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Sister Wives and Polygamy: I Could Get Used To It
I’m a bit overwhelmed right now. I’ve just had my second child and the two-year-old has suddenly realized the great power she can wield with a tantrum.
What is it with toddlers that they instinctively know the sack-of-potatoes maneuver thwarts most attempts to move them?
Are there secret toddler meetings I don’t know about? When we aren’t looking at the park are they flashing signs and exchanging information?
Every day is chaos.
So when I watch something like Sister Wives (the second season premiered on TLC tonight) I get a little jealous.
You’ve got four (1 2 3 4!) moms wrangling kids. One mom likes to cook dinner, the other has an outside job, another one watches the kids. I mean, isn’t that the dream? Someone’s always there to hold the baby, change the baby, feed the baby and hey! Could you burp the baby too? ‘Preciate ya!
Not only that, but no faking headaches any longer! When your fella tries to get frisky with you just send him down the hallway to another sister’s bedroom!
I’m not really seeing the downside to sister wives or polygamy. And who better to understand when your husband pisses you off than another woman who is dealing with the same crap? Don’t you hate how he never puts his socks in the hamper? I know! And the snoring, my god the snoring!
I’m not seeing the downside.
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19 Comments
Lake Effect commented on Mar 14 11 at 12:43 amBigamy is a third-degree felony in Utah. Under the law, a person can be found guilty of bigamy through cohabitation, not just legal marriage contracts.
So they moved to Nevada. Kody you are not a law abiding citizen…you are in a cult and need to be detoxed and need to stop cheating on your “one” wife!
Lizzybluts commented on Mar 14 11 at 12:47 amI don’t understand why people are upset with this show. If it offends you, don’t watch. I think their lifestyle and family dynamic is interesting. They appear to be a very loving family. They aren’t hurting anyone. It took courage to let people in on their secret. I wish them good luck.
Becky Jones commented on Mar 14 11 at 1:35 amI think you all are a wonderful family, Just because your polgamist don’t mean people should hate you or your ways. I think that if your happy with how things are I wouldn’t change a thing. I watched your show Sunday, Cody said something about moving, i wouldn’t, thats just giving in and letting other who don’t understand win. It don’t matter how many wives or hubbys you have as long as your happy and love each other. Please don’t let the hate of other destroy what love you all have for each other. And if you all do deside to move well Georgia is a great state!!!! Hope everything works out and god bless you all. Becky Jones
Bonnie Howell commented on Mar 14 11 at 1:45 amI am so happy you came out I wish its was not so bad for your family .. I hope the best the family .
My heart and prays go out to and the family
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kesha commented on Mar 14 11 at 2:29 amI agree with this article… But I’d want more husbands too. Why should the man get all the benefits?! Only a dumb person wouldn’t see the hypocrisy that a man imposes when it’s just about them. And I know they’re Mormon but let’s be real, this has absolutely nothing to do with God. The concept is clear though, a helping hand is awesome. I should know.. I have 5 children!
anon commented on Mar 14 11 at 7:08 amI suggest then that you honestly propose to your husband that you do it. Remember, you can’t scr*w around on the side but he can have as many females as he wants. Since he will begin to bond with another woman or women both chemically and emotionally your sex and love life will probably suffer, even when you are in the mood. He might completely lose interest in you as well and fall in love with someone else (falling in love is partially chemical, it’s bound to happen somewhat no matter what if he has a repeat cheat to go to), and you may become obligation to him. Nothing like that to make a girl feel special. But it’s okay, you can always cry until he Tells you otherwise and then feel better from your false sense of control over the situation. Prepare to lose the intimacy that you have as partners. Prepare to be without a partner in a lonely world and accept that your life will now be one of duty full time. Get a dog or prepare to have your real relationship with one of your sister wives. Ignoring your feelings in the name of stoicism may cause health problems as those unacknowledged feelings possibly manifest physically so get a good doctor if you can get health insurance now. Think of your future as one where you share a joint bank account with your husband. You put all of your savings (time and energy) into that account while he just freely gives it away, leaving you completely broke at times, with no return on your investment. Common sense tells you there that you may be better on your own with a casual hookup or open relationship that goes both ways, nanny, maid and core of close girlfriends like an actual and not psuedo feminist would do. Maybe just start out by proposing that you begin an open relationship for him and him only. Honestly, please do it and then get back to us.
karen commented on Mar 14 11 at 7:49 amI watched the show last night they seem like a loving family who cares if they choose to live like that to each there own.I’m happy for them Idont know why people are so quick to talk crap about what there doing it’s 2011 things are a lot different now then they use to be if there happy thats all that matters its there life.why dont people worry about the major problems that we have in this world and leave these poor people alone to live there life big deal he has 4 wifes theres a lot worse things going on in the world.Isay do what makes you happy in life -life is to short .so all the power to you browns Ithink your great.
judy commented on Mar 14 11 at 8:04 amyour husband is having unprotected sex with 3 other women. does that not bother you?
