Babys First Year Blog
Tate’s No-Sleep Schedule
A few days ago, I mentioned that I attempted to tweak Tate’s sleep schedule with disastrous results. If I thought one bad night of sleep was rough, imagine how I am feeling now that we have had three horrific nights in a row.
Tate is sleeping for 3 or 4 hours at the beginning of the night, but spends the rest of the evening waking every hour. Co-sleeping and side lying nursing isn’t good enough, oh no, he only wants to nurse and be held for what feels like the rest of the night. And come 6 AM he is done. He insists I get my lazy bum out of bed and hold him and nurse him somewhere, anywhere, else. Then he proceeds to nurse (are you seeing how much I am feeding him? – I feel like a dairy cow by 10 AM) and catnap for the next several hours. I am currently sitting on the couch, watching reruns of Grey’s Anatomy, with a sleeping baby on my lap.
I was thinking he wasn’t feeling well, which is still possible, but his temperature is normal, he has no signs of a cold or respiratory distress. Is he just sad? Help me out, ladies. Have you ever gone through this with your little ones? Because he is sleeping worse than he did as a newborn and I am toasted.
Get newborn tips at Babble’s Baby Sleep Guide!
Go Back To Babys First Year Blog
20 Comments
SJ commented on Sep 15 11 at 2:37 pmMy little one is doing the same thing, and he’s 6 mos. Sometimes he so graciously wakes me up every 2 hours. I’m just as lost as you!
Eliz commented on Sep 15 11 at 2:42 pmMy five month old has had the same problem, sleep regression is the word of the day around here. 20 minute naps and then up every 3 hours at night, Yuck. He was sleeping from around 7:30 pm to 4:00 am, and then down again until 8:00 am. What happened???
Good luck, its got to get better, right? Right???
Anne commented on Sep 15 11 at 3:00 pmMy 3.5 month old is doing the same thing! She used to sleep for 6-7 hours in the first stretch, wake up to eat, and then sleep for another 3-4. It was heavenly. Now she is up every 1.5 to 2 hours just wanting to be held. I’m so conflicted between the attachment parenting theories and the cry-it-out methods. Neither sounds ideal to me. One day at a time is my motto and I’m just hopeful that she will somehow magically go back to her old ways soon.
Heather commented on Sep 15 11 at 3:09 pmI swear by Baby-Wise, but that doesn’t mean my kids don’t ever regress. My biggest solution has always been to KEEP THEM AWAKE for a whole feeding, don’t allow any snacking. Which means wet washcloths on their feet, etc. I also have found that if I can find a babysitter and get a good nap or something, I can function enough to assess in the middle of the night (which I normally can’t, and just do whatever it takes to stop the crying so I can get a little more sleep) and actually solve the problem so they get what they need and get back on schedule. Good luck! I had a crappy night with Logan last night, (first one since he was born last Monday) and reminded myself that I need to make sure he eats all day and not give into the temptation to let him sleep and finish what I’m doing.
SW commented on Sep 15 11 at 3:13 pmPart of getting baby on a regular routine is shaping his needs to your schedule. And all that means is that you make a feeding/napping schedule. Children of all ages like routine. I did the 3 hour feeding cycle with my kids and didn’t really allow cat naps. Our routine was pretty consistent. Of course now that I’ve said something, it’s going to come back to bite me someday :) My point is you might just need to outline a more structured routine and stick to it. It might be a little rough at first, but be consistent and see what happens.
Emily commented on Sep 15 11 at 3:43 pmI am going through this with my 3 month old now, only he doesn’t even seem to be nursing well (he wants to nurse, but falls asleep at the breast – even with the wet washcloth trick!). I’ve ruled out illness bc we went to the doctor, but it’s rough. We went from 2-3 dayte naps and sleeping 4 hours then waking every 2.5-3 at night to maybe 1 half hour nap a day and waking every 1-2 hrs at night from the first time I put him down. Sigh….
K commented on Sep 15 11 at 3:59 pmBreast milk is designed to make babies sleepy, so I wouldn’t worry about trying to keep him awake. My guess would be a growth spurt. My little one always sleeps particularly well after an exciting afternoon out, maybe try to tire him out?
Heather, I don’t want to criticize, but if you are going to feed your baby that way at least please check with your doctor frequently to make sure the baby is eating enough. Baby Wise has been linked to failure to thrive and low milk supply, and the AAP recommends against it for little babies in particular. Babies’ stomachs are too little to go very long between feedings, and since they have growth spurts, their caloric needs are inconsistent. If you want to ave your baby on a schedule, there are safer ways to do it.
Here is the AAP statement: http://www.ezzo.info/Aney/aneyaap.htm
Katie Abernethy commented on Sep 15 11 at 4:14 pmI second Babywise! I got both of my boys to sleep through the night with this method. It will get better!
