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.
1 Corinthians 6:19:Do you not realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit,who is in you and whom you received from God?
1 Corinthians 6:20:You are not your own property,then,you have been bought at a price. So use your body for the glory of God.
Matthew 5:27-28:You have heard how it was said,You shall not commit adultery. But I say this to you,if a man looks at a woman lustfully,he has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
Let us all pray that abortion comes to an abrupt end effective immediately.
Nulono commented on Mar 09 11 at 9:38 amWait, so you think that by not letting a woman kill her 9-month baby, that’s going to cause all of women’s rights to crumble?
KateTietje commented on Mar 09 11 at 9:56 amMichael,
You missed the point of the article. I state clearly in the beginning that I am NOT in favor of abortion. I am a Christian and do not believe in it.
The point is, abortion IS currently legal…and yet, women do not have the right to choose WHERE and HOW to birth their babies?! Seems incredibly unfair. Other women can terminate theirs…but I can’t choose to have mine safely at home? Something is very backwards here.
Nulono,
You also missed the point. Again, I am NOT in favor of abortion and NEVER said anything about “aborting a 9-month baby.” No one would do that!! Read what I said above.
Lynnsey commented on Mar 09 11 at 1:14 pm@Michael Voisinet..Please keep your antiquated religion out of my sex life. You have the right to believe whatever you want. You don’t get to force anyone else to follow your religion. Abortion is legal and the way to reduce the number of unnecessary abortions is through education and contraception, not trying to shame and control women who enjoy sex.
Please tell me the approximate number of unintended pregnancies that your expressions of moral outrage at sexual activity you don’t sanction have prevented.
MsFortune commented on Apr 05 11 at 1:24 amYes,a woman does have a right to do whatever she wants to with her own body as long as she doesn’t engage in illicit sexual intercourse
+++++Well, MV, I’ll give you credit. You do aknowledge that the anti-abortion stance is not really about the babies – it’s about controlling women and policing their sexual behavior.
You’ll have to excuse me – I am going to have some hot, dirty, sexy illicit sexual intercourse. ORGY IN TEN MINUTES! If I get pregnant I’ll name it after you and have an abortion party. It’s gonna be HOT!
Becki commented on Apr 07 11 at 4:34 pmUm, yeah. It’s because a fetus is a clump of cells, and it’s doubtful that it possesses any awareness. A baby is, well, *a baby.* Choosing to abort means choosing to end a pregnancy. Choosing to give birth at home means choosing to risk the life of your baby. It is not the same thing. You can’t compare a full-term baby to a first trimester fetus.
Nessa commented on Jul 17 11 at 10:32 pm@Michael Voisinet Okay…. so women are property to you is that it? So if a father rapes his daughter and she gets pregnant and it’s a tubular pregnancy which means that it could be fatal, which means BOTH could die, that they should both die?
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