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5 Things You Should Know About Breastfeeding NOW, Before the Baby Is Born

Posted by ceridwen on December 8th, 2010 at 9:37 am

Alessandro  217x300 5 Things You Should Know About Breastfeeding NOW, Before the Baby Is Born1. Babies Don’t Suck On The Nipple

New mothers will hear lots about getting a “good latch” in the first weeks of breastfeeding. There are some finer points to this, but the main thing is that babies do not “latch onto” (suck) the actual nipple. They suck on the pink part around the nipple which is called the areola. The full milk ducts are under the areola. When these are squeezed by the force of the baby’s sucking, the milk comes out through the nipple. If the baby sucks on the nipple, no milk ducts are being squeezed and soon mom will be in AGONY. And the nipples will become sore and even chapped and bloody. So get as much of that areola into the little baby’s mouth as you can.

2. The More You Feed, The More You Make

If you feed frequently, your body will make lots of milk. If you feed infrequently and supplement with formula, your body will make less milk. It’s the simple law of supply and demand. Your body is smart: if the baby sucks (from hunger), it makes milk (to sate that hunger).

But there’s a little more to it than that: Early, frequent feeding is crucial to establish supply in the first place.

During the several weeks after birth, your body is getting some important information about what’s expected of it. Think of it like this: the milk factory is being built. If there’s a need for lots of milk — because the baby is constantly feeding — a big factory will be made. If there’s scant need, a small factory will be made. This is one key reason why all breastfeeding experts insist on feeding breastmilk exclusively for the first few weeks.

No matter when you imagine yourself weaning the baby, if you’d like to have the option of feeding breastmilk for some period of time, it’s important to build the milk factory early on. It’s easier to switch to formula later, not so easy to switch to breastmilk if you’ve been feeding formula in the first month.

If you want to breastfeed, make sure everyone in the hospital/birth center knows to let you feed “on demand” and “exclusively.”  If the baby is in the nursery and starts to cry or fuss and suck, looking for a food, the nurses should bring him immediately to you for a feeding. Another option is to have the baby “room in” (sleep in the room) with you.

3. Babies Nurse 8-12 Times In 24 Hours, But Not At Even Intervals

The idea of a feeding schedule can be so appealing to a new mother who realizes full-well just how much her days and nights are going to be dominated by another person’s needs. However, when it comes to breastfeeding in the very early weeks, trying to get everything super planned can end up making a mother feel even more out of control. The fact is babies feed about 8-12 times in a 24 hour period, sometimes in what are called “cluster feedings,” or feedings that take place in quick succession. Since each feeding can take about 45 minutes, those periods of cluster feedings can make a new mother feel like she’s pretty much chained to the nursing chair for hours when they happen. So prepare: Have a book, water (always water!), the remote, snack, phone and whatever else you need at arm’s reach when you sit down to nurse. And try not to worry to much if your tiny newborn isn’t snapping to our adult schedules right away; they’re on baby-time for a while, so let it be.

4. If You Want To Breastfeed, Do Not Introduce Bottles Or Pacifiers In the First Few Weeks

Babies can develop what’s called “nipple confusion” if they are fed from both an artificial nipple and a real one too early on. Nipple confusion should really be called Nipple Preference (and sometimes is) because the baby begins to prefer one nipple to the other. And the bottle is usually the winner. Artificial nipples are a little easier to suck from and babies can get used to that. They may adamantly reject the breast if they get too much bottle time too soon. An infant can be re-trained to enjoy nursing, but it’s not always easy. If you plan to nurse, leave the artificial nipples out of your baby’s mouth for the first few weeks.

5. Breastfeeding Is Hard At First

I cannot emphasize this enough: it’s so different for the first few weeks than it is later on. There is a big learning curve for mother and baby — you both need to get into the rhythms and motions of feeding. Sure, it’s the most innate thing in the world — babies were born to suck and our bodies were made to produce milk.  But getting into the groove of holding your baby to the breast, and making sure she’s sucking in the most efficient way, can take some time. You both want it to work, but there’s always some trial and error along the way. And error usually results in sore nipples.

Get lots of support from lactation consultants in the hospital or via neighborhood breastfeeding groups. Some pediatricians don’t know nearly enough about breastfeeding, and your OB/GYN or midwife is not seeing you anymore. This is unfortunate, because good support early on makes a big difference. La Leche League doesn’t charge a thing and they have meetings nation-wide. Lots of childbirth education centers offer postpartum/breastfeeding groups. Look up these resources now so you’re ready when the baby is born.

