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Does Your Baby Have Boob Preference?

Posted by melissaejordan on August 18th, 2011 at 11:03 pm
right boob love 300x179 Does Your Baby Have Boob Preference?

Arlo's got right boob love.

A week ago I started to notice that Arlo only wanted to nurse on my right breast. Every time I put him on the left he would fuss, fight and refuse to latch but as soon as I switched sides, he’d happily nurse for as long as I let him. At first I thought it was a fluke, but as the days went by he kept up the same routine – refusing the left, happy on the right.

 The only time I can convince him to nurse on my left side now is if I let him nurse on the right, get him good and sleepy and then change sides. I really am not sure what is causing it but it’s becoming obvious that my body is compensating because I’m now starting to get 3 or more ounces over and above what I can pump on my left. So now I have all kinds of questions….Does this mean I’m going to end up with crazy lopsided boobs? Will my milk supply in my left breast dry up if he never nurses on it? And most importantly, what is causing him to do this in the first place?

Anyone else out there have a similar problem? I’m a bit at a loss as to how to fix it!

~Melissa

 Does Your Baby Have Boob Preference?

24 Comments

Yes, you will have lopsided boobs and
Yes, your supply will take a dive if you don’t pump

I went through the same thing with my first and so did my sister.
You need to keep up the stimulation of each breast in order to keep you supply going.

It could just simply be a phase. Also it might be that he prefers the “let down” of the one side verses the other; which was the issue for me. I have one side that has a heavier let down than the other. Or it could also be that might have an ear infection; in which case you could try nursing on the preferred side and then just slide him over into the “football” position with the rejected side.

Hope it all works itself soon.

Ren commented on Aug 18 11 at 11:22 pm

Mine went thru a phase like this. We just had to put up with the fussiness until it passed because I didn’t want my supply affected. Good luck!

Julie commented on Aug 18 11 at 11:44 pm

He did at first as the LC said it was because my one nipple inverted slightly. I did what you are doing, start him on the one side then switch. Now he’s fine on both.

Roni commented on Aug 19 11 at 2:38 am

I noticed this with my daughter right away. She always preferred the right side and 11 months later, she still does. I would just start her on the right and then switch, sometimes switching after I felt the let down and then switching her back to the right side to finish up. Now she will start on the left but it is pretty quick and then she nurses for a long one on the right!

Melanie commented on Aug 19 11 at 7:01 am

Could it have anything to do with his reflux?

Shelby commented on Aug 19 11 at 8:24 am

Yes you will probably become lopsided. It happened to me too. Hopefully he will begin to love both again!

Kim commented on Aug 19 11 at 9:18 am

Lily did the exact same thing, and yes, I totally had the lopsided thing going on :)

Courtney commented on Aug 19 11 at 9:21 am

Yup, my baby did the same thing – she’d actually go through phases of preferring one boob over the other. For awhile, I’d always start her on her least favorite boob so that at least she was hungry then and would empty but if she really started getting cranky I’d switch her over. I also just went back and forth a few times in a session instead of just once. My left boob was my massive overproducer – sometimes I’d get twice as much from that boob as I did from my right, all the way up until the very end. I always was a bit lopsided but it wasn’t ever too obvious.

Oh, I also would do the reverse hold on the boob she didn’t like, to try to trick her into thinking it was the other one. Sometimes that would work well.

Erin commented on Aug 19 11 at 10:22 am

All I can say is that both my children took to my right breast, after a while exclusively (around two months). It is a bore to look lopsided for a while, but you can definitely make enough milk on one side – I’m still breastfeeding my daughter who is almost nine months.
So if you can’t fix it, it’s not necessarily bad news. A small pad (I use a silicone one) in the other bra cup does wonders to hide the, hum, uneven look.
Good luck!

Julie commented on Aug 19 11 at 11:05 am

Ive been nursing on only my left boob for 8 months now. I have to stuff my bra on the right side with TWO chicken cutlets.

Julie- i’m with you sister! its nice to know Im not the only one!!!!

BC commented on Aug 19 11 at 12:02 pm

My daughter totally prefers the left and always has. She is now almost 9 months and still only wants the left boob. And yes I am totally lopsided. and yes my supply is affected. I can pump 4 ounces on the left and sometimes only 1 on the right!! But all in all I guess it doesn’t natter. You are giving arlo a wonderful gift regardless of which side it comes from!!

Katy commented on Aug 19 11 at 1:02 pm

Hi Melissa! I’ve been seeing a chiropractor during my pregnancy and have a good friend who is a chiropractor as well. I’ve heard both of them tell of situations like this where the baby prefered one side, but after an adjustment or two they were back to both sides with no problems. They’ve said baby’s get subluxations like adults do and then compensate to be comfortable. I don’t know if you’ve ever considered chiro care for your children, but we plan to use it in conjunction with traditional pediatrics. Best of luck! :)

Lambeth commented on Aug 19 11 at 1:02 pm

well i don’t know for a fact about the lopsidedness but re: the supply? yes, it will drop if he has a strong preference. i think an easy solution would be nurse him on the left and then pump on the right right after he’s done. that should keep your supply up and i would think prevent you from feeling uncomfortable on one side.

judi commented on Aug 19 11 at 1:40 pm

I second the chiro recommendation. It may be something as simple as a kink in his neck.