Abby commented on Mar 14 11 at 8:16 amPeople! Relax! She is joking! I only have one baby and I feel like this. I keep begging my mother to retire early and move in with us. (I wish I was joking, that is true.) With another on the way sooner than we expected I chuckled. Yeah, this does seem like a reasonable solution (even when it is not).
Sarah commented on Mar 14 11 at 8:37 amWowza. These comments are even funnier than the original post.
MonicaBielanko commented on Mar 14 11 at 8:55 amThese comments are totally awesome. Also, I like to do it with women too. Is it wrong to sleep with my sister wives?
Judy Perri commented on Mar 14 11 at 9:43 amI don’t understand peoples problem with this family.They all seem happy , their children well-adjusted. They just live different life-style.It’s not like he’s marrying 12 year-olds. They are all consenting adults.Just leave them be!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Jessica commented on Mar 14 11 at 10:01 amI told my husband during one of the commercials for the show that we need a couple of sister wives around here! lol With a 7 week old and a 3 1/2 year old, I totally get where you are coming from with this post! :)
Paige commented on Mar 14 11 at 10:34 amOh my, everybody is so quick to judge in todays world where reality TV is the norm, don’t take everything so personally. Let them live there lives how they choose. They are not hurting anyone, they seem to be a very loving and attentive family. It is really sad that it is ok if Cody Married Mary had a child, divorce Mary, then Marry 2nd Wife have childeren, divorce her then Marry 3rd wife have children then divorce her and Marry 4th wife have children etc…Unfortunately this is exceptable. WHYYYY, why can’t he remain with all wifes and children in one home and not split up the family dynamic.
Debra Parkins commented on Mar 14 11 at 11:04 amI am in full and complete agreement with you over this. I am so envious of the sister wives situation. What alot of people seem to miss is that Kody isn’t the main player. It’s the sister wives. They are what keep this family together. Truthfully, I am quite alright with this lifestyle. Its not a polygamy where a child was promised to someone at 14 but rather grown women making these choices to enter into a shared lifestyle. Their children are mentally healthy and seem to have great self esteem and the women have each others backs all the time. I think its awesome and like you, I’m not seeing a downside to this lifestyle. Sending him down the hall to another woman would suit now and then without a doubt. ha ha ha
Di commented on Mar 15 11 at 3:20 am“Also, I like to do it with women too. Is it wrong to sleep with my sister wives?”
I remember in one of their interviews, them saying something like, “We all sleep with Kody but not with each other. We don’t do anything weird like that.” Best quote of the whole show.
And seriously, where do these commenters come from? Do you ship them in from crazypants land?
Sanjiv commented on Mar 15 11 at 3:25 amIf you’re interested in polygamy then check this out:
http://www.facebook.com/pages/Secrets-Wives-The-Hidden-World-of-Mormon-Polygamy/116325335058396
An investigation of Mormon fundamentalism as it is lived to day in Utah.
Hanni commented on Mar 15 11 at 12:47 pmOMFG…seriously? These comments are awesome…
AliGail commented on Jun 07 11 at 3:17 pmAs a 22 year old student of religion and a pro-polygamist myself, I agree. I am a Muslim convert of three years, and I am currently trying to convince my Christian fiance and agnostic best friend of six years to also date. What better way to guarantee a life long relationship with both of them? I have also seen the way he makes me feel and know that my best friend is wanting that kind of healing love. How can I be selfish and keep that from her?
First of all, I want to assure people that loving two people at once is possible. Love is not some magic spell that Cupid casts on us. It comes from effort, sacrifice, and making good memories. It is a gift from God(SWT) for working hard to show people that you are concerned about them and wanting to make them feel special.
Polygamy is illegal because when the Mormon Church was founded, it encouraged polygamy, but some men married ridiculous amounts of women, causing some very bad situations among some of the wives and their families. In Islam, a man is allowed to marry up to 4 wives, but only if he can love all of them and support them financially completely equally. There is also support for polygamy in the Bible. For example, Abraham (Sarah and Hagar [Genesis 16:3]), David (2 Samuel 5:13; 1 Chronicles 3:1-9, 14:3), Solomon(1 Kings 11:1-5 [notice, the broken commandment here is intermarrying with other nations, not marrying 1,000 women]),and Solomon’s son Rehoboam (2 Chronicles 11:21) were all polygamists.
Also, if the Old Testament supports polygamy, Jesus must also. In Matthew 5:17-18,17 “Do not think that I have come to abolish the Law or the Prophets; I have not come to abolish them but to fulfill them. 18 For truly I tell you, until heaven and earth disappear, not the smallest letter, not the least stroke of a pen, will by any means disappear from the Law until everything is accomplished.” So basically, you should still follow all of the Laws of the Old Testament.
When it comes down to it, we should allow people to live any lifestyle they choose as long it is not hurting anyone. We have no right to tell someone who they can love. It doesn’t matter whether they are gay, straight, polygamist, polyandrous, or purple.
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