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Your Baby Doesn’t Look Like You: Take Two
Nearly six months ago, I wrote this post lamenting the fact that no one in the world thought that Tate looked like me. With the combination of postpartum hormones and extreme exhaustion it felt completely heart breaking. I am not too proud to admit I shed a tear or two about it. I can’t explain why it felt so important, I just know that it did.
Many of you commented that you had the very same situation, and for some of you it changed over time and for some it never changed. I was even sent a NY Times article claiming that all babies look more like their dads at birth as an evolutionarily designed sign of paternity, which did make me feel marginally better.
I waited patiently for him to grow and change and show more signs of my genetic content. In the last six months, he has definitely grown and changed. He now has traits that I recognize as my own. Many of his facial expressions resemble mine, including his smile. But when we go out as a family, I am constantly reminded that everyone else sees that he still looks just like Steve. I decided to compare baby photos to prove to myself that he does look like me (even if I am the only one who sees it).
Check out the comparisons:
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10 Comments
Tee commented on Dec 04 11 at 11:55 pmStory of my life! My son had just popped out and everyone was telling me how much he looked like his dad. But it doesn’t bother me, I think they’re both pretty good looking! You’ve got some handsome guys on your hands too :)
Bre commented on Dec 05 11 at 7:42 amYou are not alone! I hate it when people say “o he’s so cute, he looks just like his daddy”. I love my husband and he is an active parent but I’d like some credit for the adorable person I made! I do the baby picture comparison too and get a little to aggressive about it with strangers…
Koreen commented on Dec 05 11 at 8:34 amIt’s much the same for me. I don’t see the resemblance but everyone tells me that my baby looks like a younger version of my husband. It’s a good thing I love my husband else I’d be giving him the stink-eye all the time.
I console myself by reminding myself that he’s my baby, I made him and no one can take that away from me.
Mal commented on Dec 05 11 at 8:57 amFor me the worst was when my mother in-law would go on and on about how my first looked just like her son (my husband). She thrust baby pictures of him at me to show how identical they were. At one point I was certain she wanted to take my baby and claim it as her own.
lo commented on Dec 05 11 at 1:11 pmBoth of my babies are just like their father but I’m proud to say they have my hand and feet :-). And 50% of their DNA but who’s counting :-).
When my son was born my cousin joked on why we had a hard time finding the perfect name, he should have been called Junior as he is exactly like daddy. O well…at least they don’t have my nose
Marie commented on Dec 05 11 at 2:35 pmMy daughter looks very little like me, but she does look like my grandma (who I look very little like) and her dad. I console myself knowing that she’ll look just like me someday, and she makes faces like me so that’s great.
Guajolote commented on Dec 05 11 at 10:56 pmUm this is not a preoccupation interracial couples really get to indulge in. Kid could look like me, or my husband, or some never previously seen combo. But going in I knew baby girl and I were unlikely to look like twins. I’ve been asked by strangers if she’s adopted. I’d recommend you get over it.
Angela commented on Dec 05 11 at 11:48 pmI’m half Chinese and two of my three kids were born with blond hair and blue eyes, just like their dad. Nothing about them appears Asian. My middle one has dark brown hair and eyes and looks very much like me. I often wonder what people think when they see me with my kids. It’s obvious that the middle one is mine but I look like I might be the nanny of the other two!
Nicole commented on Dec 06 11 at 2:06 amRead this article it’s more up to date then the one you were given about babies resembling their fathers. http://www.scientificamerican.com/article.cfm?id=babies-paternal-resemblance
Angelica commented on Dec 06 11 at 2:21 amI’m a relatively dark-skinned half-Mexican who married a very white guy! I was so surprised when my baby was born with fair skin and slightly ginger hair! But my dad was a freckled redhead, so in a way, she takes after me and my side, but I am still so surprised at how little she looks like me and my supposed dominant genes!
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