Jess commented on Aug 19 11 at 10:35 pm

This is the exact same thing that happened to me. I just went with it since breastfeeding was so difficult for me, I didn’t want an unhappy baby too. I would pump my left at least once a day and she would nurse only on the right side. I have been done nursing now and everything is back to normal!

Shelley J commented on Aug 20 11 at 10:45 am

Yep, my Phoenix preferred the left side and would fuss and fuss when I tried to nurse on the right. And yep…eventually the boobs did get lopsided! I tried to pump to compensate on the side he didn’t like, but it’s true that the babies do a better job of regulating milk supply, so eventually the supply lessened a great deal on my right side too. The good news is, once he weaned my boobs went back to the same size, yay ha!

Lydia Collins commented on Aug 21 11 at 12:57 am

i had that problem with nicholas. he only wanted milk from the left side. for me, i think it was the position. he was so much more comfortable on the left. when i switched him to the right, i would find him squirming around to get comfortable. with that, i had to try different ways to hold him when nursing on the right side so that he was comfortable.

quyen commented on Aug 22 11 at 7:40 pm

My son always preferred my right side, which I called my “super boob” because it never failed to deliver. It got to the point where he would only nurse on the right, and yes, I was lopsided and eventually the left side dried up completely (but I was still able to continue nursing him for 25 months). My now three-month-old daughter, however, seems to prefer my left side, which blows that whole “super boob” theory out of the water.

The best advice I can give is to pump the side he doesn’t like in effort to keep your supply (and cup size) even. Good luck!

verdemama commented on Aug 26 11 at 1:58 am

Hi Melissa,
My little girl went through a phase of doing that aswell. And just when I thought I’d gotten her back on track, she started to refuse the other one! I was doing the same thing as you….feeding off the preferred and then swapping to the other once she was sleepy.
It didn’t last for too long, but I do remember being quite upset and stressed about it (of course that doesn’t help either does it!). Friends also recommended chiropractic adjustment, but I found that she just grew out of it herself.

Gill commented on Aug 26 11 at 7:10 am

Yes, lopsided boobs. Mine seemed to be a response to an over active let down. Both sides shot like a water cannon but the left was worse than the right. Once he was able to easily handle the heavy flow he went back to nursing on both sides.

My little man had terrible reflux the first 5 months but it got a lot better once he adjusted to the heavy let down.

Hang in there :)

Lauren N commented on Aug 26 11 at 12:50 pm

forgive me if this has been said, but a friend of mine is having this issue right now. her little guy refused one side because he wouldn’t get as much from that breast, so it could be that your supply getting lower started before his preference and actually caused it. I also recommend pumping that side after a feeding to get the rest and keep the supply up as well as to avoid a clogged duct (which happened to the aforementioned friend).

Shandell commented on Aug 26 11 at 7:23 pm

So glad I’m not the only one! My four-month-old has always preferred my right side and I had to massage my left side in the beginning to encourage adequate production. The past couple weeks she has done exactly what you describe, fussing and refusing the left side. I wasn’t pumping and actually ended up with mastitis on that side because of her decreased interest (and I had a clogged duct). Check for that. I also think my left is smaller and has a slower let down. Like others have suggested, I start on the left (the least preferred side) when she’s hungry and try to get her to take as much as possible. Then I switch to the right, which she always likes, and then switch back to the left. What has also really helped for me is to nurse in different positions: for example, laying down or getting on your hands and knees and dangling the least-preferred breast above her with your elbows bent on the floor. This has helped me get her to nurse much longer on the least preferred side when she really refuses to nurse for long. I’ve also tried putting a rattle in her hand or giving her something to grab on when she’s nursing on the least preferred. It’s a good distraction. Just keep encouraging that side and hopefully you’ll be back to even or almost equal interest.

Emily commented on Aug 26 11 at 8:23 pm

I have had the same problem with my little girl. And I would echo what other moms have said about lopsided boobs and supply (although I would add that my lopsidedness is only noticeable to me in the shower and I manage to make them look relatively the same size by adjusting my bra straps). One trick I have used to help keep supply up in addition to offering it second (which doesn’t give it the best stimulation–but hey, its something!) is to offer the less preferred boob during night feedings when they are sleepy and less likely to argue and more likely to just be happy to cuddle up to you and are a little more patient. Not to scare you at all because I am sure you and Arlo will work it out, but what could start as a let down preference could turn into a supply preference.

Cara commented on Aug 29 11 at 4:14 pm

My little one did this for a short time, too. It sounds like it is super common! She, like Arlo, didn’t show her preference for the first few months and then out of nowhere decided she only wanted to nurse on the right side. She didn’t keep it up for very long and eventually went back to nursing from both, but my right breast still produces more than my left. We call them “lunch boob” and “snack boob” because of it. I suspect that this would have been the case no matter what and possibly even the cause of her decision as well since it really wasn’t such an extended period of time that she preferred one over the other.
I wish I could be the shining hope and disagree with all the other ladies, but it does leave you lopsided. My biggest concern is if I’m going to stay this way after I stop nursing! I may need to start practicing my lean to the left.

Kelly commented on Aug 31 11 at 1:50 am

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