Sarah Faye Cohen commented on Sep 15 11 at 4:32 pmI was wondering this on your last post: how old is Tate? Chances are that he is GROWING and when that happens, all bets are off. But once he is through the growth spurt, I still hold to what I said last time: start moving his bedtime in stages. And really, Healthy Sleep Habits is a killer book!
alyson brown commented on Sep 15 11 at 4:35 pmI heard somewhere that babies go through a growth spurt between 3 and 4 months and sometimes this spurt affects their sleep schedules. perhaps you coincidentally tried to adapt Tate’s schedule around the same time as his spurt. just a thought. hang in there lady!
Michelle commented on Sep 15 11 at 4:45 pmSounds like a growth spurt (or maybe he’s about to hit a milestone, like learning to sit up.) The single *best* advice I ever heard was to wait at least 4 days of bad sleeping before you try to change things. Sometimes they just have bad days! (Mine went from sleeping 5 hour stretches to waking every 45 mins around 4 months old. I seriously thought I wasnt going to make it through.)
Taryn commented on Sep 15 11 at 5:37 pmOh tell me about it! The worst! My son started this a few weeks ago (he’s coming up on 5 months old) and I feel more wrecked than I ever did with a newborn. I have no advice, I’m just keeping my fingers crossed that one of these nights will be the night he snaps out of it!
jennifer commented on Sep 15 11 at 11:55 pmwe have had a rough couple of weeks here–just started trying food too. but i hope we found the reason today, as my lil 5 mo old suddenly has 2(!) teeth popping through in the bottom of his mouth! explains the copious amounts of drool too!
Megan commented on Sep 16 11 at 12:26 amOur little man had stopped sleeping too, so Brian and I decided to try the cry out method. It broke my heart to hear him cry that long the first few nights, but now he sleeps every night for 9-11 hours. Beautiful! Good luck friends!
TulipGirl commented on Sep 16 11 at 12:05 pmBoth growth and developmental spurts impact sleep. . . I have friends who found a lot of encouragement and good ideas from “No Cry Sleep Solution” — which was released after my babies were
born. . .
Sara commented on Sep 16 11 at 12:51 pmI feel your pain! My 3.5-month old son is doing the same thing, except he’s not even sleeping 3-4 hours at the beginning of the night. He’s eating every 1-2 hours ALL NIGHT LONG. He doesn’t want to be in his crib – he has to be held.
And I work full-time during the day. Needless to say, I am currently a zombie.
Jess commented on Sep 16 11 at 2:24 pmGeez… I feel like I wrote that. My son is pulling the EXACT same thing. Even wakes at the same time. He’s my second, but Momnesia has apparently set in because I can’t remember if my 4 yr old did the same.. more than likely did. I just wish I could remember what I did or how long it lasted.
Maybe its from teething?
Either way.. good luck. I look forward to reading more about Mr. Tate and his adventures.
traci commented on Sep 17 11 at 11:08 pmMy little guy was the same way. He got up pretty much every 2-3 hours for months wanting to nurse and I was SOOOO tired. I don’t have any great advice, except that I never let my baby cry it out no matter how many people suggested it and now I’m soooo glad I didn’t. At 10 months he decided to wean himself and the same day he had formula for every feeding session, he slept all night and has every night since. I’m not totally sure what to make of that and would never suggest stopping breastfeeding, but IT WILL GET BETTER and I’m so glad I didn’t let my little man cry for hours wanting his mama.
risawest commented on Sep 18 11 at 1:57 pmwe sleep trained my daughter from 7 days old. it worked for us and she slept through the night (8-6 and fed and back down until 8am) at 2ish months… we did go through phases where she would wake up again. sometimes once every night other times several times. i learned that every time this was going on she was probably having a growth spurt and wasn’t getting enough food throughout the day. as i increased her food intake during the day, more milk, solids, larger portions, she went back to sleeping all night again. hope this helps.
Janet commented on Sep 28 11 at 9:53 pmI’d recommend the book The Wonder Weeks and the fantastic archives about sleep regressions on the blog Ask Moxie. Check them out!
Add your take:
Note: Babble is a supportive, diverse community. We encourage a range of opinions,
but any unduly hostile comments will be removed.
Comments are delayed up to 15 minutes







Lauren Jimeson
Lauren Hartmann
Emily Elling
Meredith Carroll
Emily Malone
Molly Thornberg
Selena Burgess
Casey Mullins
Madeline Petersen
The Walt Disney Company supports Babble as a platform dedicated to honest, engaged, informed, intelligent and open conversation about parenting. However, the opinions expressed on this site are those of individual parents/writers and do not reflect the views of Disney. In addition, content provided on this site is for entertainment or informational purposes only and should not be construed as medical advice, diagnosis, treatment, or safety advice.

20