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13 Comments

Totally agree with it! Over in my country, lots of new mums feel pressured during the first 2 weeks (when the milk is still coming in) and they get old folks and relatives and friends and even confinement ladies (kinda like doula) telling them they have to supplement with formula as their baby is crying due to hunger.

For my case, my husband and I already agreed no matter what, we have to breastfeed. So we did not get any formula or bottles and we chose to deliver at a semi private hospital (very pro natural childbirth and breastfeeding) and am proud to say, at 21 months now, I’m still breastfeeding without a speck of formula powder in the house!

I'm a full-time mummy commented on Dec 08 10 at 11:08 am

Thank you so much for this article, Ceridwen! I am 5 1/2 months pregnant and attempting to educate myself more about breastfeeding. There are tips here that I really hadn’t heard yet– how the baby sucks and not to use fake nipples the first few weeks being two of them. I really want to breastfeed “exclusively” and “on-demand” and common-sense information like this definitely makes me feel empowered. Thanks again.

FC725 commented on Dec 08 10 at 12:57 pm

Another tip:
Start pumping when your milk comes in. Feed baby on one side and pump the other. Leave milk in the fridge until you have 4-8 ounces. (or at the end of the day).. Put in freezer container of your choice (bags, etc) and freeze. Make sure to label clearly, date, babies name, etc. I also number mine so I only have to find the right number not dates… you may have more than one a day. This milk is invaluable as a bulk when you go back to work, take a night out with hubs (or as in my case) have an emergency and need surgery and can’t possibly pump enough in the two hour window that you have before surgery…. ya know.. lol :) If your baby doesn’t use the milk, donate it :) Keep pumping.. at first I pump all the time to relieve the pain, then I pump 1-3 times a day.. Be an angel and donate if you don’t need it. If you need to go back to work you have a supply already built up to work with. Use what you have frozen, put the milk you pump at work in the back and keep going :) When pumping you are not as “efficient” as baby nursing so there will possibly be some decrease if you are pumping all day at work. This will VERY MUCH help you keep baby on breastmilk in childcare :)

Holly commented on Dec 08 10 at 4:40 pm

I am a big fan of breastfeeding, and was able to breastfeed my daughter for about 10 months (though at the end I was down to twice a day). One thing I didn’t realize: It definitely hurts at the beginning! Even though I had a relatively easy time of it, and I think my daughter was latched on properly, my nipples were still pretty sore until the skin toughened up. So don’t give up! And if it doesn’t work for you, don’t beat yourself up, either. Your baby will be fine.

Believer commented on Dec 08 10 at 4:48 pm

Great article! I never knew how hard breastfeeding would be until my first baby was born. I was exhausted and overwhelmed by the process. What saved me was educating myself ahead of time, a great lactation consultant, and the determination to make it work. I went on to nurse my first for 15 months and my second child for 22 months.

Laura commented on Dec 08 10 at 4:54 pm

Some babies eat fast and some eat VERY slowly. My son took forever to nurse so I had to plan accordingly in the mornings before going to work. He just wasn’t efficient. He is still a slow eater to this day!

Some babies just won’t take a bottle. We tried 5 different types and it literally took me dropping him off at daycare the first day with a bunch of bottles for him to figure it out. He just wanted me. It was flattering and all but very difficult those first three months. Once he was at daycare all day for a week, he figured it out quickly.

Some babies don’t like pacifiers and want to pacify themselves on you.

If you are going to pump at work, get a hands free nursing bra. It will make pumping easier and allow you to do other things while you pump. Make one or buy one-but do get one.

Pump for each time you offer a bottle to your child, whether it’s a bottle of MM or formula so your body keeps making milk. Pump an extra time if you can.

Not all milk preserves well in the freezer. Mine turned funky and DS wouldn’t drink it. Should have used it all while it was fresh instead of introducing formula and saving the MM.

Drink lots of water to keep up your supply!

