I don’t but my husband ALWAYS does!!

My mother’s birthday was last week and I suggested we all go out to dinner. Didn’t even cross my mind that my husband and I couldn’t both go because we have an 8 month old. He ended up staying home and I went to dinner :)

NEVER! But I have had nightmares about it and it makes me shudder.

I never forget my baby. I can understand forgetting they are not old enough to do some things, but forgetting a baby? Isn’t that how kids get cooked in parked cars? Isn’t forgetting a baby the first step toward child neglect? I work my arse off managing a restaurant, a house, auto repairs, a social life, hobbies, writing a novel and look good doing it all. I cannot think of one instance where my 18mo’s safety and happiness is not number one. Am I over indulgent on my boy? My sex life is great, relationships are all healthy, stuff getting done, nobody left out. Is it posh to be vapid? More babies die every year being forgotten in cars and horribly seared, baked and fried, feeling every blistering degree maliciously oxidize their tender innocent incredibly sensitive and helpless infant flesh, in the sun. Or maybe the forgotten baby is simply forgotten and left in a store then abducted and tortured by their cherubic orifices stretched and torn, bleeding horrific fear and pain worse than any an adult can imagine while being brutally raped before their little forgotten baby body is excruciatingly pierced over and over by a cold steel blade or a bullet mercifully pulverizing the brain tissue. Then again the little darling baby might be forgotten on the roof of a vehicle in a car seat, then when the car move the baby slides off and her soft little baby skull is ripped open by hard gravel or concrete and baby bleeds out, screaming and forgotten, wondering why her mommy let her know what horrible agony is, what absolute fear is, and what its like to be forgotten. Is this supposed to be a satire or something? Its not funny.

ALL parents need to be given a break when it comes to dealing with their kids. It’s hard raising kids. NO one has the secret to raising kids perfectly. It’s normal to “forget” to involve one kid who is younger in an activity meant for older kids or vis versa. It happens all the time. It takes parents time to adjust to having two kids when your use to only having one for a long period of time. I DO NOT think in anyway “forgetting’ your child (in thought) is in any way on the road to child neglect. Give parents a brake once in a while and stop judging each other so harshly. Even “little miss perfect mom” messes up sometimes with their kids. the only way “little miss perfect mom” gets away with her mess ups is she’s a freaking great lier about it.

Liz- jeez calm down. My god, you’re creeping people out. She didn’t leave her child anywhere…she just for “mentally ” forgot. ..we all have done it. Just today, i said to my husband that we should go to the waterpark with our 2 year old and how much fun it would be. Then he asked me if i was going to bring our 2 month old..I had completely forgotten to include my newborn in our family activity. If you say you’ve never once “mentally forgotten ” your baby then you’re a liar. Just like Corey said, even the “perfect” moms forget. No ones perfect. We’re not talking about leaving our child on top of a car or outside or unattended here.

I’ve never told anyone this and if my last name were included, I wouldn’t be posting it now either:
I forgot to strap my baby in her car seat once. She was around a year old. Her sister was at school and we were enjoying some time with just us. We had just left the grocery store and were headed for the hardware store in the same shopping plaza. When I put her in her car seat, we played and gooed at each other for a while before I, too got in. When I had parked at the hardware store and went to get her out, I was shocked to see that she wasn’t strapped in! I nearly cried I was so upset with myself. I took some comfort in knowing I had only drove for a total of one minute but, what if I hadn’t? What if I had drove home?!? Now, even a year later, I’m super paranoid about both of my girls’ car seats.

The most tragic of these seem to occur in the Summer, when someone other than the” regular” parent is in charge of daycare drop off. Let’s face it-lots of us are on aut in the am. If baby is sleeping in carseat-someone could very easily drive to work, grab their commuter coffee, and off they go. Tragedy could be avoided if that person would PLACE BABY’S DIAPER BAG IN THE FRONT SEAT.. Something as seeing the bag could very well prevent tragedy,

Ok, seriously, Liz…can I just say, and I know this is a mommy site and I appologize now for saying this if it offends anyone BUT Liz, but HOLY SHIT LADY WHAT’S WRONG WITH YOUR HEAD?! Oh my GOD! You say messed up stuff like that and think your kids are well taken care of?! Jesus woman, what goes through your head?! Your comment honestly nearly made me VOMIT, what is WRONG with you!? Are you psychotic? Are you mentally deficient?! Some shit you don’t say to people and THAT was a whole lot of “you don’t say that shit”, right there. The baby was never left anywhere, she wasn’t brutally raped and killed, dear gods lady! I love my little girl, she’s my entire life, but ya know what? few weeks after she was born, before I had gotten completely used to her being there, yeah, I walked out into the yard to ask my husband something while he was out there and forgot she was asleep in her crib. It happens, my gods, first of all, get off your high horse, second of all, of all the messed up things to say, you found just about all of them, you have no iDEA how appalled I am to hear a MOTHER speak that way, much less to another mother. Good for you, have that cookie and here’s a gold star too, while we’re applauding your god-like mommyness, obviously the rest of us are just asking for our kids to be raped and killed, what were we thinking, we should all take note from you, and while we’re at it, maybe get some therapy and give you the number to a good padded room. How are you allowed in public!?

I have never forgot my children, but as soon as we are in the car, and they are all quiet I ask myself if I forgot them. Or I ask if I forgot to buckle them in, and a time or two I have forgot to buckle them.

Oh, and Liz, get a grip. Maybe some Xanax would be good, too. Just sayin.

Liz, I’m sure that “novel” of yours’ is gonna be awesome with your fantastic way with adjectives. Somebody got an A in creative writing night class!! Be sure and notice the way the sarcasm “oozes from my cold and lifeless keyboard”

Let me guess Liz…. You are a helicopter mom too. Take a deep breath, read the column again. The kid is alright!

Meredith continues to be a breath of fresh air on babble!

Pretty much constantly. I’m in no way irresponsible with my one year old, but I’m with him pretty much every second of the day we’re not sleeping. So when I’m not with him, say they’re having a Daddy day and I go shopping with friends – I have a huge panic and start searching for him. Then probably about 4 minutes of crying hysterically to the sales assistant trying to make him check CCTV. I remember he’s with his Dad!
I’ve even once popped out to the shop just round the corner while Will was fast asleep, thinking my Mum and brother were in the house, and met them in the shop! I’ve never ran so fast in my life! Nothing would of happened to him, but I still have nightmares the house burned down!

Thank you everyone, I’m glad I’m not the only one bothered by Liz’s comment. My God woman..you need help. Sure horrible things happen but that’s not what we’re talking about here. You (Liz) spent more time using your creative writing skills and complimenting yourself than reading the article. I think you missed the whole point.

Awwwww…thanks, Mom! xoxo

I’ve never FORGOTTEN him, per se, but we do have this reoccurring issue in my house (where 3 generations live) that I will put the baby somewhere, and then someone else, (Grandma, Uncle, Grandpa, Auntie,) moves the baby without telling me and then I’m like, “WHERE’S THE BABY???” This happens at least once a day.

i’d like to forget about people like Liz