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Moms Need to Be Taken Care of Too.
As a woman, I am fiercely independent. I am strong. I love working outside the home and building my career. I truly believe–oh “eff” that–I KNOW a woman can do whatever she wants in this world. Even as a child I wondered why anyone would ever think otherwise.
I guess you can call me a feminist even though I rarely describe myself as one. I’m just not the activist type. I simply do what it is I want to do regardless of my gender and or any societal pressure telling me I shouldn’t.
I always have.
All of that being said, I’m also a caregiver. I love that I’m nursing right now. I enjoy being the person responsible for nourishing my family. I cook every meal, make every lunch and tend to all the family’s needs. I also set all the doctor appointments, the dentist, handle school responsibilities and even manage the taxes.
I just take care of things.
It’s who I am.
It’s what I do.
I am Mom.
Moms care for more than just their children. Heck, they don’t even need to have kids of their own to be…
“Mom”
Moms go through their day with a smile, tending to everyone’s needs but their own. They take pleasure out of the little things and helping you makes them happy.
I have no doubt you have many Moms in your life. They are the people that grab an extra coffee for you on their lunch break without asking or bring the donuts for that early morning meeting.
They never mind being asked for help and they say things like,
“Don’t worry, I got it.”
all the time and actually MEAN it.
Please remember that these Moms need to be taken care of too.
They may not ask.
They may not know how to ask.
They may think they don’t want to be asked.
Just don’t wait until they are worn out and bitter to notice.
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15 Comments
Amanda commented on Jun 08 11 at 8:25 amRoni, I *LOVE* this!!!!! So true!!!
Michelle commented on Jun 08 11 at 8:27 amI agree.
Kim Babcock commented on Jun 08 11 at 8:53 amI could have written this this morning! Thanks Roni, for saying whats on all of our minds!!
jen (jeninRL) commented on Jun 08 11 at 9:22 amAWESOME post! I think everyone should read this one!! xox
Svanhvit commented on Jun 08 11 at 9:26 amLove it!! So true, too!!
Healthy Loser Gal / Jan commented on Jun 08 11 at 1:30 pmNo apologies… we are who we are and we’re damn good at it! We can be feminists and cook and clean and console. xo for this great post!
Amanda commented on Jun 08 11 at 1:35 pmThis resonates so much with me. I am that “mom” and came to a point not that long ago where I was hurt, bitter and just exhausted from it all.
Mindy commented on Jun 08 11 at 2:10 pmMy husband tends to be the caretaker, I will make sure I show my appreciation and do something nice to take care of him every day, too!
becky commented on Jun 08 11 at 4:35 pmgreat post! Love the picture of you and the boys, very sweet!!
Lesley commented on Jun 08 11 at 10:51 pmWonderful post! You are so right, and it touches a special place in my heart that you acknowledge that there are moms who don’t necessarily have children of their own. Some of us just mother (verb) because it’s who we are no matter what stage of life we’re in.
And that is such a great photo of you and your boys!
Melissa commented on Jun 09 11 at 12:21 amThanks Roni! Beautiful post from a beautiful, inside and out, mom! I am thoroughly enjoying all of your blogs! You are inspiring. Thank you so much for all that you share with us. :)
Patty commented on Jun 09 11 at 1:28 amAmen to that. You nailed it,
Linda commented on Jun 09 11 at 8:35 amI agree with all of this. EXCEPT…we MUST ask. Or learn how and when to ask. We get so caught up in all of this because we are so busy. However, there is a very fine line between it being OK and being bitter/exhausted. 35 years of marriage, 2 kids, 4 grandchildren later, I know I should have learned this long before I did. We had food in the house, clean clothes, meals on the table, housework was OK, kids were OK. But I wasn’t. I expected my husband to know when I was “drowning” and without throwing up some sort of flag, how was he to know? It wasn’t until I crashed big time that we sat down and talked about it. How I felt, how he felt, what I needed and expected, etc. You HAVE to communicate your needs because it isn’t fair to have expectations of someone unless you tell them.
Maria @ my waist loss journey commented on Jun 09 11 at 9:57 amRoni I am “the doer” too…just don’t let it get old, if you know what I mean…
don’t get me wrong, my husband is not a slacker by any means but sometimes he can take advantage of the situation and run with it…you have two small children, take all the help you can get (from someone who has “been there, dun that”.. Personally, I pretty much think you are amazing!!!
Linda @ Lemons commented on Jun 09 11 at 11:52 amMy “kids” are now 21 and 19, and this post applies to me just as much now as when they were toddlers. Thank you!
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