Laura commented on Dec 08 10 at 5:05 pm

I agree with everything except the nipple confusion. I’m pretty sure this is a myth. I too thought I wasn’t supposed to use artificial nipples for the first few weeks and because I didn’t my son refused to ever take a bottle or a pacifier. EVER. Let me tell you, it was exhausting to be constantly attached to that baby every two hours for almost 10 months while he breastfed. I have friends who breastfed exclusively but allowed their babies to have a bottle or pacifier soon after birth and there was never any “nipple confusion.” My next baby will get both bottle and pacifier as soon as breastfeeding is established which I think is the appropriate guideline. If your baby takes to the breast right away, there’s no need to delay bottles or pacifiers in my opinion.

Nancy commented on Dec 08 10 at 10:24 pm

If your baby is a good nurser at the beginning you don’t need to worry about nipple confusion. My son was a very aggressive nurser from the start and tore up my nipples. Nothing the lactation consultants suggested helped and I was in agony. At his first checkup the pediatrician told me to take a break from nursing to let my nipples heal and pump instead for a few days to feed him with the bottle. I took his advice and ended up nursing until 15 months.

mbaker commented on Dec 08 10 at 11:30 pm

Great article. Most lactation specialists and pediatricians claimed there is not nipple confusion.
Thanks to all of the mothers who donate milk to be pasteurized for use by others. My baby was almost 11 weeks premature and had donor milk for a couple days until my milk came in.
It is possible to exclusively pump – but it is hard (more of a chore then the enjoyable experience).

Tammie commented on Dec 09 10 at 12:11 am

As mentioned, it’s not always nipple confusion (although that’s possible; my premature son learned to eat with a orthodontic nipple, worst possible option, and it made it very hard to learn breastfeeding), but rather nipple preference or even pacification. Some babies only need a few bottles to decide they like the ease of free-flowing food over having to “work” for it. Unfortunately the “work” of the jaw helps with proper development of the mouth/jaw. And some babies refuse any sort of fake nipple and have to be taught to cup feed instead. You just don’t know what kind of baby yours will be until you try, and if you’re committed to breastfeeding it might be preferential to err on the side of no nipple and avoid having a baby who screams at you every time you put him/her into nursing position (I’ve had that experience also, no fun to be rejected for a bottle).

Rachel commented on Dec 09 10 at 7:49 pm

I have been breast feeding for almost four years now, my eldest nursed for 21 months and my youngest is now 21 months. I clicked on this to see if your advice would be the same as I would give. You hit it square on the head!!!!! The only thing I would add, even though I am an advocate of full term nursing, is every ounce counts!!

La'El commented on May 02 11 at 1:14 am

Another important thing is that women who deliver via c-sections are likely to have “late” milk. Their milk may take a little longer to come in, so with the added pain of surgery, not being fully able to hold your baby as comfortably as you’d like (as comfort and relaxation make a huge difference), it takes all that much more longer to feed your baby. (Usually). Also, tell the nurses specifically that you do not want your baby to use a pacifier. I told the nurses that I was opting to breast feed after surgery and when they brought my baby back, she had a pacifier in her mouth (me being a new mother, I did not know that pacifiers could cause confusion, so I went with it). I couldn’t see a breast feeding consultant until the day I left the hospital two days later. You need to see one as soon as possible! When my baby wasn’t gaining her 1 little pound (god forbid your baby doesn’t gain their birth weight back!), her pediatrician told me to supplement . BIG MISTAKE! Your baby is not going to shrivel away and die if they don’t gain their birth weight back right away. So, I supplemented and my milk supply dropped like no other. I couldn’t regain myself or get it back up because I was so busy, so I struggled dearly. I managed to breast feed her the first month and a half, (which to me is better than nothing) and now I feed her formula. I still become sad sometimes that I had essentially failed to do it all natural, but I really did try. I don’t feel bad about it, but I feel sad, if that makes any sense. People make breast feeding seem so easy, but it’s not. Is is the best choice as far as nutrition goes? Yes, but should you feel bad if you decide the other rout? No, absolutely not.

Kayla Marie commented on May 02 11 at 9:31 am

when i was taking my baby for here shots her dr. told me i needed to put her on a feeding schedule!! i couldn’t believe it she is not even ten months now and this was way back when it makes no sense to me!! why would you anyone eat when they were not hungry??? you wouldn’t do it to yourself why do it to your baby?!?!? need less to say i didn’t take his advice and i feed her when she is hungry which is usually the same everyday now but does vary on days so why make her wait an hour when she is soo hungry now she screaming like someone is murdering her??!

stacia commented on Nov 07 11 at 10:08 pm

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